There is not one man for every woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are so few decent single men in their 50s out there, that I would just focus on myself, my family and friends, and enjoying life. Why waste time and energy on a huge pile of losers.

This is how one ends up remaining single. In your 50s, it will be harder than dating 20 years ago, but not impossible. One has to be proactive and make it a priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a glass-half-empty way to look at things, OP. When I read the thread title, I thought you meant "There is not JUST one man for every woman" i.e. there is more than one man.
I was married to a great man, was widowed young, and am now in a serious relationship with another great man. They are definitely out there!

Agreed. I have one of them too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are so few decent single men in their 50s out there, that I would just focus on myself, my family and friends, and enjoying life. Why waste time and energy on a huge pile of losers.

This is how one ends up remaining single. In your 50s, it will be harder than dating 20 years ago, but not impossible. One has to be proactive and make it a priority.

Of course you'll view it this way if having a partner is priority #1 above all else. But then you're putting your happiness in the hands of someone/something that you have very little control over. Isn't it better to make your own happiness, and if you happen to find a partner who enriches it that much more, so much the better?

[Anonymous]

So it's not raining men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This assumes women in their mid 50s need a man to be happy.

Not necessarily a man, per se, but we all need the companionship and physical affection that is most readily received from another person in a one-to-one relationship with whom we co-habitate. That is how God made us and it is hard to replace "just" with friends.

Actually, we are made like most other animals to procreate. I know many of us like to think that we are much more evolved than that but the bottom line is that men need to impregnate women. Period.

Yes. and when it gets to difficult in one place they'll go far and wide to find women who wants to be impregnated. They'll even fight wars for opportunities to spread their seeds as strange as it may seem to our evolved minds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Simple math:
Slightly more boys than girls are born, but by age 20, the balance is equal. After than, the available pool of men drops quickly.
There are more practicing homosexual men than women, and men are more likely to be incarcerated than women. Also, men die earlier partly because of risk taking, job related mishaps, and disease.
So when women take on this position that there are always more fish in the sea, we need to be careful, that idea could be reckless.
So what do we do? I know the men are having a blast t with the numbers. The way some men treat women, it is clear that they've figured it out.
Does anyone have any suggestions about how a woman in her early 50s should conduct herself knowing these numbers? On this forum, there are so many suggestions that women dump men, just like that. But has anyone thought of the consequences? I am not suggesting that women put up with crazy mean jerks. And to be honest, when I see a divorced man, I assume that the wife probably had very good reason to kick him out.

This sounds too much like a discussion question from some online sociology class discussion.... could the poster simply be fishing for answers to their homework assignment?

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