Would you have sex with your spouse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe if he dropped 30 pounds.

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I'm sure this goes both ways.

I love sex with my spouse. Are bodies have changed with life challenges, aging, circumstances, and we keep having sex. Sex keep us feeling close. So many on here seem to run when a problem comes up. We are in for the long haul. We have been married 20+ years.

Maybe I am old but we don't bail when a conflict comes up. We are lucky we have had great commication and empathy. It takes work. It is worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this isn't too explicit. My DH sometimes will pop,out during PIV right at the moment I am having an orgasm. We are in our mid 40s, and he is having to adjust to not being as hard and lasting as long, while I am like a new woman. I lost about 20 pounds, and I wear sexy clothes with no bra around the house. I initiate by cuddling up to him while we watch TV on the sofa, and I unzip his past and give him a BJ. And no I am not a troll.

What does this have to do with the topic? Troll.

My DH's techniques need to improve as we have aged and changed. If he was better at sex I would have sex more often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My answer would be no.

My husband isnt great in bed, doesnt help out with household chores, doesnt compliment me or show affection in other ways, but I still want to have sex with him because I have a high sex drive. And he's attractive, to me.

Sounds like a winner.

[Anonymous]

No, that's not a factor at this point. We've been married 10 years and I don't need/want him to be better than he already is. I was very satisfied when we got married and I still am today. The frequency of sex has more to do with life (work, stress, kids) than anything else.

[Anonymous]

Yep. Every single time has become a "quickie." Unless I'm raging horny, it's generally not worth it. Plus, it takes me away from the rest of the shit I have to do around here, generally by myself. I never thought in a million years that I'd become a cold, frigid bitch, but years of dissatisfaction will do that to you I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Every single time has become a "quickie." Unless I'm raging horny, it's generally not worth it. Plus, it takes me away from the rest of the shit I have to do around here, generally by myself. I never thought in a million years that I'd become a cold, frigid bitch, but years of dissatisfaction will do that to you I guess.

You are not a cold frigid bitch. Your husband is selfish and he deserves it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. It's hard to say that he's bad in bed. I kind of think I'm just not turned on by him anymore. He takes care of himself, looks attractive objectively, but still doesn't get me going. I have to close my eyes and fantasize about another man if I want to get off.

Married 6 years, together for 14

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe if he dropped 30 pounds.

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I'm sure this goes both ways.

I love sex with my spouse. Are bodies have changed with life challenges, aging, circumstances, and we keep having sex. Sex keep us feeling close. So many on here seem to run when a problem comes up. We are in for the long haul. We have been married 20+ years.

Maybe I am old but we don't bail when a conflict comes up. We are lucky we have had great commication and empathy. It takes work. It is worth it.

I have news for you: gaining weight is NOT due to life challenges, aging, circumstances.
There is a well know scientific cause: eating more calories than you burn.
And there is a 100% certain fix: eat fewer calories than you burn.
Weight gain is not sexy. Neither is excuse making over the cause of weight gain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe. It's hard to say that he's bad in bed. I kind of think I'm just not turned on by him anymore. He takes care of himself, looks attractive objectively, but still doesn't get me going. I have to close my eyes and fantasize about another man if I want to get off.

Married 6 years, together for 14

That's just sad. What else is going on here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most humans are sexually clueless in their 20's and start learning in their 30's. When we reach or 40s, we're sexually frustrated.

Totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My answer would be no.

My husband isnt great in bed, doesnt help out with household chores, doesnt compliment me or show affection in other ways, but I still want to have sex with him because I have a high sex drive. And he's attractive, to me.

50 year old female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe. It's hard to say that he's bad in bed. I kind of think I'm just not turned on by him anymore. He takes care of himself, looks attractive objectively, but still doesn't get me going. I have to close my eyes and fantasize about another man if I want to get off.

Married 6 years, together for 14

So he is satisfying you sexually when you do have sex? It sounded like he just wanted quickies.

[Anonymous]

I would have sex more often if my husband were even remotely inclined. I would take whatever bland, mediocre version of sex was available (the sex was never great) with relief.

[Anonymous]

Yes, for sure. I actually think about sex a lot (age 45) but sex with my husband is just ok. If he were great I would be all over him every single day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:more often if they were better in bed?

I'm curious how much of a difference it makes and whether or not bad sex contributes to low sex drive.

Yes. Absolutely.