Friend is cheating on her husband with multiple men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While it's awful what she is doing to her husband, I also feel bad for her. She must have some deep rooted issues that are causing her to act out like this. She is going to be left lonely and even more unhappy than she already is.

Do you know what is going on in their marriage? I ask because I have a friend that when you see her and her husband you think they are a great couple. Behind closed doors he bullies her and has even struck her a few times.

I wouldn't talk to the husband, but if she is a friend of yours, I would talk to her and ask her what she is doing and what is causing her to do it. Maybe by helping your friend, you can get to the heart of the matter.

+1

Unfortunately, there are people that marry for money and nothing more, and it is sad. Usually, there are self esteem issues.

[Anonymous]

To each his or in your case...HER own.

If her behavior truly disgusts you, then that is a clear sign that you and her are not a good match.

And that the friendship has run its course.

If I were you, I would look into what is hurting her now. For her to suddenly practice such extreme behavior makes me wonder if something mentally is happening here.

[Anonymous]

The interesting thing is that she's cheating on her DH with more than one man. I guess if you're going to dig for gold it's better to keep the shovel moving at a rapid pace!

[Anonymous]

Thanks for responses. Yes it's been a problem in a marriage for many years already. Her husband is lazy, asexual and very frugal. Frugal not in a good way, she can't even get a nice meal when they are out( that's what she told me). But at the same time she was SAHM for many many years and when she would go shopping she would spend thousands on clothing. When I would ask what her DH say about such spending she would respond he doesn't know and that she hides it. Very strange to me but I didn't question it much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do I just keep my opinion to myself ? I feel abit disgusted and disappointed. She is also after men with money.

Please consider choosing companions with higher morals in the future. You are correct in feeling disgusted, because of the ugliness which is adultery. This type is friend to no person. By remaining friends with this woman, you are also in a sense, turning the knife in her husband's back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He'll find out eventually.

I would just distance myself from her and and let karma handle the rest.

This

I second. No good will come from you opening your mouth, let him find out on his own or better yet, he probably already suspects something.

[Anonymous]

This is OP again. To answer someone's questions and defend her a little bit, yes she did marry very young. she said she wants to have someone as a friend, have long intellectual conversations and this completely lacks in her marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for responses. Yes it's been a problem in a marriage for many years already. Her husband is lazy, asexual and very frugal. Frugal not in a good way, she can't even get a nice meal when they are out( that's what she told me). But at the same time she was SAHM for many many years and when she would go shopping she would spend thousands on clothing. When I would ask what her DH say about such spending she would respond he doesn't know and that she hides it. Very strange to me but I didn't question it much.

How in the world did she hide expensive clothing? Did he never look at the bills or not have financial discussions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for responses. Yes it's been a problem in a marriage for many years already. Her husband is lazy, asexual and very frugal. Frugal not in a good way, she can't even get a nice meal when they are out( that's what she told me). But at the same time she was SAHM for many many years and when she would go shopping she would spend thousands on clothing. When I would ask what her DH say about such spending she would respond he doesn't know and that she hides it. Very strange to me but I didn't question it much.

How in the world did she hide expensive clothing? Did he never look at the bills or not have financial discussions?

I have no idea. She said he wouldn't notice if she shaves her head.

[Anonymous]

What do guys do when their male friends are cheating on their wives with multiple women?

[Anonymous]

OP,

Sleeping around this much is sometimes a sign of mental illness, not loose morals or boredom. So suspend your judgement for while. She may have some kind of psychotic break soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP,

Sleeping around this much is sometimes a sign of mental illness, not loose morals or boredom. So suspend your judgement for while. She may have some kind of psychotic break soon.

Looks like she has a pattern of dishonest behavior. There might be other issues, sure, but there is no reason to make excuses for breaking vows, lying, etc.

[Anonymous]

She may be going through something or unhappy in her marriage. Not that this justifies it. My best friend cheated on her husband, now ex-husband, a lot when their marriage was on the rocks. She even got pregnant by another man but miscarried the baby. I believe she was acting out because she was really unhappy plus her husband had cheated on her.

[Anonymous]

Teenagers aren't the only ones passing STDs/ STIs/ whatever you call them around. He absolutely deserves to know fOr thereof his health.

[Anonymous]

^^^iphone.. Ugh for the sake of his health