Would you force your child to invite a kid he didn't want to invite to his birthday party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. I always have let my kids make their own guest lists.

Based on what you said there is absolutely NO reason your son should invite this particular kid. If YOU like the mom, then invite her to YOUR birthday party. Not his.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is in 1st grade. There is a kid in his class whose mom is very active at school. DS does not like the other child and does not play with him. I see the mom around often and friendly with her. I thought DS should include the child. I don't think it is relevant but I suspect child may be on the spectrum but high functioning.

Would you force your child to invite this child?

DS is inviting about 5 kids from his 1st grade class and 3 kids from the other 1st grade so a total of 8 kids out of 50 kids. Also inviting a handful of family friends and a neighbor.

No. I would not force him to invite this child - you can foster a relationship (if that is what you want) on other occasions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is in 1st grade. There is a kid in his class whose mom is very active at school. DS does not like the other child and does not play with him. I see the mom around often and friendly with her. I thought DS should include the child. I don't think it is relevant but I suspect child may be on the spectrum but high functioning.

Would you force your child to invite this child?

DS is inviting about 5 kids from his 1st grade class and 3 kids from the other 1st grade so a total of 8 kids out of 50 kids. Also inviting a handful of family friends and a neighbor.

No way, given what you say.

If you want to spend time with the mom, why not grab coffee some day?

[Anonymous]

NO, I would not invite the child. I would have a very small party so that there is no chance of hurt feelings. Your child should not be forced to invite anyone.

[Anonymous]

Not force, no. Encourage, sure. But my kid is easy and likes everyone so I know he'd say yes even to the class bullies and mean kids.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the minority, but I'd invite. If its on your mind, invite them. I invited a few people to DD's party that she didn't even know, because I'm cool with their moms. I'm paying for it. A couple years ago, we were overseas and the only foreigners in class. I really appreciate the few parents who went out of their way to include DD even though she wasn't friends with their kids. If you've thought enough about this that you've started a topic, you should probably invite.

[Anonymous]

I like your answer PP.