Husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP since you aren't interested in an abortion:

I wish I had tried at 27. I'm only a few years beyond that, but it's been a huge struggle to get pregnant. You're married, albeit tired and not financially ready, but you'll do fine. And since DH wants this baby so badly, he needs to up his game at work and hustle a little for more pay.

You and your DH need some counseling stat though. I'm not sure he realizes that what he did was malicious. Maybe he's just extremely excited for said baby?

Husband can't do much about his job until he finishes his PhD next year. He's studying statistics and is an international student. I wanted to wait until we were more settled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: An abortion is not the right decision for me. I come from a religious background and they would absolutely not accept this.

You don't have to tell them. If you don't want an abortion don't get one, but don't let fear of someone finding out be the reason as that can be pretty easily resolved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP since you aren't interested in an abortion:

I wish I had tried at 27. I'm only a few years beyond that, but it's been a huge struggle to get pregnant. You're married, albeit tired and not financially ready, but you'll do fine. And since DH wants this baby so badly, he needs to up his game at work and hustle a little for more pay.

You and your DH need some counseling stat though. I'm not sure he realizes that what he did was malicious. Maybe he's just extremely excited for said baby?

Husband can't do much about his job until he finishes his PhD next year. He's studying statistics and is an international student. I wanted to wait until we were more settled.

So you'll have the baby in 8 months and in about 11 months your DH will start making good money? Sounds like an okay plan to me. Babies don't need much, nor much money. Since you're Turkish, I'd expect family would help out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP since you aren't interested in an abortion:

I wish I had tried at 27. I'm only a few years beyond that, but it's been a huge struggle to get pregnant. You're married, albeit tired and not financially ready, but you'll do fine. And since DH wants this baby so badly, he needs to up his game at work and hustle a little for more pay.

You and your DH need some counseling stat though. I'm not sure he realizes that what he did was malicious. Maybe he's just extremely excited for said baby?

Husband can't do much about his job until he finishes his PhD next year. He's studying statistics and is an international student. I wanted to wait until we were more settled.

So you'll have the baby in 8 months and in about 11 months your DH will start making good money? Sounds like an okay plan to me. Babies don't need much, nor much money. Since you're Turkish, I'd expect family would help out?

Op here: not possible. My mother passed away in March and his mom can't come to the US as she's helping take care my brother in law's baby.

[Anonymous]

If you are determined to have a baby with and stay with this man, I advise you to start stashing away some money for yourself, in an account he is not aware of. i You never know when you may need it in the future, and I wouldn't trust him to look out for your best interests.
Very sorry about the loss of your Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP since you aren't interested in an abortion:

I wish I had tried at 27. I'm only a few years beyond that, but it's been a huge struggle to get pregnant. You're married, albeit tired and not financially ready, but you'll do fine. And since DH wants this baby so badly, he needs to up his game at work and hustle a little for more pay.

You and your DH need some counseling stat though. I'm not sure he realizes that what he did was malicious. Maybe he's just extremely excited for said baby?

Husband can't do much about his job until he finishes his PhD next year. He's studying statistics and is an international student. I wanted to wait until we were more settled.

So you'll have the baby in 8 months and in about 11 months your DH will start making good money? Sounds like an okay plan to me. Babies don't need much, nor much money. Since you're Turkish, I'd expect family would help out?

Op here: not possible. My mother passed away in March and his mom can't come to the US as she's helping take care my brother in law's baby.

OP, do you want the baby? I can tell you from personal experience that there is no good time to have one. You do what needs to be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a troll post. So all these months you've been having sex the room has been SO DARK that you couldn't possibly tell that your DH wasn't wearing a condom? And the whole financial struggle/potential unemployment? I get why you added that but it's overboard.

A better idea would be have been telling us that he messed with your bc pills.

Better luck next time, OP.

She said she passed out afterwards. Her H could have just pulled this trick when they had drunk sex or something. If I was drunk and fooling around with my H in my dark bedroom I wouldn't be able to tell.

I guess all these months she never touched his d**k befire sex??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a troll post. So all these months you've been having sex the room has been SO DARK that you couldn't possibly tell that your DH wasn't wearing a condom? And the whole financial struggle/potential unemployment? I get why you added that but it's overboard.

A better idea would be have been telling us that he messed with your bc pills.

Better luck next time, OP.

She said she passed out afterwards. Her H could have just pulled this trick when they had drunk sex or something. If I was drunk and fooling around with my H in my dark bedroom I wouldn't be able to tell.

I guess all these months she never touched his d**k befire sex??

Oops, just read your follow-up post.

[Anonymous]

Or give the baby up for adoption. Though u might Chang rumour mind when the baby is born. You mention DH. But I suspect with your background, it might not be acceptable for divorc either? So really, you are stuck with him no matter what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 27 and work away from my husband Mon-Thurs. He's in the last year of his PhD in a small college town . I have to stay in a bigger city Mon-Thursday to work. I'm always exhausted.  On top of that, my employer may be going under and our resources barely stretch as it is. 

My husband is desperate for a baby kids and has been after me to have a baby I have told him I'm not ready .

So fast forward to 4 weeks ago.

We have sex and we usually use condoms.  ALWAYS.  And he knows that so he goes the closet to get a condom. I think he has everything together, including the and condom.  He turns off the light we have sex and then I pass out.

Needless to say I'm pregnant after the one time!! My husband said he's been tricking me for months!!

You have sex with the lights out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 27 and work away from my husband Mon-Thurs. He's in the last year of his PhD in a small college town . I have to stay in a bigger city Mon-Thursday to work. I'm always exhausted.  On top of that, my employer may be going under and our resources barely stretch as it is. 

My husband is desperate for a baby kids and has been after me to have a baby I have told him I'm not ready .

So fast forward to 4 weeks ago.

We have sex and we usually use condoms.  ALWAYS.  And he knows that so he goes the closet to get a condom. I think he has everything together, including the and condom.  He turns off the light we have sex and then I pass out.

Needless to say I'm pregnant after the one time!! My husband said he's been tricking me for months!!

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You have sex with the lights out?

Yes usually and because of my mothers death I have been depressed the last year or so . We haven't been having sex often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a troll post. So all these months you've been having sex the room has been SO DARK that you couldn't possibly tell that your DH wasn't wearing a condom? And the whole financial struggle/potential unemployment? I get why you added that but it's overboard.

A better idea would be have been telling us that he messed with your bc pills.

Better luck next time, OP.

She said she passed out afterwards. Her H could have just pulled this trick when they had drunk sex or something. If I was drunk and fooling around with my H in my dark bedroom I wouldn't be able to tell.

I guess all these months she never touched his d**k befire sex??

Op: I don't touch his penis or give oral sex.

[Anonymous]

OP are you just looking to vent? Perfectly fine if you are of course, but just curious.

[Anonymous]

I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .

Why would you quit??? Aren't you the only job?

This marriage is getting worse and worse. Sex is rare, small penis and you've never touched it during sex or BJ. And he's a jerk who tricks you into a pregnancy.