When To Tell Work I'm Expecting (Male)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We're currently about 18 weeks pregnant.

Op

I think people were referring to this comment. Personally, I think it is great you want to bond with your baby and help your wife! But, as others have stated "you are not pregnant"

Ah touché! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Is this one poster that anti paternity leave? I don't know any dads who didn't take off time when their babies were born.

[Anonymous]

What in the world is wrong with the poster that keeps bashing this DH?

It's great that he can take leave!

OP - I supervise a man who took several weeks off upon the birth of his child. His work required some advance planning, so he informed me six months in advance.

That leave turned out to be necessary, since the baby was born with some special needs and there was no way the wife could have handled it all herself and gotten any sleep at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men take off work for this??

Please don't procreate.

My husband didn't get FMLA or any time off. He was back to work the next day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men take off work for this??

Please don't procreate.

My husband didn't get FMLA or any time off. He was back to work the next day.

Why not? You can use FMLA to take care of your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men take off work for this??

Please don't procreate.

My husband didn't get FMLA or any time off. He was back to work the next day.

That must have sucked. Sorry he wasn't able or willing to help take care of his family.

[Anonymous]

Congrats!!! If your wife has already told her work, I think you're in the clear to share whenever you want.

Consider saving at least one of your weeks for when your wife goes back to work to ease the transition to daycare. Yay babies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men take off work for this??

Please don't procreate.

My husband didn't get FMLA or any time off. He was back to work the next day.

That must have sucked. Sorry he wasn't able or willing to help take care of his family.

This is not some badge of honor and if you have been indoctrinated enough by our corporate culture to feel that it is some accomplishment then I feel sorry for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this one poster that anti paternity leave? I don't know any dads who didn't take off time when their babies were born.

I'm not anti paternity leave, but I know very few guys who use it. I would be willing to bet that statistics would show that far less than fifty percent of men use it for more than a few days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why men do this.

Because (like for their wives), it is one of the momentous occasions in their lives? Because focusing entirely on family for a couple of weeks can lower overall stress to the family and allow bonding? Because in the end, his kids are more important than his job of anything else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why men do this.

Because (like for their wives), it is one of the momentous occasions in their lives? Because focusing entirely on family for a couple of weeks can lower overall stress to the family and allow bonding? Because in the end, his kids are more important than his job of anything else?

Not pp but, I also find it odd. A week is cool but anything more is not really about the bonding experience but rather an excuse to laze around the house. I just don't believe that men have the same biological need to bond with newborns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why men do this.

Because (like for their wives), it is one of the momentous occasions in their lives? Because focusing entirely on family for a couple of weeks can lower overall stress to the family and allow bonding? Because in the end, his kids are more important than his job of anything else?

Not pp but, I also find it odd. A week is cool but anything more is not really about the bonding experience but rather an excuse to laze around the house. I just don't believe that men have the same biological need to bond with newborns.

holy shit i can't believe you guys! paternity leave is to actually help with the work of having a newborn. all the men i know take at least 2 weeks off. some take several months off after the mom goes back to work so they can keep the baby home longer before daycare. i am pretty sure it would be actively frowned upon in the places i have worked for the dad NOT to take off at least 2 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why men do this.

Because (like for their wives), it is one of the momentous occasions in their lives? Because focusing entirely on family for a couple of weeks can lower overall stress to the family and allow bonding? Because in the end, his kids are more important than his job of anything else?

Not pp but, I also find it odd. A week is cool but anything more is not really about the bonding experience but rather an excuse to laze around the house. I just don't believe that men have the same biological need to bond with newborns.

you're projected. decent MEN don't laze around the house - they share the work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You aren't expecting. Your wife is!

Of course he is "expecting". He is expecting that he will become a father. He is not pregnant, of course, as that is a physical state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And certainly would never expect to take 3 weeks off..... thats ridiculous.

Our firm gives men 6 weeks. They take it throughout the first year.