MIL who won't listen

[Anonymous]

For those focusing on the gift and the OP's reaction to it, I don't see the issue about the gift, but about MIL running over OP and what that behavior means in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who like to take control do not listen when they hear what they do not like. You really need to nip this in the bud or it will take over at some point. I am not a person who likes direct confrontation but I prefer it over the alternative.

Simply write her a nice note that says " Thank you for thinking of us with your generous shower gift. We however continue to believe that a diaper service is not something that will work for our family. As such we simply can not accept your gift. Enclosed is the certificate. I hope that you don't take this the wrong way, we just need to set things up how they best work for our family."

When / if she calls just repeat (and repeat).

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yea, get used to it.
Sometimes grandparents feel that they are above certain norms of protocol for their grandchildren.
You can whine all day long that you "said no nicely but she didn't listen" but she won't care. You'll be in for many years of being frustrated.
Maybe get dh to talk to her but that still won't work.
Just learn to appreciate her good intentions. Take the diaper service.

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Should be "some grandparents..."