Parents RSVPing with multiple siblings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never add a sibling to my acceptance unless the party invite says so. Other people adding siblings isn't a sign that you can just go ahead and do it!

OP here. Exactly! We received 3 party invitations this week. 2 parties invited both siblings. Host was clear both of the kids were invited. 3rd invitation was an evite to my older child. I have said 2 words to the parents. I wouldn't ask nor would I RSVP for my younger child for that party even though I see many other families RSVPing for multiple kids. It's just manners!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never add a sibling to my acceptance unless the party invite says so. Other people adding siblings isn't a sign that you can just go ahead and do it!

+1 million

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just send another email through Evite with a clarification. Plenty of PPs have given good examples of what to write.

I actually would not mind siblings as long as I don't go over my 24. I thought about it and it's fine if I have to spend another ~150. Lesson learned.

I have 2 children and appreciate when I can bring both kids. Problem is everyone has 1-2 siblings. I cannot accommodate all of them. I invited 18 kids plus my 2 kids for a total of 20. Right now I have 18 kids and half the kids did not yet RSVP. If the remaining ~10 kids RSVP yes, I will be 4 over. If the remaining 10 kids all bring a sibling, I will be 14 over. I am sure not everyone will RSVP yes so hopefully I don't have to have the awkward conversation with too many people.

It might be easier just to say no siblings to all, rather than 4 siblings are ok but the rest are not (might cause some confusion on the day of the party, why did that sibling get to stay when my kid did not). Also keeps all guests in the range of 6-8.

[Anonymous]

At this point, I think it's tacky to limit siblings. Evite has a way to fix it so only one child can respond for the future.

[Anonymous]

I don't think its right to allow some sibs and not others (not counting family friends where birthday kid is friends with the whole family.)

I would be annoyed if you said no sibs, I complied, but when I dropped off you were allowing sibs.

[Anonymous]

You decline the party or try to find carpooling but you never bring siblings. I don't understand how people think this is okay. It's not fair to the birthday child either. The sibling isn't their friend. My son just invited 10 of his friends to a small venue party. No one RSVP'd for a sibling. He barely wanted his own younger brother there. We have a separate family party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At this point, I think it's tacky to limit siblings. Evite has a way to fix it so only one child can respond for the future.

By age 7-8, these parents really should know better. Don't they realize venues have limits and/or the host may not want to pay extra for all their extra children? It's drop off ages!!!!

[Anonymous]

I had this issue and I stopped inviting families with multiple siblings! I have two close friends I invite who have two kids each, but this is it! I put up with their younger kids.
Even in the park I get tired of little whimpy sibs who make it impossible to properly socialize with their parents. Ugh!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: like the idea of emailing and saying "not sure I can take siblings since the party rooms has a limit of 20- I'll let you know as soon the rvps are in (would really love to have XXsibling celebrate with us). If we can't squeeze in xxsibling, you can just can drop off XX"

OP here. I just spoke to the venue. Our party is for 20 kids. We can add an extra 4 kids for a cost for an absolute max of 24. It looks like we will get to that absolute max. Once we hit that number, I will reach out to parents individually and say we hit our max headcount and parents are welcome to drop off.

I wouldn't accommodate any. "Due to limitations at the venue, I am unable to accept siblings. You are welcome to drop off XXX." It's going to get even more awkward if a few get to bring siblings and the others don't.

Next year, make sure it's very clear that it is a drop off, invitee only party.

[Anonymous]

For the parent RSVPs I know some people who RSVP for parents by accident -- Evite defaults to 1 adult -- and others who RSVP just to let the host know they will be there to supervise.

I have never met an adult at a party at a venue like that that expected to be entertained. They just stand on the sidelines and make sure their kid is not crying.

[Anonymous]

I would just pay for the additional siblings. I think it's just rude at this point.

[Anonymous]

You need to make sure you don't give them the option to add anyone.

When we did our evites for DS's bday we did this. This way there is no confusion. If you leave the option open people will assume it is a family party.

Part of this is on you OP. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At this point, I think it's tacky to limit siblings. Evite has a way to fix it so only one child can respond for the future.

By age 7-8, these parents really should know better. Don't they realize venues have limits and/or the host may not want to pay extra for all their extra children? It's drop off ages!!!!

I think you still need to explicitly say "no siblings." Otherwise people will still bring siblings AND you don't get a heads up beforehand!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sent out my first evite to a mix of classmates, neighbors and family friends. I made sure children's names were listed. Family friends RSVPd with entire family - 2 adults 2 kids. Now multiple classmates are RSVPing with 2-3 kids.

I am going to go over my headcount of 20. I can probably pay $30 per sibling for a few but I prefer not. This ia drop off optional. These parents are bringing older kids and younger kids.

What can I do? Just take it as a learning lesson?

In the past, I did paper invitations and parents would ask about siblings.

Just try to be understanding. For single parents, or those whose spouse can't watch the other kid, it's very nice when parents allow siblings. Parents should be reasonable and expect that some will ask about siblings. If you can acommodate, it's wonderful.

I totally agree. DH often travels for work and I often have to find a babysitter to watch the sibling that is not invited. If I can't find a babysitter, I usually tell the child that's invited to the party that she can't go which is usually very disappointing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sent out my first evite to a mix of classmates, neighbors and family friends. I made sure children's names were listed. Family friends RSVPd with entire family - 2 adults 2 kids. Now multiple classmates are RSVPing with 2-3 kids.

I am going to go over my headcount of 20. I can probably pay $30 per sibling for a few but I prefer not. This ia drop off optional. These parents are bringing older kids and younger kids.

What can I do? Just take it as a learning lesson?

In the past, I did paper invitations and parents would ask about siblings.

Just try to be understanding. For single parents, or those whose spouse can't watch the other kid, it's very nice when parents allow siblings. Parents should be reasonable and expect that some will ask about siblings. If you can acommodate, it's wonderful.

I totally agree. DH often travels for work and I often have to find a babysitter to watch the sibling that is not invited. If I can't find a babysitter, I usually tell the child that's invited to the party that she can't go which is usually very disappointing.

This is a drop off party. You don't need to get a babysitter. You can just drop off the invited child.