How Do You Do It?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is your husband handling things? Is he helping when he's around and is he acting put upon? I'm asking bc I'm in a similar situation, but we are both off work (he'll be going back soon bc paternity leave is short). He is helping, but the whining is killing me. It actually adds to my stress level a lot that I don't think he's being the team player I need, but I am just glad to have someone chasing the toddler most of the time. Ugh, please tell me my marriage will go back to normal at some point. The infant/toddler times are feeling endless in that regard. And yes, I am communicating with him about all of my feelings, needs, etc. Part of the problem is that he is now having to sleep with the toddler, who we cannot seem to get into the crib at night. I guess I am going to have to take drastic measures on that front. It has just felt too tough to tackle at the end of pregnancy and now with a new born. Ok, sorry about all the rambling. OP-I totally empathize and PPs, thanks for your pep talks. I know it will be fine eventually!

Op here, my husband is great when he is here. He works, coaches and is installing ceiling fans in all the bedrooms right now. He definetly will sit around and do nothing if I don't remind him there is stuff to do but when he sees me doing laundry, putting it away, vacuuming, cleaning the kitchen, dishwasher, etc he jumps up to help. And he is a gem with the kids. I am working on him though with the toddler who whines alot, DH has taken to telling him to "shut up already" in a nice tone but it makes me crazy.

And ha! My 2 year old is in a bed but my DH is also sleeping with him at some point during the night. Our sleeping arrangements are all screwed up right now. I feed so much I am basically on the sofa all night or in the spare room. Toddler is in his bed but if he wakes up DH crawls into bed with him. I can't wait to get back to normal.

SO I am sorry PP, guess we are kind of in the same boat. I have to say I trap my toddler in the highchair alot with crayons, snacks, activites. It is all I can do to keep me sane until I am ok to get out of the house.