What is the craziest thing you have been told at an IEP meeting?

[Anonymous]

Our private neuropsych testing, done by one of the highest regarded groups here, diagnosed my kid with dysgraphia and dyslexia. Examples of my child's writing were placed into the report to highlight the dyslexia as well as the dysgraphia.

At the screening meeting, several of the admin's kept going on and on about what nice handwriting it was and that the report (which was glanced through for about 45 seconds) showed no signs that point to dyslexia.


I left with no IEP obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our private neuropsych testing, done by one of the highest regarded groups here, diagnosed my kid with dysgraphia and dyslexia. Examples of my child's writing were placed into the report to highlight the dyslexia as well as the dysgraphia.

At the screening meeting, several of the admin's kept going on and on about what nice handwriting it was and that the report (which was glanced through for about 45 seconds) showed no signs that point to dyslexia.


I left with no IEP obviously.

We had a similar experience when the school psychologist (who only has Masters degree) challenged the report given by a highly reputable person (she advises the MD State Board of Education) with 3 Ph.D.'s.

[Anonymous]

"I'm thinking Larla really doesn't need physical therapy during this IEP period."

This was (1) from Larla's physical therapist, and (2) Larla has severe cerebral palsy and uses a wheelchair.

"Maybe Larla really isn't very intelligent; maybe her great social skills just make us think she's intelligent."

From the Special Ed Director of Montgomery County Public Schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I'm thinking Larla really doesn't need physical therapy during this IEP period."

This was (1) from Larla's physical therapist, and (2) Larla has severe cerebral palsy and uses a wheelchair.

"Maybe Larla really isn't very intelligent; maybe her great social skills just make us think she's intelligent."

From the Special Ed Director of Montgomery County Public Schools.

Passes evening bottle of wine over to this poster for a swig.

[Anonymous]

OMG! I love this thread! I can relate to so much (and I'm in FCPS, not MCPS)

-Your expectations of your DS are too high. He may not be capable of average work. (This is despite 6 years of testing/assessments done that all indicated DS has average/above average intelligence).
-The recommendations in your neuropsych IEE from [highly esteemed private neuropsych group] aren't valid. They aren't educators and they don't know your DS like we do.
-We can't provide accomodations so your disabled DS can attend [the summer program]. He only gets that in special education and [this program] isn't special ed. (Wrong! He gets the accommodation in all areas and if he doesn't, he can't participate).
-We can't do an OT assessment until there's a signed IEP in place.

[Anonymous]

- We do not need to provide accommodations in (target language), only in English [at a bilingual school where half of the instruction is in target language]

- Your child is not being served well here. If you got him a diagnosis of "emotionally disturbed" we could get him private placement somewhere else.

- Your child is autistic [based on ONE teacher report from a teacher with 2 years of experience, and a psychologist practicing for her first year. Negated by testing from the best in the area]

- Your child will either need to have you along or stay home on field trip days. We can't support his needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:vision specialist told me that parents like to think that vision therapy works because "Parents often spend time and money on things just to feel like they're doing something."

well, this one I have to agree with. its absolutely true that we put more value on things that cost more regardless of what they are!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- We do not need to provide accommodations in (target language), only in English [at a bilingual school where half of the instruction is in target language]

- Your child is not being served well here. If you got him a diagnosis of "emotionally disturbed" we could get him private placement somewhere else.

- Your child is autistic [based on ONE teacher report from a teacher with 2 years of experience, and a psychologist practicing for her first year. Negated by testing from the best in the area]

- Your child will either need to have you along or stay home on field trip days. We can't support his needs.

FCPS tried this with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG! I love this thread! I can relate to so much (and I'm in FCPS, not MCPS)

-Your expectations of your DS are too high. He may not be capable of average work. (This is despite 6 years of testing/assessments done that all indicated DS has average/above average intelligence).
-The recommendations in your neuropsych IEE from [highly esteemed private neuropsych group] aren't valid. They aren't educators and they don't know your DS like we do.
-We can't provide accomodations so your disabled DS can attend [the summer program]. He only gets that in special education and [this program] isn't special ed. (Wrong! He gets the accommodation in all areas and if he doesn't, he can't participate).
-We can't do an OT assessment until there's a signed IEP in place.

Oh my lord yes!! I am on one of the PP's. I have heard almost every single one of these. apparently our private psychologist who we paid $3500 to for extensive testing didnt do "enough" testing on my DS and despite multiple reports from paid professionals saying that DH is not on the spectrum they want me to have her re-do that portion of the testing...because she doesn't know DS they way THEY know DS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! I love this thread! I can relate to so much (and I'm in FCPS, not MCPS)

-Your expectations of your DS are too high. He may not be capable of average work. (This is despite 6 years of testing/assessments done that all indicated DS has average/above average intelligence).
-The recommendations in your neuropsych IEE from [highly esteemed private neuropsych group] aren't valid. They aren't educators and they don't know your DS like we do.
-We can't provide accomodations so your disabled DS can attend [the summer program]. He only gets that in special education and [this program] isn't special ed. (Wrong! He gets the accommodation in all areas and if he doesn't, he can't participate).
-We can't do an OT assessment until there's a signed IEP in place.

Oh my lord yes!! I am on one of the PP's. I have heard almost every single one of these. apparently our private psychologist who we paid $3500 to for extensive testing didnt do "enough" testing on my DS and despite multiple reports from paid professionals saying that DH is not on the spectrum they want me to have her re-do that portion of the testing...because she doesn't know DS they way THEY know DS

^^^ DS not DH! oops!

[Anonymous]

As sad as this thread is, I am relieved to know I am not alone.

[Anonymous]

I have never been to a IEP meeting, but would want to slap the shit out of the mouth saying this crap!! I am so sorry you have had to hear this. i hope things change for you.

[Anonymous]

This is exactly why we left public school 2 years ago!

[Anonymous]

"Children don't stand up in first grade."

-- In response to my request that my disabled daughter spend 45 minutes a day in her prone stander, rather than her wheelchair.

[Anonymous]

"We're having trouble with your child's needs and we don't think this school is a good fit. Have you thought about going somewhere else?" (Public school special ed coordinator)