Would you have sex with your spouse

[Anonymous]

No, he's fine in bed. But I'd have sex more if he was better at initiating it-- as in his quality of initiation attempts.

[Anonymous]

^^ how is YOUR quality of initiating?

[Anonymous]

Not great but I don't care about having sex more. When I want sex, my initiating is fantastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My answer would be no.

My husband isnt great in bed, doesnt help out with household chores, doesnt compliment me or show affection in other ways, but I still want to have sex with him because I have a high sex drive. And he's attractive, to me.

Guy here ... do you have a sister?

[Anonymous]

Yea. Our sex is fine but it's not amazing. We'd have more if it more exciting. But probably not that much more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These responses would be more useful if the posters identified their sex. Also, how long married.

I'm 16:16, 43, and female. My XH and I were married 5 years. My fiancé and I have been together almost 4 years, engaged 9 mos.

[Anonymous]

This one is a no-brainer.

Heck yeah.

[Anonymous]

The issue is not the quality of the sex, but rather DW has lost her libido. It is one year today. The only way to have sex with her would be rape, and that is not who I am.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I wish I had understood the meaning of "sexual compatibility" when I got married at age 22.

[Anonymous]

Most humans are sexually clueless in their 20's and start learning in their 30's. When we reach or 40s, we're sexually frustrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issue is not the quality of the sex, but rather DW has lost her libido. It is one year today. The only way to have sex with her would be rape, and that is not who I am.

When you think like that, we get the impression you're not great in bed yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The issue is not the quality of the sex, but rather DW has lost her libido. It is one year today. The only way to have sex with her would be rape, and that is not who I am.

When you think like that, we get the impression you're not great in bed yourself.

+1 Who would even think about using the word rape in this context?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The issue is not the quality of the sex, but rather DW has lost her libido. It is one year today. The only way to have sex with her would be rape, and that is not who I am.

When you think like that, we get the impression you're not great in bed yourself.

+1 Who would even think about using the word rape in this context?

+2 serious red flag

[Anonymous]

I hope this isn't too explicit. My DH sometimes will pop,out during PIV right at the moment I am having an orgasm. We are in our mid 40s, and he is having to adjust to not being as hard and lasting as long, while I am like a new woman. I lost about 20 pounds, and I wear sexy clothes with no bra around the house. I initiate by cuddling up to him while we watch TV on the sofa, and I unzip his past and give him a BJ. And no I am not a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope this isn't too explicit. My DH sometimes will pop,out during PIV right at the moment I am having an orgasm. We are in our mid 40s, and he is having to adjust to not being as hard and lasting as long, while I am like a new woman. I lost about 20 pounds, and I wear sexy clothes with no bra around the house. I initiate by cuddling up to him while we watch TV on the sofa, and I unzip his past and give him a BJ. And no I am not a troll.

What does this have to do with the topic? Troll.