Dressing "age appropriate" at 40

[Anonymous]

My SIL shops in the juniors department to try to be trendy but not spend a million dollars but the fabric is cheap, the colors are too bright, and she looks like she is borrowing clothes from her teenaged daughter. Oprah had a good show a few months back on how to turn a trend age appropriate for 20, 30, 40, 50 and beyond. It's probably on her site. It mentioned things like staying away from stuff the OP mentioned...40 y.o. like us do NOT look good in neon.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with Forever 21 as long as you stay away from the skimpy tank tops, short shorts and other totally obvious "teen" clothes. They have some really cute, inexpensive, trendy tops that would look great on women of any age. Buy them, wear them for the season and then donate to charity and not feel like you're breaking the bank

Remember ladies, age is just a number and while I don't think being 40 and dressing like your teen daughter is appropriate, who says we have to follow some arbitrary rules set a long time ago about changing the way we dress when we hit 40/50 like it's some magical number where we all turn into conservative grandmas?

I'm almost 40 and love J.Crew, South Moon Under and Anthropologie for trendy but not too young looking clothes. Wear what you're comfortable in.

And yes, I love my Uggs too. Wore them before they were popular and the teens picked up on the trend and I'll wear them when they're "over" too.

[Anonymous]

" I don't know how many people in the US realize this, but when they were invented in Australia back in the 1960s, most Australians only wore them as house shoes. You'd never see anyone wearing them outside. Uggs were essentially house slippers, even the boot kind."

Yes, we know. This has been posted before here. But, this is America. Some of us like our Uggs notwithstanding how they wear them Down Under.

[Anonymous]

Not an Uggs-wearer, but I think this argument is kind of on a par with the observation that t-shirts were once worn only as underwear. And so?

[Anonymous]

Bra straps showing with spaghetti-strap Ts is the norm in July in DC for girls 14-25 or so. Think the G'town waterfront or 16th and U.

Q: Is this look ever OK for a 40ish mom of little kids? As in, when you're out at Giant at 2 pm on a Tuesday with your 4 year old at it's 92 degrees?

I've always wanted to go this route, and self-bras or strapless bras are not an option

[Anonymous]

No! (IMHO)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bra straps showing with spaghetti-strap Ts is the norm in July in DC for girls 14-25 or so. Think the G'town waterfront or 16th and U.

Q: Is this look ever OK for a 40ish mom of little kids? As in, when you're out at Giant at 2 pm on a Tuesday with your 4 year old at it's 92 degrees?

I've always wanted to go this route, and self-bras or strapless bras are not an option

I say no, as well. For one, if built-in bras or strapless bras don't work for you, don't you think you need more support than what a thin spaghetti bra strap will give you? I don't know any mom, cup size b or over, who at age 40 doesn't need good support.

That bra strap/spaghetti strap thing is only passable on very young bodies, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bra straps showing with spaghetti-strap Ts is the norm in July in DC for girls 14-25 or so. Think the G'town waterfront or 16th and U.

Q: Is this look ever OK for a 40ish mom of little kids? As in, when you're out at Giant at 2 pm on a Tuesday with your 4 year old at it's 92 degrees?

I've always wanted to go this route, and self-bras or strapless bras are not an option

I say no, as well. For one, if built-in bras or strapless bras don't work for you, don't you think you need more support than what a thin spaghetti bra strap will give you? I don't know any mom, cup size b or over, who at age 40 doesn't need good support.

That bra strap/spaghetti strap thing is only passable on very young bodies, IMO.

I'll dissent here--I wear this look and am a C cup; am in good shape, with toned arms. I think I look fine.

[Anonymous]

PP again--forgot to say, I have absolutely no idea if everyone else secretly thinks I look ridiculous and dressing "too young"--but the point is, I honestly don't care. I think I look good. Which brings us back full circle--why should one care what others think? Dress how you want.

[Anonymous]

I don't care if you are 15 or 50, showing your underwear (and yes, that includes bra straps, ladies) in public looks trashy. If you want to wear a tank, get one with thicker straps so you can wear a decent bra underneath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bra straps showing with spaghetti-strap Ts is the norm in July in DC for girls 14-25 or so. Think the G'town waterfront or 16th and U.

Q: Is this look ever OK for a 40ish mom of little kids? As in, when you're out at Giant at 2 pm on a Tuesday with your 4 year old at it's 92 degrees?

I've always wanted to go this route, and self-bras or strapless bras are not an option

I say no, as well. For one, if built-in bras or strapless bras don't work for you, don't you think you need more support than what a thin spaghetti bra strap will give you? I don't know any mom, cup size b or over, who at age 40 doesn't need good support.

That bra strap/spaghetti strap thing is only passable on very young bodies, IMO.

I'll dissent here--I wear this look and am a C cup; am in good shape, with toned arms. I think I look fine.

Sorry, can't see that being true unless you've had implants. Natural, post-baby, post-breast feeding breasts aren't cutting it at 40+.

[Anonymous]

I'm the bra-strap op. That's my point -- I can't go braless or use the "self bra" in those tanks. I need a bra because I haven't had implants. And when you wear a bra, the straps show in 79% of the tanks on the market.

Thus, the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bra straps showing with spaghetti-strap Ts is the norm in July in DC for girls 14-25 or so. Think the G'town waterfront or 16th and U.

Q: Is this look ever OK for a 40ish mom of little kids? As in, when you're out at Giant at 2 pm on a Tuesday with your 4 year old at it's 92 degrees?

I've always wanted to go this route, and self-bras or strapless bras are not an option

I say no, as well. For one, if built-in bras or strapless bras don't work for you, don't you think you need more support than what a thin spaghetti bra strap will give you? I don't know any mom, cup size b or over, who at age 40 doesn't need good support.

That bra strap/spaghetti strap thing is only passable on very young bodies, IMO.

I'll dissent here--I wear this look and am a C cup; am in good shape, with toned arms. I think I look fine.

Sorry, can't see that being true unless you've had implants. Natural, post-baby, post-breast feeding breasts aren't cutting it at 40+.

Huh? Your post doesn't make sense--it is precisely my point that I need a bra, because I have had three kids and bf them all for over a year, and am 40+, so of course I need a bra. Thus if I am wearing a bra underneath a tank top, the bra straps will show, and I don't think that's a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bra straps showing with spaghetti-strap Ts is the norm in July in DC for girls 14-25 or so. Think the G'town waterfront or 16th and U.

Q: Is this look ever OK for a 40ish mom of little kids? As in, when you're out at Giant at 2 pm on a Tuesday with your 4 year old at it's 92 degrees?

I've always wanted to go this route, and self-bras or strapless bras are not an option

I say no, as well. For one, if built-in bras or strapless bras don't work for you, don't you think you need more support than what a thin spaghetti bra strap will give you? I don't know any mom, cup size b or over, who at age 40 doesn't need good support.

That bra strap/spaghetti strap thing is only passable on very young bodies, IMO.

I'll dissent here--I wear this look and am a C cup; am in good shape, with toned arms. I think I look fine.

Sorry, can't see that being true unless you've had implants. Natural, post-baby, post-breast feeding breasts aren't cutting it at 40+.

Not the PP you are referring to, but your comment sounds bitter and jealous to me. I have had no implants, am also a C cup, have had two kids and nursed both of them for a long time, yet my chest isn't saggy or unappealing. Sorry to disappoint you, O judgmental one...

[Anonymous]

Oh Please....

Regardless of how good your breasts look, how toned your arms, or how few your birthdays, allowing one's bra straps to show is only one thing -TRASHY! Ick, you might as well put those pink rollers in your hair and nasty old slippers on your feet too because they will not make you look any less gross than you do with those bras straps showing.