Bad Breath Etiquette

[Anonymous]

OP, is this something you trying to say out of spite? Not clear if you are helping or not.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you doing this to be mean spirited or actually helpful? I am not clear. Are you looking for something/someone to pick on? Are you joining the crowd?

This is a good question. Which is it OP? If you care to help her, that's one thing. If you are just being judgmental and want to embarress her, that's another.

OP, is this something you trying to say out of spite? Not clear if you are helping or not.

Not OP but considering OP has said several times she doesn't want to embarrass this woman and would like advice from those who have btdt on how to do this delicately I think it is very clear she is trying to help her. OP did say she was "chicken" and also worried about mentioning the bad breath if this woman had a medical condition and she couldn't help it. Where is the judgement and spite?

[Anonymous]

Sorry reposting for format clarity.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you doing this to be mean spirited or actually helpful? I am not clear. Are you looking for something/someone to pick on? Are you joining the crowd?

This is a good question. Which is it OP? If you care to help her, that's one thing. If you are just being judgmental and want to embarress her, that's another.

OP, is this something you trying to say out of spite? Not clear if you are helping or not.

Not OP but considering OP has said several times she doesn't want to embarrass this woman and would like advice from those who have btdt on how to do this delicately I think it is very clear she is trying to help her. OP did say she was "chicken" and also worried about mentioning the bad breath if this woman had a medical condition and she couldn't help it. Where is the judgement and spite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry reposting for format clarity.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you doing this to be mean spirited or actually helpful? I am not clear. Are you looking for something/someone to pick on? Are you joining the crowd?

This is a good question. Which is it OP? If you care to help her, that's one thing. If you are just being judgmental and want to embarress her, that's another.

OP, is this something you trying to say out of spite? Not clear if you are helping or not.

Not OP but considering OP has said several times she doesn't want to embarrass this woman and would like advice from those who have btdt on how to do this delicately I think it is very clear she is trying to help her. OP did say she was "chicken" and also worried about mentioning the bad breath if this woman had a medical condition and she couldn't help it. Where is the judgement and spite?

Sounds like something the "snifflier than thous" would make up, to try to ostracize the hot new girl that their husbands notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry reposting for format clarity.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you doing this to be mean spirited or actually helpful? I am not clear. Are you looking for something/someone to pick on? Are you joining the crowd?

This is a good question. Which is it OP? If you care to help her, that's one thing. If you are just being judgmental and want to embarress her, that's another.

OP, is this something you trying to say out of spite? Not clear if you are helping or not.

Not OP but considering OP has said several times she doesn't want to embarrass this woman and would like advice from those who have btdt on how to do this delicately I think it is very clear she is trying to help her. OP did say she was "chicken" and also worried about mentioning the bad breath if this woman had a medical condition and she couldn't help it. Where is the judgement and spite?

Sounds like something the "snifflier than thous" would make up, to try to ostracize the hot new girl that their husbands notice.

the fuck? are you on something?

[Anonymous]

omg another op who cannot even ask some simple advice without being made out to be the bad guy...

[Anonymous]

Telling someone they have bad breath is am almost impossible situation to deal with because its so sensitive and whatever you do they are likely to be very embarrassed and offended.

At School I was bullied because of my breath and felt absolutely worthless. I had major orthodontics which included a succession of braces including twin blocks and Retainers and the main cause of my problem was a mouthful of plastic appliances for years on end which were hard to keep clean. I know that now but I didn't know how to deal with it at the time and would've really appreciated someone giving me honest and helpful advice rather than being laughed at and talked about behind my back. This lady night appreciate a sensitive and tactful but if feedback and you could say it is something you have started to notice and you've had the priblem yourself (to make her feel a bit better) and wanted just to point this out to save her any embarrassment!
You never no she might thank you and do something about it

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand, if it's that bad how is it that no one has told her? How old is her son? Children are usually brutally honest and the first ones to point out things. Is she married?

She is married but I have only seen her husband a few times since I met her, so I couldn't tell you much about him. Her son is 9 she has older children as well. Everyone talks about her bad breath (horrible I know but it is what it is) but no one has told her to my knowledge. My daughter made a face and started crying saying "stinky mommy" when she was 4 after this lady bent down to speak to her, but I hushed her up quickly and played it off. So yes, maybe a child has told her, I do not know.

Wow, if it actually made your child cry then it must be wretched. I know people with bad breath but neighbors don't talk about it with each other; if, as you say, everyone talks about this woman then you will be doing her a favor kindly letting her know.

[Anonymous]

You: "Hey Jean, I need to tell you something quite private. Would you mind stepping over there where we have some privacy?"
Jean: "Sure, what is it?"
You: "I just wanted to let you know you have pretty bad breath. I am not sure if you know or not but I really like you so I wanted to let you know."

Then react to whatever she replies. She might explain what's going on. She might run away ashamed. She might stutter. Whatever she does I guarantee you she will be THANKFUL to no end that someone told her. It gives her the chance to do something about it and stop people talking behind her back (which is disgusting by the way).

[Anonymous]

Could you offer her the name of your dentist and give her the name of a hygienist that you like?

Bad breath like that is often related to an underlying medical issue. Diabetes, etc.

[Anonymous]

Wear a gas mask next time you see her. Or just say, what's that smell?

[Anonymous]

maybe she is a big time alcoholic - they can get shit breath like this.

[Anonymous]

Smoking can do this.

[Anonymous]

Am I a terrible person because the Golden Child tic tac reference made me laugh? OP should try this.