Best consequence for getting a "D" on a report card

[Anonymous]

Some kids are just not cut out for school.

[Anonymous]

A tutor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got a D in social studies when I was in 10th grade. It was mostly due to laziness; I could have tried harder and I didn't. While it was a passing grade, my parents made me take it over in summer school to get a better grade. I was embarrassed to go to summer school, but I got an A. And I was proud looking at that A on my transcript. I definitely learned my lesson. Not that I am behind "shaming" a child, but it was a good lesson. It also gave me something to do during the summer on days I wasn't working my PT job. Could be a win win, OP!

Unfortunately not all schools cancel a bad grade because you retook the class. In our district, all final grades are there to stay, regardless of if you re-took the class. Now you have two grades for that class. Retaking in the summer is a good idea to make sure content was learned before advancing, but it may not fix your transcript

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:D for Diploma...
I mean that in the best sense. You know if your kid has issues, don't punish them if they do.

Why or how did you search DCUM to revive a 10 year old thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No phone

No! That is WAY too sever.

[Anonymous]

Retake over the summer?

[Anonymous]

Hopefully after 10 YEARS the OP and her DD have moved on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd try to address the underlying cause, like PPs have said. Tutoring may be necessary.

But I'm a bigger fan of positive rewards. If it's homework, tie the reward to better homework performance rather than a specific grade.

+1 to all of this, but also with some sort of natural consequence involving the loss/reduction of a time-waster (say, screen or phone time) until her grades are back up. Kids need a little nudge sometimes. I did.

I am for sure not a proponent of "let her fail." That strikes me as not only hostile, but as lazy parenting and poor support for your child.

I would like to point out that taking away screen time is not a natural consequence.

"Let her fail" is a natural consequence.

I am not advocating one or the other, simply confused by your terminology.

Screen time necessarily distracts from study time, so I disagree.

[Anonymous]

I stepped in, despite the protests and anger, and got a tutor at the first sign of a D. Before I could get the tutor he got a D on the retake too. So, he needed it, but he fought, wined, protested. Once he got the tutor everything was much better. Sitting at a B.

I'm about to force the tutor issue in another class too.

[Anonymous]

These are all crazy overreactions.

Remember, C’s earn degrees.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely no privileges. No screen time, no social. When grades improve it can come back incrementally

[Anonymous]

I'd want to know the reason for the D. Is the kid just not good at school? Not everyone can be above-average. Did he just not try in that course? Was the instructor terrible? Was he impared by drug/alcohol use or lack of sleep? Does the student have learning disabilities that are just now becoming a problem as the material becomes more difficult?

A tutor would be a reasonable response for a smart, motivated, college-bound kid who was having difficulties with the subject matter. This worked for me for one course in high school that was especially difficult.

The parents job is to find out the root cause of this and work to prevent it. Taking away screen time or whatever won't help if the kid is just dumb. A tutor won't help if the kid is on drugs.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see summer school or a tutor as a consequence - I see it as a potential solution to the problem. Let her know the D is a problem and brainstorm together to fix it. Do you need a tutor, and executive function coach, mom to sign off on assignments and check canvas together? Ask her what would help.

[Anonymous]

It would depend entirely on why the D. I got a D in Math and I was an A+ student in everything else. It was the result of years of teachers who taught to the best students only, feeling left behind, no tutoring. It certainly was not for lack of trying.

[Anonymous]

What’s so bad about a D ? At least they passed.