My daughter ALREADY wants to transfer. OMG.

[Anonymous]

I changed my college choice mid July before freshman year. My selected school just never felt "right" and my roomMate assignment freaked me out ( she emailed me from an account named " C*mOnIWannaLayYa" it was the last straw, I knew I needed a smaller school I was much happier at the school I needed up attending! If it just "more fun" then I would advise against switching. If there is more, I'd discuss options

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with that. Two days after my parents dropped me off at college even before classes began I called my mom and told her "This isn't going to work out. I don't want to stay here."

I made no friends and failed every single class I took, and had to leave at the end of the semester.

If she can figure it out before getting there good for her.

Wow, you were a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

Part of being a grownup is following through on your commitments, and I expect my kids to do that. It 's one thing to give the college you've committed to attending a real chance, putting forth your best effort, and then making a well thought out change (not based on Facebook) because it is a bad fit. It's another to not even try. In the real world, you (hopefully) don't file for divorce a month after getting married or quit a new job because you have a tough first week. I would tell my kids that they needed to go and give the first semester 100%. And that over winter break or after freshman year, DH and I would be glad to sit down with them and take a real look and whether a course correction was necessary.

[Anonymous]

In the real world, I'd hope my kid had the guts to call off the wedding if s/he were having real doubts. Another part of being an adult is recognizing when you've made or are about to make a bad decision and cutting your losses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the real world, I'd hope my kid had the guts to call off the wedding if s/he were having real doubts. Another part of being an adult is recognizing when you've made or are about to make a bad decision and cutting your losses.

But would you encourage them to come to the conclusion that they had made a bad decision based solely on some Facebook posts by some random college kids? Part of being a grownup is also knowing that Facebook and reality are not always the same thing.