We are spending your inheritance

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Anonymous wrote:My FIL is like this. He loves to talk about how flush he is (we are in that crappy daycare paying small child financial hell). I think it's fine. I don't love it but I don't begrudge him either. You can't take it with you and you earned it. So spend on, old cat.

You sound very, very resentful and jealous indeed.

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I hear this from blue-collar and first-generation educated types who lived conservatively all their lives and ended up approaching retirement with what feels to them like a lot of money. They finally feel able to indulge themselves and they are enjoying their perceived affluence. It is a crass way to speak, but let them pat themselves on the back and while you are at it, do a little patting yourself. Try a a smile and something alone the lines of "Ha ha--we're just thrilled to see you enjoying the fruits of all your hard work. You've earned it."

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My guess is that there is an underlying discomfort among many of these seniors in spending what they have saved.

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I do think that anyone who is bothered by this phrase is harboring resentment that it isn't coming to them now or later. If not, the phrase wouldn't even cross your radar much less irritate you.

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This is a very common phrase. Just let it go

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Anonymous wrote:I hear this from blue-collar and first-generation educated types who lived conservatively all their lives and ended up approaching retirement with what feels to them like a lot of money. They finally feel able to indulge themselves and they are enjoying their perceived affluence. It is a crass way to speak, but let them pat themselves on the back and while you are at it, do a little patting yourself. Try a a smile and something alone the lines of "Ha ha--we're just thrilled to see you enjoying the fruits of all your hard work. You've earned it."

Exactly. Good for you for having that insight. I would just say, "Enjoy!" with a big smile on my face.

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Scumbag boomers

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Anonymous wrote: Maybe they think it's funny.

This. It might not be a commentary on you at all, just a joke about themselves. You might be reading too much into this.

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My mom said this in an email as a sign-off today. Maybe some parents are laying a big trip when they say it, but it's clearly a joke from mine and I've never thought twice about it. They aren't professional comedians. I am way more uncomfortable when my FIL frets about what he'll be able to leave us (not much, and who cares it's not our money! He's a lovely person, that's plenty).

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"Then we better hurry up & kill you off before all the money is gone."

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"just as long as the nursing home is prepaid! LOL! I'd hate to see you out on the street

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Anonymous wrote:I do think that anyone who is bothered by this phrase is harboring resentment that it isn't coming to them now or later. If not, the phrase wouldn't even cross your radar much less irritate you.

I disagree. The speaker is implying that the listener wants or expects their inheritance. It's crass.

Next they should say, "dad and i are heading upstairs to try to get you a brother!"

TMI

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It's a common joke.

Stimes when I want my frugal parents to treat themselves - pay for a first class upgrade, stay in a nicer hotel - I joke, "take it outta my inheritance!"

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Anonymous wrote:Scumbag boomers

They aren't boomers. Silent gen.