Help - I need a healthier perspective on getting together with in-laws

[Anonymous]

I suspect they dread spending time with you even more than you dread spending time with them. Why don't you stay home and let you DH take toddler to see his relatives. Your absence will ensure all will have a nice time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I just have to tell myself over and over that I am doing this for my husband and kids.
And I mean multiple times per hour.
I say as little as possible, agree and smile to anything that is said, and make myself busy with dishes, kids, anything to make the time pass faster.
Even a daily morning pep talk "it's one more day. One more day. You are doing this for your family. You can do this" in the mirror kind of thing
It sounds like it's a rare visit, so just get through it

And that is the way that you spend YOUR annual family vacation? Instead of enjoying time with your kids and husband, you silently grit your teeth and deal while dh and the kids enjoy themselves? Don't take this the wrong way, but it almost sounds as though you are playing the martyr and sacrificing your own happiness in the process.

Maybe you all need to consider dividing this visits in 1/2 time spent with his family and 1/2 time away somewhere just your family.

Not pp you quoted but for me I would prefer not to spend my vacation with my inlaws but this year we did. I am an adult who can get through the event and get on with my life. We didn't spend our vacation with them last year and will not spend it with them next year so it is a sacrifice I'm willing to make form time to time.

Pp that was quoted here.
It is important to my husband that we see them yearly and he has plenty of vacation days that we can do a 4-5 day trip to see his family and it doesn't mean cancelling all other plans. I figure I have 360 other days where I don't have to endure them, so I agree to it. The kids are too young to travel without me and I wouldn't be comfortable with them being across the country from me, and probably won't in the near future, so, yes, I grin and bear it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, ignore these mean posters. My ILs are also from flyover country and I HATE visiting them. They are also very cheap and want to take trips with them in an 18 year old RV. NO THANKS!

This sounds like a nightmare