Shopping with mom

[Anonymous]

Why do you have a relationship with her? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

My Mom is like this and wonders why I never visit or call. She feels like it is her job to be the "only person to tell me the truth". She doesn't want turn into a "yes person, just telling you nice things". She is also afraid that if she doesn't tell me I'm fat, I won't realize it. According to her I'd be 400 lbs if it wasn't for her telling me when I was 115lbs that I was fat. Now that I'm 45 and 160lbs, she is going crazy.

Now I just look at her and say, "you are being mean" and walk away? Seems to work the best and shut her up for a little while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Tell her you're planning to have liposuction with your inheritance!

Nice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be thankful that you have a mom to shop with.
My mom died 3 years ago and I would love to be able to take her out shopping again.
I miss her, her silly comments, and her crazy requests.

You're probably a better daughter who lost the baby weight quickly enough that shopping was pleasant with your mom. You probably also showed your mom you loved her by having skinny friends. Good job pp.

Seriously OP, my mom is similar. Not so much on the weight issue, but everyhing else. And sometimes weight.

Hah! Thanks for a good giggle tonight!

[Anonymous]

My mom used to make comments like that (she passed four years ago). She would justify it by saying "You've got to be cruel to be kind". Funny that - I only ever registered the cruel part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be thankful that you have a mom to shop with.
My mom died 3 years ago and I would love to be able to take her out shopping again.
I miss her, her silly comments, and her crazy requests.

My mom died four years ago, and she was my best friend, and I miss her every day, and if she said anything like OP's mom did our relationship would have suffered.

Please don't use your dead mom card so frivolously. I understand you're in pain, but comments like this don't help anyone and make the bereaved look petty.

Thank you for this. That shit drives me crazy and your response is perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be thankful that you have a mom to shop with.
My mom died 3 years ago and I would love to be able to take her out shopping again.
I miss her, her silly comments, and her crazy requests.

Your loss has nothing to do with OP. The OP's mother is a mean person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One question: why do you still spend time with her? I'm asking earnestly, not to be snarky.

Because she's my mom, and if I didn't, no one else would. Oh, wait, except her sister, who she also treats crappy. I think she has some sort of personality disorder? And I don't think she'd learn to be nicer if I rejected her, either. She'd just feel more persecuted than she already does.

How about telling her "I do not appreciate the shaming comments about my weight. You u have a choice. either we can have a pleasant afternoon shopping together without lots of snide comments or I will leave. Your choice."