Relationship or just sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We did dinner last night and we talked. I pretty much just asked where he this this was going and if exclusivity was something he wanted down the road. Turns out he was afraid to bring it up. He knows my past with my ex and his typical narcissist behavior.

He himself was afraid to bring up the exclusivity because he didn't want to seem pushy or a nut job. He hasn't been seeing anyone since our second date. He seemed nervous
( but so cute!) asking if I was seeing others. I joked about the FWB and he thought it was funny I thought that.

So, I'm a happy woman. We did go back to his place and had sex. I'm happy I no longer have to wonder and worry. Seeing how nervous he became was so cute. We are no officially exclusive. I can bang him anytime without worry

[Anonymous]

Good for you!

Hooray for banging!

[Anonymous]

OP again. I'm just happy and excited. If any of you have dated a person with NPD, you can understand how tough it is to trust and love again. I am just really glad he is normal. You started to doubt people and their intentions after being with a person with NPD.

My boyfriend ( love this!) is just a very sweet guy. Seeing him nervous and blush was so cute and sexy all at the same time. Sex was extra good last night. I'm going to stop being all mushy. This very early but the man he is happens to be the man I always wished I' d marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for you!

Hooray for banging!

I just saw this. That's the first time I've been congratulated for having sex. Too funny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I'm just happy and excited. If any of you have dated a person with NPD, you can understand how tough it is to trust and love again. I am just really glad he is normal. You started to doubt people and their intentions after being with a person with NPD.

My boyfriend ( love this!) is just a very sweet guy. Seeing him nervous and blush was so cute and sexy all at the same time. Sex was extra good last night. I'm going to stop being all mushy. This very early but the man he is happens to be the man I always wished I' d marry.

Before I got to your post, I was thinking he sounds like a keeper! Good luck with everything op!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for you!

Hooray for banging!

I just saw this. That's the first time I've been congratulated for having sex. Too funny

Say 'congratulations' to your BF after the next roll in the hay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for you!

Hooray for banging!

I just saw this. That's the first time I've been congratulated for having sex. Too funny

Say 'congratulations' to your BF after the next roll in the hay.

That is so odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I'm just happy and excited. If any of you have dated a person with NPD, you can understand how tough it is to trust and love again. I am just really glad he is normal. You started to doubt people and their intentions after being with a person with NPD.

My boyfriend ( love this!) is just a very sweet guy. Seeing him nervous and blush was so cute and sexy all at the same time. Sex was extra good last night. I'm going to stop being all mushy. This very early but the man he is happens to be the man I always wished I' d marry.

First, I need to take a cold shower after reading this. Second, sometimes I wish I was young and going through this stage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I'm just happy and excited. If any of you have dated a person with NPD, you can understand how tough it is to trust and love again. I am just really glad he is normal. You started to doubt people and their intentions after being with a person with NPD.

My boyfriend ( love this!) is just a very sweet guy. Seeing him nervous and blush was so cute and sexy all at the same time. Sex was extra good last night. I'm going to stop being all mushy. This very early but the man he is happens to be the man I always wished I' d marry.

First, I need to take a cold shower after reading this. Second, sometimes I wish I was young and going through this stage.

OP here. Funny...I sometimes wish I was was 30's, married, and with a family already. I love this phase in my life but I would love to be a wife and mother someday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started seeing a guy that I met at a party in late May He got my number and we started talking and immediately went on a first date. Sincerely early June I've seen him a total of 1-3 times a week. The beginning was more one date week, progressing into multiple times a week after the first month. We started having sex in late June/early July. We regularly see each other multiple times a week, and have sex every time we see each other. We do many things like dinner, meeting mutual friends, movies, etc. but it always ends in sex. I love the sex but I worry I am just a " FWB".

Neither of us have brought up being exclusive, but both of us voiced wanting a relationship on the first and second date. I like him and enjoy his company, but I'm finding myself confused if he is seeing this as a relationship or is this more of a " friends with benefits". I've had two previous guys and we didn't have sex each time we saw one another. However, we have yet to have any formal meeting or meeting outside of mutual friends, where he could've had the opportunity to introduce me as his girlfriend. I am not good at these things and I guess I am cautious that asking him may come off as pushy and scare him away. I don't really know if he is letting things progress naturally or if he is enjoying the company and sex, without any want for commitment with me. It's only been about 2-2.5 months. However , exclusivity came by this time with my previous SO's.

One easy way to find out. Ask him!

[Anonymous]

OP -- Seems you are doing just fine navigating the world of dating and relation ships today. Take your time and continue to enjoy doing things and exploring new activities and aspect of life with BF. Sex is an important part of a relationship, but also the friendship building is just as key long-term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I'm just happy and excited. If any of you have dated a person with NPD, you can understand how tough it is to trust and love again. I am just really glad he is normal. You started to doubt people and their intentions after being with a person with NPD.

My boyfriend ( love this!) is just a very sweet guy. Seeing him nervous and blush was so cute and sexy all at the same time. Sex was extra good last night. I'm going to stop being all mushy. This very early but the man he is happens to be the man I always wished I' d marry.

First, I need to take a cold shower after reading this. Second, sometimes I wish I was young and going through this stage.

OP here. Funny...I sometimes wish I was was 30's, married, and with a family already. I love this phase in my life but I would love to be a wife and mother someday.

you read DCUM and you still want to be a wife and mother someday? are you nuts?

[Anonymous]

Yay OP! So glad for the happy update.