Bikini area hair removal?

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DD ahs been removing it all since she first got it, around 11. Yes, it is the norm in her age group. It is not about boys or sex, it's just a ridiculous new grooming standard. As PPs said, I may not like it, and I've mentioned ingrown hairs and yeast infections, but it's her body and it's important for her to feel that she owns it.

I am a clinician in family landing and it is definitely the new norm among young women.

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Anonymous wrote:What on earth makes young girls want to shave their pubic hair off? I was pleased when I started getting it as it was a sign I was becoming a woman. Now they seem to want to look like ten yr old girls.

Why does it matter to anyone else if they shave? We don't accuse women of wanting to have prepubescent legs or armpits when those areas are shaved.

For a lot of girls and women, it just feels better and cleaner. I hate how hair feels down there. I don't mind the look of it, but the feel is off putting. Luckily, it's my body and I get to decide how to groom it. I'm teaching my daughters it's their body, their choice as well.

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Anonymous wrote:What on earth makes young girls want to shave their pubic hair off? I was pleased when I started getting it as it was a sign I was becoming a woman. Now they seem to want to look like ten yr old girls.

Why does it matter to anyone else if they shave? We don't accuse women of wanting to have prepubescent legs or armpits when those areas are shaved.

For a lot of girls and women, it just feels better and cleaner. I hate how hair feels down there. I don't mind the look of it, but the feel is off putting. Luckily, it's my body and I get to decide how to groom it. I'm teaching my daughters it's their body, their choice as well.

i've seen this mentioned before. i am a 43yo women, and i can't feel my bush at all. i totally don't get this?

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I agree with you OP. The trend is weird and just puts yet another unrealistic expectation on women. We're women, not prepubescent girls.

I think hair removal for purposes of swimsuits etc. is fine. Let her know that if she shaves it will be itchy growing back in so it's probably better to leave a patch.

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Anonymous wrote:It's her body. It has nothing to do with sex. Sorry but I don't know a girl under the age of 30 who doesn't go bare. I started shaving around 16. I have no statistics but I believe your daughter and her analysis of her peers.

So you go around asking everyone you know how they groom themselves? Is that how you know?

Idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:It's her body. It has nothing to do with sex. Sorry but I don't know a girl under the age of 30 who doesn't go bare. I started shaving around 16. I have no statistics but I believe your daughter and her analysis of her peers.

So you go around asking everyone you know how they groom themselves? Is that how you know?

Idiot.

You seem pretty angry about this, what with the name calling and all.

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I think it's awful and I'd try hard to talk my daughter out of it. It's a gross habit (removal of all hair) and I hope its time has passed.
It is uncomfortable. For me, shaving that area or even upper thighs is extremely uncomfortable growing back in. And it increases the transmission of disease (because of microabrasions of the skin, breaking the skin barrier)

AND it's one more way to objectify women. Hair is connected to nerves. When someone touches us and we have hair, sensation is greater. Shaved skin might feel better to the hand doing the touching, but the person feeling the hand is slightly numbed and sensation is dulled. Yuck. A shaved pubic area is also less sanitary (though people think the opposite.)

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's awful and I'd try hard to talk my daughter out of it. It's a gross habit (removal of all hair) and I hope its time has passed.
It is uncomfortable. For me, shaving that area or even upper thighs is extremely uncomfortable growing back in. And it increases the transmission of disease (because of microabrasions of the skin, breaking the skin barrier)

AND it's one more way to objectify women. Hair is connected to nerves. When someone touches us and we have hair, sensation is greater. Shaved skin might feel better to the hand doing the touching, but the person feeling the hand is slightly numbed and sensation is dulled. Yuck. A shaved pubic area is also less sanitary (though people think the opposite.)

I'm the exact opposite. Without hair in the way, I can feel much more sensation. I doubt that's the OP's very young daughter's reasoning for hair removal.

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Why do so many people care about other people's personal grooming choices? It doesn't impact anyone else. It is no different than people's bathing and hair washing choices. Do what works for you. There are all sorts of reasons why women choose to shave or not to shave. Some people aren't bothered by their hair, other people feel better with it gone. No need to be judgmental.

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My DH is recently retired from the military and pointed out that when they were deployed, most of the women in the (mostly online) p0rn that the young soldiers would look at were completely bare down there.

He pointed out that that was completely different from the images and pictures that he and his peers grew up with.

And I doubt that anyone making p0rn has ever not known what the market wanted to see .

So I do believe that at least some of this may be a generational thing (like tattoos) --

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And I doubt that anyone making p0rn has ever not known what the market wanted to see

It was the other way around. Porn started the trend.

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It has NOTHING to do with grooming. Your kids see bald genitals in the porn they watch after school and when home alone when you're at work.

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Anonymous wrote:It has NOTHING to do with grooming. Your kids see bald genitals in the porn they watch after school and when home alone when you're at work.

So you think all of us women who prefer to shave are shaving because we watched porn after school when we were teens....contrary to your opinion, there are actually many people who do consider it part of their PERSONAL grooming preferences. It is no one else's business, period.

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Anonymous wrote:It has NOTHING to do with grooming. Your kids see bald genitals in the porn they watch after school and when home alone when you're at work.

So you think all of us women who prefer to shave are shaving because we watched porn after school when we were teens....contrary to your opinion, there are actually many people who do consider it part of their PERSONAL grooming preferences. It is no one else's business, period.

It's a personal preference that has come about thanks to the influence of porn. You can deny that fact all you wish, but it doesn't make it any less true.

OP, I agree with you. But this is not a hill I would die on. You aren't really going to be able to enforce it. I would use this as an opportunity to talk about making choices on your own and not based on peer pressure as well as the biological importance of pubic hair, then it's up to her. I also wouldn't pay for professional waxing, if she wants to save for that out of her earnings, that's on her.

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