There is not one man for every woman

[Anonymous]

I'm 14:58 and should add that I'm a tad bit biased right now from learning that a dear friend is divorcing a guy I thought I was great. She gave me a list of 20 grievances that range from petty but gross to super annoying, yet nothing abusive or neglectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if you go to Alaska or Montana or somewhere like that, you'll find the ratio of men to women will favor women. However, whether the quality of men is desirable is a question mark.

Same for countries like India or China, if you are willing.

No, the issue is that women, whether working class or middle/upper class want a powerful breadwinner who at the same time his kind, considerate, and will take out the garbage. Not a lot of those guys around.

Women have all the power. They get to choose. To say there are no decent 50 something men is just a convenient excuse. I know plenty that are decent

That is only if men LET THEM. So I never had a choice? Any woman who was interested in me was automatically going to be dated? Ridiculous. If men stopped acting like pussies and showed they are worthy of respect, this wouldn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are so few decent single men in their 50s out there, that I would just focus on myself, my family and friends, and enjoying life. Why waste time and energy on a huge pile of losers.

Employed single 50-year-old dad here. Nah, that doesn't sound pompous at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are so few decent single men in their 50s out there, that I would just focus on myself, my family and friends, and enjoying life. Why waste time and energy on a huge pile of losers.

Employed single 50-year-old dad here. Nah, that doesn't sound pompous at all.

Do you meet a lot of women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are so few decent single men in their 50s out there, that I would just focus on myself, my family and friends, and enjoying life. Why waste time and energy on a huge pile of losers.

Employed single 50-year-old dad here. Nah, that doesn't sound pompous at all.

Do you meet a lot of women?

And how old are the women you go for? Men in their 50s are chasing women under 50, as a rule. So what does that leave women in their 50s? Senior citizens, for the most part. The older I get, the more I'm glad I'm bi.

[Anonymous]

This assumes women in their mid 50s need a man to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Simple math:
Slightly more boys than girls are born, but by age 20, the balance is equal. After than, the available pool of men drops quickly.
There are more practicing homosexual men than women, and men are more likely to be incarcerated than women. Also, men die earlier partly because of risk taking, job related mishaps, and disease.
So when women take on this position that there are always more fish in the sea, we need to be careful, that idea could be reckless.
So what do we do? I know the men are having a blast t with the numbers. The way some men treat women, it is clear that they've figured it out.
Does anyone have any suggestions about how a woman in her early 50s should conduct herself knowing these numbers? On this forum, there are so many suggestions that women dump men, just like that. But has anyone thought of the consequences? I am not suggesting that women put up with crazy mean jerks. And to be honest, when I see a divorced man, I assume that the wife probably had very good reason to kick him out.

What you should do is build a life for yourself that you're content with even without a man. Have fulfilling friendships and interests that make you unwilling to waste your time on just anyone. Then if you meet a really great guy, he'll be another great piece to that life, but if you don't, you'll still be happy.

[Anonymous]

If only I'd known my choices had been diminished by all those gay and incarcerated men. Jeez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if you go to Alaska or Montana or somewhere like that, you'll find the ratio of men to women will favor women. However, whether the quality of men is desirable is a question mark.

Same for countries like India or China, if you are willing.

No, the issue is that women, whether working class or middle/upper class want a powerful breadwinner who at the same time his kind, considerate, and will take out the garbage. Not a lot of those guys around.

Not necessarily. I don't blend well with Alpha men and not because I am an Alpha but more cause it's too much testosterone and sports and LOUD and just too much. My dudes tend to be macho but emo. I have found them to actually be more stand up guys than Mr. BMOC. The Alpha I dated kept a gun because he was scared? in his posh neighborhood. I am a single woman living alone....no gun needed here. I mean, c'mon. The emo man I married had no problem telling the street thugs to get the fuck off my parked car when they were outside hanging around being shiftless. I earn more than him but he works more and harder than I do. We complement each other well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if you go to Alaska or Montana or somewhere like that, you'll find the ratio of men to women will favor women. However, whether the quality of men is desirable is a question mark.

Same for countries like India or China, if you are willing.

No, the issue is that women, whether working class or middle/upper class want a powerful breadwinner who at the same time his kind, considerate, and will take out the garbage. Not a lot of those guys around.

Not necessarily. I don't blend well with Alpha men and not because I am an Alpha but more cause it's too much testosterone and sports and LOUD and just too much. My dudes tend to be macho but emo. I have found them to actually be more stand up guys than Mr. BMOC. The Alpha I dated kept a gun because he was scared? in his posh neighborhood. I am a single woman living alone....no gun needed here. I mean, c'mon. The emo man I married had no problem telling the street thugs to get the fuck off my parked car when they were outside hanging around being shiftless. I earn more than him but he works more and harder than I do. We complement each other well.

What's emo?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if you go to Alaska or Montana or somewhere like that, you'll find the ratio of men to women will favor women. However, whether the quality of men is desirable is a question mark.

Same for countries like India or China, if you are willing.

No, the issue is that women, whether working class or middle/upper class want a powerful breadwinner who at the same time his kind, considerate, and will take out the garbage. Not a lot of those guys around.

Not necessarily. I don't blend well with Alpha men and not because I am an Alpha but more cause it's too much testosterone and sports and LOUD and just too much. My dudes tend to be macho but emo. I have found them to actually be more stand up guys than Mr. BMOC. The Alpha I dated kept a gun because he was scared? in his posh neighborhood. I am a single woman living alone....no gun needed here. I mean, c'mon. The emo man I married had no problem telling the street thugs to get the fuck off my parked car when they were outside hanging around being shiftless. I earn more than him but he works more and harder than I do. We complement each other well.

What's emo?

Closeted gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This assumes women in their mid 50s need a man to be happy.

Not necessarily a man, per se, but we all need the companionship and physical affection that is most readily received from another person in a one-to-one relationship with whom we co-habitate. That is how God made us and it is hard to replace "just" with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This assumes women in their mid 50s need a man to be happy.

Not necessarily a man, per se, but we all need the companionship and physical affection that is most readily received from another person in a one-to-one relationship with whom we co-habitate. That is how God made us and it is hard to replace "just" with friends.

Actually, we are made like most other animals to procreate. I know many of us like to think that we are much more evolved than that but the bottom line is that men need to impregnate women. Period.

[Anonymous]

Nothing new. That's why polygamy has been practiced until recent modern histoey.

[Anonymous]

What a glass-half-empty way to look at things, OP. When I read the thread title, I thought you meant "There is not JUST one man for every woman" i.e. there is more than one man.
I was married to a great man, was widowed young, and am now in a serious relationship with another great man. They are definitely out there!