What to say to friend with Failed adoption?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have to say anything? Is it not more helpful to just listen?
Either way, adoption is about providing a family when there is none, not taking one away

I get the sneaking suspicion that they are not working with an ethical agency. How could they have been promised a baby so soon and the agency be that confident of a match

Agencies do that all the time. They collect fees and birthparent expenses so there is an incentive for them to no do their homework. This is very common.