Religion that will help little girl feell good about herself, make peace with existential crisis

[Anonymous]

Just tell me what to say by Betsy Brown Braun (or Braun Brown)

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Anonymous wrote:The church teaches about God's amazing love and grace. They teach that we don't have to do anything to earn God's love; it is simply a gift freely given.

This is the Christian Church in general.

Not really -- some Christian (and other religious institutions) are like this but some Christian churches teach that if we don't follow God's rules, we will be condemned to an eternity in hell where we will burn forever. In fact, that that is a major part of the beliefs of early christianity. Some Christian churches these days don't stress it or even believe it, but many groups do and use it as a way to keep people in line - frightening them with the prospect of eternal damnation.

Come on, MOST christian churches use God's love unconditionally as a hook and then stick it to you on the back end with massive doses of fear and guilt. It's child abuse. God give his love, but if you touch yourself in the wrong spot, or are gay, or have premarital sex - you'll burn in hell!

[Anonymous]

I'd take her to a neighborhood church, where she would be with friends from school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The church teaches about God's amazing love and grace. They teach that we don't have to do anything to earn God's love; it is simply a gift freely given.

This is the Christian Church in general.

Not really -- some Christian (and other religious institutions) are like this but some Christian churches teach that if we don't follow God's rules, we will be condemned to an eternity in hell where we will burn forever. In fact, that that is a major part of the beliefs of early christianity. Some Christian churches these days don't stress it or even believe it, but many groups do and use it as a way to keep people in line - frightening them with the prospect of eternal damnation.

Come on, MOST christian churches use God's love unconditionally as a hook and then stick it to you on the back end with massive doses of fear and guilt. It's child abuse. God give his love, but if you touch yourself in the wrong spot, or are gay, or have premarital sex - you'll burn in hell!

Sorry you had such a bad experience, but that is not at all what Christian churches teach.

[Anonymous]

Really? Im alone in this one huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The church teaches about God's amazing love and grace. They teach that we don't have to do anything to earn God's love; it is simply a gift freely given.

This is the Christian Church in general.

Not really -- some Christian (and other religious institutions) are like this but some Christian churches teach that if we don't follow God's rules, we will be condemned to an eternity in hell where we will burn forever. In fact, that that is a major part of the beliefs of early christianity. Some Christian churches these days don't stress it or even believe it, but many groups do and use it as a way to keep people in line - frightening them with the prospect of eternal damnation.

Come on, MOST christian churches use God's love unconditionally as a hook and then stick it to you on the back end with massive doses of fear and guilt. It's child abuse. God give his love, but if you touch yourself in the wrong spot, or are gay, or have premarital sex - you'll burn in hell!

Sorry you had such a bad experience, but that is not at all what Christian churches teach.

Right, not all -- but the ones that do, won't exactly 'fess up to it when you're considering joining. They will tell you all about God's love. The fear and guilt come later, after you've pledged.

[Anonymous]

If you think you would like to introduce her to Buddhist concepts, teachings, and practice, I recommend SGI-USA, a lay Buddhist organization that has discussion meetings in homes. SGI has a growing and diverse membership in DC-VA-MD, and many of the district and chapter leaders are young women.

SGI USA Northern VA
http://www.sgi-va.org/SGI-VA/Welcome.html
Washington DC Culture Center
http://www.sgi-usa-washingtondc.org/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again, how about a liberal Christian faith that ordains women? My kids are both female; I want them to see women in leadership roles. Google's not helping much...

United Methodist church

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The church teaches about God's amazing love and grace. They teach that we don't have to do anything to earn God's love; it is simply a gift freely given.

This is the Christian Church in general.

Not really -- some Christian (and other religious institutions) are like this but some Christian churches teach that if we don't follow God's rules, we will be condemned to an eternity in hell where we will burn forever. In fact, that that is a major part of the beliefs of early christianity. Some Christian churches these days don't stress it or even believe it, but many groups do and use it as a way to keep people in line - frightening them with the prospect of eternal damnation.

Come on, MOST christian churches use God's love unconditionally as a hook and then stick it to you on the back end with massive doses of fear and guilt. It's child abuse. God give his love, but if you touch yourself in the wrong spot, or are gay, or have premarital sex - you'll burn in hell!

Sorry you had such a bad experience, but that is not at all what Christian churches teach.

Right, not all -- but the ones that do, won't exactly 'fess up to it when you're considering joining. They will tell you all about God's love. The fear and guilt come later, after you've pledged.

It's not a cult or a club, PP. You don't "pledge." In a true Christian, mostly mainline Protestant denominational church at least, you find a church community that you feel comfortable with for whatever reason. Location, you like the preacher or the kids programs, you have friends there. You join and become active, hopefully, but you can leave anytime. Of course you may not agree with every single thing that comes out of everyone else's mouth, but in the true Christian churches, the differences of opinion on peripheral matters are not important. It is following Jesus Christ that holds everyone together at the center.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again, how about a liberal Christian faith that ordains women? My kids are both female; I want them to see women in leadership roles. Google's not helping much...

United Methodist church

+1, or the Presbyterian Church USA. Many Lutheran churches or Episcopalian would also have this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again, how about a liberal Christian faith that ordains women? My kids are both female; I want them to see women in leadership roles. Google's not helping much...

United Methodist church

+1, or the Presbyterian Church USA. Many Lutheran churches or Episcopalian would also have this.

The kid is not looking for female role models in organized religion, she's trying to figure out the meaning of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again, how about a liberal Christian faith that ordains women? My kids are both female; I want them to see women in leadership roles. Google's not helping much...

United Methodist church

+1, or the Presbyterian Church USA. Many Lutheran churches or Episcopalian would also have this.

The kid is not looking for female role models in organized religion, she's trying to figure out the meaning of life.

OP here, imagine she can learn that as effectively from a female pastor as a male one.

Thank you all for the input!

[Anonymous]

Find a nurturing Catholic Church and go with her. It is what you know. It doesn't matter if you are agnostic. You can still go, just don't take communion if you don't feel ready.

Your question is really: my daughter is having a spiritual crisis. Where can I find an easy answer?

Walk the walk with the Catholics and she will get some spiritual knowledge and the tools to make an informed decision when she is ready.

Full disclosure: I am a Jew, as is my son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a nurturing Catholic Church and go with her. It is what you know. It doesn't matter if you are agnostic. You can still go, just don't take communion if you don't feel ready.

Your question is really: my daughter is having a spiritual crisis. Where can I find an easy answer?

Walk the walk with the Catholics and she will get some spiritual knowledge and the tools to make an informed decision when she is ready.

Full disclosure: I am a Jew, as is my son.

This is awful advice. This is why religion perpetuates.

[Anonymous]

OP here, is anyone familiar with this Church?

http://www.stpetersinthewoods.org/