Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to go too but I want the big bed and the room to myself.

Cool! I'm in! I mostly hang out in the bathroom. Is it OK if I use both robes?

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you should absolutely invite your MIL on your honeymoon. Many resorts have suites; have her stay in an adjoining room. You can have some privacy this way.

Maybe establish some boundaries for flying - use the travel time to be your new MILs seat mate and maybe have your DH sit a few row back...or maybe even on a different flight!

You might also use her for a strategic advantage and have MIL wake up early and grab three beach chairs or a primo table for you. You and DH can sleep later and join her later poolside.

Think of all the fun you three can have! Touring, fancy dinners out, sunbathing, resort games, maybe even stay in one night and the three of you could order room service.
Do you golf? If so, you'll just need one more for a foursome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you should absolutely invite your MIL on your honeymoon. Many resorts have suites; have her stay in an adjoining room. You can have some privacy this way.

Maybe establish some boundaries for flying - use the travel time to be your new MILs seat mate and maybe have your DH sit a few row back...or maybe even on a different flight!

You might also use her for a strategic advantage and have MIL wake up early and grab three beach chairs or a primo table for you. You and DH can sleep later and join her later poolside.

Think of all the fun you three can have! Touring, fancy dinners out, sunbathing, resort games, maybe even stay in one night and the three of you could order room service.
Do you golf? If so, you'll just need one more for a foursome!

Be careful - OP's so dumb she'll take you seriously.

[Anonymous]

Ygh

[Anonymous]

Dh and I ended up with about 8 family members along for the ride in our honeymoon. We were overseas and the family doesn't get together often so I guess they all took advantage of the time together. It was Dh's family and there was no refusing. Would have been very rude with that culture and I didn't see the need to push my values, look like a nut and make dh look bad. True story!!

Also there, it's good luck for you to sleep in long marriage beds so at every stop along the way they'd find old family members homes to stay at so we could sleep in they're beds. It was sweet but not exactly a turn on for us. Then they'd clap giggle and celebrate the next day. We felt like traveling rock stars and everyone was a fan of our sex.

[Anonymous]

Two days later and no word from OP??? Hmm, the troll bridge must have a lot of traffic.

[Anonymous]

Not a troll, still here. I don't think you rude posters get it. Mil has gone through so much I in a short time and we are her stability. We are leaving for 2 weeks and I guess she is just scared to be alone.

[Anonymous]

You should totally take her with you OP, that is the best idea ever. I don't know why more people don't take their ILs with them on their honeymoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a troll, still here. I don't think you rude posters get it. Mil has gone through so much I in a short time and we are her stability. We are leaving for 2 weeks and I guess she is just scared to be alone.

Why did you post? What are you hoping people will say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I ended up with about 8 family members along for the ride in our honeymoon. We were overseas and the family doesn't get together often so I guess they all took advantage of the time together. It was Dh's family and there was no refusing. Would have been very rude with that culture and I didn't see the need to push my values, look like a nut and make dh look bad. True story!!

Also there, it's good luck for you to sleep in long marriage beds so at every stop along the way they'd find old family members homes to stay at so we could sleep in they're beds. It was sweet but not exactly a turn on for us. Then they'd clap giggle and celebrate the next day. We felt like traveling rock stars and everyone was a fan of our sex.

Ick

[Anonymous]

Just because she has the emotional maturity of a 5 year old and is scared to be alone doesn't mean that you bring her on your honeymoon. You're already in deep trouble if you were entertaining the idea.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not a troll, still here. I don't think you rude posters get it. Mil has gone through so much I in a short time and we are her stability. We are leaving for 2 weeks and I guess she is just scared to be alone.

Why did you post? What are you hoping people will say?

+1000 You have probably already made her reservations.

In a few months, you will be posting that she is living with you and is afraid to sleep in her own bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a troll, still here. I don't think you rude posters get it. Mil has gone through so much I in a short time and we are her stability. We are leaving for 2 weeks and I guess she is just scared to be alone.

Then maybe she needs you to go alone as much as you do? My mom avoided mourning by traveling incessantly to visit everyone she knew and never spending time alone. It just delayed the inevitable, but eventually her frequent flyer miles ran out. She had a rough month in the house they shared for 50 years, but was much better after allowing herself to mourn. You only get one honeymoon, and her joining you won't make her mourning any easier. But if worrying about her will ruin your honeymoon anyway, maybe there is a relative or an old friend who could visit her while you are gone?

Ultimately, only you and your DF can decide which difficult choice will be better for you.