Women who are the breadwinner, what expectations do you have from your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three kids in and I am in the fame situation OP. Leave him now if he will not change. Not all men are like this. You can be happy alone or with another person.

I am! And, you know what I discovered? Doing it all wasn't the hard part. What made my life hellish was watching my husband life the single life while I did everything on my own. With him out of the equation, I had more energy, kindness, and joy.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are in our 30's, and he's on a fellowship while I work fulltime. We also have an infant baby. For a year now, I've supported this family on my own (financially), and with the baby most of the responsibilities are on me (since I nurse him). Last night my husband and I had a real heart to heart, and that's when I realized that because of our situation, I've ended up just doing things on my own and don't really need him. I even asked him if he feels like he does anything that contributes to our marriage and he couldn't think of any.

So I guess I was wondering if there are women out there who support their family financially, what expectations do you have from your husband? How do you expect him to contribute to your marriage

It's not a winning strategy to ambush someone like this. Did you have security escorted from the building?

[Anonymous]

Ladies, some of you are in terrible relationships. I just don't understand why you put up with it. My husband out earns me in Biglaw and still does more for our daughter. That is a man I want to have sex with!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three kids in and I am in the fame situation OP. Leave him now if he will not change. Not all men are like this. You can be happy alone or with another person.

I am! And, you know what I discovered? Doing it all wasn't the hard part. What made my life hellish was watching my husband life the single life while I did everything on my own. With him out of the equation, I had more energy, kindness, and joy.

Just curious - how did you DH feel abut the split? I'm guessing men like this really hate the idea of it. They lose their maid, cook, nanny etc... What kind of custody did he seek?