How to handle in-laws who ignore me

[Anonymous]

Bring a book and/ or iPad.

Go for long walks, you know, because the doctor just told you that you needed to exercise more.....and spend time " meditating" in a room all alone.

Do you have a car? Can you claim there are some stores that you love that you have to try?


Oh naps. Do not forget naps.


Man, three days is a lot. Good luck!,,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bull. You confront her in front of the whole family! This is what I did in a similar situation and, believe me, all of their crap ceased immediately.

I would like to know what you said exactly.

[Anonymous]

DH'a family is like this (think MIL not speaking to me in my own house for five hours after I handed her her granddaughter and tried to give her a hug or leaving every room as soon as I enter it). It didn't help when DH said anything to MIL about the nasty comments; they just got worse and more cleverly hidden. But once I convinced him the situation was not okay, I got free reign to respond as I wanted (I chose always polite but pushing back on petty complaints with a relentlessly positive attitude) and also read books, went on walks, ran errands, caught up on sleep, and made plans with friends. Once I felt like DH was on my side and I had some control, it was better. I even started to love the snide comments and eye rolls behind my back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh OP I could have written this. Same thing here. I think my last visit the only "family member" who acknowledged me the entire visit was their dog, who I happen to love more than anyone else in my husband's family. SIL always brings friend. I don't think anyone even said hi to me. The jokes on them though, cause I'm pregnant and were hiding it until the first trimester is over. After the baby is born, all of our future holidays will be at our house no exceptions and I could care less if they choose to be involved. No advice really, except grin and bear it. I did drink to pass the time before pregnancy staying nice and toasted makes them easier to be around! Ill probably need to utlilize walks this holiday season to get away! Good luck!

You sound like a peach. I can't imagine why they wouldn't want to be around you.

You do sound like a peach and I'd like to hang out with you! Congrats on your pregnancy and don't puke in the potatoes. The namecaller is most likely a MIL who is not invited to her DIL's house for Thanksgiving because she spent the years before baby being a total raging witch! Ahem.

Enjoy your secret, snuggle the dog, and do a lot of gazing out the window.

[Anonymous]

I am a peach, thanks so much for noticing! I was worried my special light wouldn't shine through on an anonymous board! You have no idea just how detrimental these people are to my husband which is why HE not me, has made the holiday rule moving forward. and my response was directed to OP who I'm sure understands exactly why people would need to set that sort of limit for certain family members. Happy thanksgiving PP. Back off. Direct your judgement somewhere else.

You are the gift who just keeps giving.

Why are you picking on this PP, who seems to have perfectly valid reasons for wanting to avoid her in laws? Also, what sort of person makes a comment like "You sound like a peach"?

1+. Jeez peach lady, what is your beef. Are the PPs foiling your own plans to ruin your SIL's holidays with passive aggressive or just plain aggressive behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am a peach, thanks so much for noticing! I was worried my special light wouldn't shine through on an anonymous board! You have no idea just how detrimental these people are to my husband which is why HE not me, has made the holiday rule moving forward. and my response was directed to OP who I'm sure understands exactly why people would need to set that sort of limit for certain family members. Happy thanksgiving PP. Back off. Direct your judgement somewhere else.

You are the gift who just keeps giving.

Why are you picking on this PP, who seems to have perfectly valid reasons for wanting to avoid her in laws? Also, what sort of person makes a comment like "You sound like a peach"?

1+. Jeez peach lady, what is your beef. Are the PPs foiling your own plans to ruin your SIL's holidays with passive aggressive or just plain aggressive behavior?

NP. I actually agree with the "peach PP." For the other OP to say "all holidays will be at my house because I have a baby, no exceptions, and we don't care what you think" is really selfish and rude. Thank goodness some of us who have small children don't feel like we are entitled to "run the show" all the time, regardless of other people's feelings.

[Anonymous]

Kill with kindness and act as though this doesn't bother you at all. Download a few books on your kindle and enjoy the peace and uninterrupted time. Happy Thanksgiving, OP!

[Anonymous]

Sounds similar to my SIL. I read, and do my best to pretend she isn't there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am a peach, thanks so much for noticing! I was worried my special light wouldn't shine through on an anonymous board! You have no idea just how detrimental these people are to my husband which is why HE not me, has made the holiday rule moving forward. and my response was directed to OP who I'm sure understands exactly why people would need to set that sort of limit for certain family members. Happy thanksgiving PP. Back off. Direct your judgement somewhere else.

You are the gift who just keeps giving.

Why are you picking on this PP, who seems to have perfectly valid reasons for wanting to avoid her in laws? Also, what sort of person makes a comment like "You sound like a peach"?

1+. Jeez peach lady, what is your beef. Are the PPs foiling your own plans to ruin your SIL's holidays with passive aggressive or just plain aggressive behavior?

NP. I actually agree with the "peach PP." For the other OP to say "all holidays will be at my house because I have a baby, no exceptions, and we don't care what you think" is really selfish and rude. Thank goodness some of us who have small children don't feel like we are entitled to "run the show" all the time, regardless of other people's feelings.

Team "Peach PP" can fuck on back to Georgia and eat all the peaches they want. Since fruit isn't usually known for the noise it makes, I never really understood what a "real peach" actually sounds like, anyway....

I'd love to buy "other OP" a drink after the baby is born. Franky if people my in-laws flipped a middle finger to me like that, then I would have no problem with telling them if they wish to see me, they can make the effort to get here. Too many bitter martyrs here projecting their misery.

[Anonymous]

I take a Klonopin and get out my knitting project

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am a peach, thanks so much for noticing! I was worried my special light wouldn't shine through on an anonymous board! You have no idea just how detrimental these people are to my husband which is why HE not me, has made the holiday rule moving forward. and my response was directed to OP who I'm sure understands exactly why people would need to set that sort of limit for certain family members. Happy thanksgiving PP. Back off. Direct your judgement somewhere else.

You are the gift who just keeps giving.

Why are you picking on this PP, who seems to have perfectly valid reasons for wanting to avoid her in laws? Also, what sort of person makes a comment like "You sound like a peach"?

1+. Jeez peach lady, what is your beef. Are the PPs foiling your own plans to ruin your SIL's holidays with passive aggressive or just plain aggressive behavior?

NP. I actually agree with the "peach PP." For the other OP to say "all holidays will be at my house because I have a baby, no exceptions, and we don't care what you think" is really selfish and rude. Thank goodness some of us who have small children don't feel like we are entitled to "run the show" all the time, regardless of other people's feelings.

Team "Peach PP" can fuck on back to Georgia and eat all the peaches they want. Since fruit isn't usually known for the noise it makes, I never really understood what a "real peach" actually sounds like, anyway....

I'd love to buy "other OP" a drink after the baby is born. Franky if people my in-laws flipped a middle finger to me like that, then I would have no problem with telling them if they wish to see me, they can make the effort to get here. Too many bitter martyrs here projecting their misery.

...Happy Thanksgiving!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I take a Klonopin and get out my knitting project

Sounds like a good plan! Want to share some Konopin?