Won't take no for an answer and going around to all my family asking them to intercede

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You probably don't have a rational reason for dumping your friend and so naturally, she is very confused. I am guessing that your ego is a big reason.

No one is owed an explanation. It's not an excuse for harrassing. Unless I was concerned my friend was dead, I wouldn't contact family. That's not acceptable.

[Anonymous]

I had a similar situation after ending a friendship. I, too, did everything I could to maintain the friendship and set boundaries over and over again, all of which were trampled. After ending it, I endured months of hateful emails in which she detailed the horrible things she hoped would happen to me, but no actual threats. I kept them in case things escalated. She walked around our block (very suburban cul-de-sac with nothing nearby she could be walking to) but didn't actually come on our property. Even so, I was afraid to let my children play outside for even a few minutes without me. I alerted the few family members and friends that she would be mostly likely to contact. It was a scary time. After a year I heard nothing more from her and that was several years ago. On the advice of a therapist, once I ended it, I didn't respond to her in any way whatsoever - I answered no emails, no phone calls, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the poster above who suggested an email saying "A woman named Mary Blah..." to your family members and mutual friends.

This person sounds crazy. Who suggests going to mediation with a friend? That is too much for me.

If I received an email like that, I would think the sender was petty and controlling.

"A woman named Mary Blah is contacting my friends and family trying to get them to intercede on her behalf in a disagreement she and I had two years ago. She has contacted my husband, my sister and my mother and lied to them to get information about me. Two years ago, I told Mary that I could not continue our friendship unless she X, Y and Z. She responded a year later, and is now trying to convince mutual friends and family members that it is a misunderstanding. I believe that she has a psychological disorder, and I do not wish to have a relationship of any kind with her. I apologize for any harassment you may experience as a result of this, but I wanted you to be aware of the situation so that you can take whatever steps you feel are necessary to insulate yourselves and your family from her harassment."

If I received that email, I would think that the sender has been experiencing harassment and stalking at the expense of someone who is unbalanced, and I would be concerned.

100% agree. I wouldn't need to know the details of the falling out to see whether or not I felt it reached the level of harassment, since it wouldn't be about ME, and I would appreciate the heads up so I wouldn't give the woman any information.
If someone sent an email like that, I certain wouldn't think it was a petty little squabble.