Friend is cheating on her husband with multiple men

[Anonymous]

Do you live near whore island

[Anonymous]

Is it possible she's have psychiatric issues? A friend of mine went on antidepressants and became extremely disinhibited. She didn't tell us until after it was all over-and was very embarrassed. It was really bad, she did some crazy stuff (and I am not easily shocked) which was then revealed very publicly. Now she is back to her regular self.

If you consider her a friend, I think this is a case where you should say something stern to her about her behavior.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you have very low-quality friends. Time to make some new ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While it's awful what she is doing to her husband, I also feel bad for her. She must have some deep rooted issues that are causing her to act out like this. She is going to be left lonely and even more unhappy than she already is.

Do you know what is going on in their marriage? I ask because I have a friend that when you see her and her husband you think they are a great couple. Behind closed doors he bullies her and has even struck her a few times.

I wouldn't talk to the husband, but if she is a friend of yours, I would talk to her and ask her what she is doing and what is causing her to do it. Maybe by helping your friend, you can get to the heart of the matter.

This is what happened to me, i got flat out told i was unemployable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While it's awful what she is doing to her husband, I also feel bad for her. She must have some deep rooted issues that are causing her to act out like this. She is going to be left lonely and even more unhappy than she already is.

Do you know what is going on in their marriage? I ask because I have a friend that when you see her and her husband you think they are a great couple. Behind closed doors he bullies her and has even struck her a few times.

I wouldn't talk to the husband, but if she is a friend of yours, I would talk to her and ask her what she is doing and what is causing her to do it. Maybe by helping your friend, you can get to the heart of the matter.

This is what happened to me, i got flat out told i was unemployable.

Wrong Thread, I apologize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do guys do when their male friends are cheating on their wives with multiple women?

Guy here: generally speaking, you wouldn't rat out your friend under most circumstances. In general, men place a very high premium on loyalty in their friendships. While I would not participate in actively concealing an affair or providing a false alibi, I personally would keep my mouth shut. It would get messy if I were friends with both spouses, however, as if I learned my friend's spouse was cheating I would feel obligated to tell.

Having said that, in most circumstances guys would try to avoid having anyone else know about their affairs, including their male friends. There really is no upside, and potential downside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's married, why is she 'after' men with money to cheat with? Is her husband not going to notice and question a new expensive handbag or piece of jewelry if they buy her one? Or is her endgame to eventually find someone richer to leave her husband for?

I think if she brings expensive bag her husband won't notice .. As I posted earlier about her buying clothing. And yes I think she secretly hopes that someone richer and better will save her from failed marriage and she would just move to the new place. That's what I think.

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Anonymous wrote:Any chance they have an open marriage or a "don't ask don't tell" thing going on? Maybe her husband gets turned on by her sleeping with other men. Weird dynamic but a friend of mine feels that way about his wife.

No, no open marriage. Her husband is very naive person in certain ways, even if she would bring a lover home he wouldn't suspect anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you live near whore island

You know I guess I really never knew her character? Though I know this woman for over a decade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible she's have psychiatric issues? A friend of mine went on antidepressants and became extremely disinhibited. She didn't tell us until after it was all over-and was very embarrassed. It was really bad, she did some crazy stuff (and I am not easily shocked) which was then revealed very publicly. Now she is back to her regular self.

If you consider her a friend, I think this is a case where you should say something stern to her about her behavior.

Did you stay friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible she's have psychiatric issues? A friend of mine went on antidepressants and became extremely disinhibited. She didn't tell us until after it was all over-and was very embarrassed. It was really bad, she did some crazy stuff (and I am not easily shocked) which was then revealed very publicly. Now she is back to her regular self.

If you consider her a friend, I think this is a case where you should say something stern to her about her behavior.

Did you stay friends?

Yes, we've stayed friends. She made bad choices because she was sick. I couldn't be friends with someone who just went around hurting people and didn't care, but the situation with my friend was not like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible she's have psychiatric issues? A friend of mine went on antidepressants and became extremely disinhibited. She didn't tell us until after it was all over-and was very embarrassed. It was really bad, she did some crazy stuff (and I am not easily shocked) which was then revealed very publicly. Now she is back to her regular self.

If you consider her a friend, I think this is a case where you should say something stern to her about her behavior.

Did you stay friends?

Yes, we've stayed friends. She made bad choices because she was sick. I couldn't be friends with someone who just went around hurting people and didn't care, but the situation with my friend was not like that.

This is OP. My friend I am talking about had some psychological issues in the past. She was bulimic in undergrad and later in professional life she was on antidepressants because of long work hours. Eventually she became SATM and got off the pills. Other than that she has a very sweet, stable personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do guys do when their male friends are cheating on their wives with multiple women?

Guy here: generally speaking, you wouldn't rat out your friend under most circumstances. In general, men place a very high premium on loyalty in their friendships. While I would not participate in actively concealing an affair or providing a false alibi, I personally would keep my mouth shut. It would get messy if I were friends with both spouses, however, as if I learned my friend's spouse was cheating I would feel obligated to tell.

Having said that, in most circumstances guys would try to avoid having anyone else know about their affairs, including their male friends. There really is no upside, and potential downside.

Men stick together. What else is new?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible she's have psychiatric issues? A friend of mine went on antidepressants and became extremely disinhibited. She didn't tell us until after it was all over-and was very embarrassed. It was really bad, she did some crazy stuff (and I am not easily shocked) which was then revealed very publicly. Now she is back to her regular self.

If you consider her a friend, I think this is a case where you should say something stern to her about her behavior.

Did you stay friends?

Yes, we've stayed friends. She made bad choices because she was sick. I couldn't be friends with someone who just went around hurting people and didn't care, but the situation with my friend was not like that.

This is OP. My friend I am talking about had some psychological issues in the past. She was bulimic in undergrad and later in professional life she was on antidepressants because of long work hours. Eventually she became SATM and got off the pills. Other than that she has a very sweet, stable personality.

In that case, I would sit down with her and say something like: "I'm your friend, I care about you, and I'm really worried. Usually you are such a sweet, nice person. Now you're cheating on your husband and running around with all these guys. That isn't like you. If there is something bad going on between you and your husband, you can tell me and I'll try to help. I really hope you will get an appointment with a therapist this week. I can help you find someone and I can drive you the appointment. Please know that I'm only saying this because I care about you."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do guys do when their male friends are cheating on their wives with multiple women?

Guy here: generally speaking, you wouldn't rat out your friend under most circumstances. In general, men place a very high premium on loyalty in their friendships. While I would not participate in actively concealing an affair or providing a false alibi, I personally would keep my mouth shut. It would get messy if I were friends with both spouses, however, as if I learned my friend's spouse was cheating I would feel obligated to tell.

Having said that, in most circumstances guys would try to avoid having anyone else know about their affairs, including their male friends. There really is no upside, and potential downside.

Men stick together. What else is new?

Within reason, yes. I only responded because of my sense that female friendships often seem rather different on this point.