DW no longer looks attractive to me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW is great, I love her, and there aren't any deeper issues. She just has gained weight and is starting to look older. I think a large part of the changes are due to the stress of having kids. I feel like a jerk for not being attracted to her any more. I don't want to say anything to her.

Are there any tips for getting the lust back? We're still having sex about 2-3 times a month, so it's n not that bad, but I'm less interested than I would like to be.

how about suggesting a new physical activity for you BOTH? Walking, hiking, tennis, golf whatever...it will bring you closer, make you both feel better about yourselves and in turn, each other.

[Anonymous]

Mommy make over

[Anonymous]

Doubtful you can make yourself less shallow. Just divorce her, trade her in for a younger model, that's what most do. Who cares how your children will feel about it.

[Anonymous]

Is she depressed? When Ive been depressed I let myself go because I just don't care about anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pitch in around the house more and with the kids so your wife is less stressed. Make time for your wife to exercise or have some me time. She would probably love to lose weight but doesn't have the time to do it.

Please.

I work FT and have a husband who travels frequently for work. I've lost 30 lbs 5 years ago, work out 5 mornings a week, and eat healthy.

Eating healthy takes no extra time or energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pitch in around the house more and with the kids so your wife is less stressed. Make time for your wife to exercise or have some me time. She would probably love to lose weight but doesn't have the time to do it.

Please.

I work FT and have a husband who travels frequently for work. I've lost 30 lbs 5 years ago, work out 5 mornings a week, and eat healthy.

Eating healthy takes no extra time or energy.

Wish we could all be as self disciplined and perfect as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pitch in around the house more and with the kids so your wife is less stressed. Make time for your wife to exercise or have some me time. She would probably love to lose weight but doesn't have the time to do it.

Please.

I work FT and have a husband who travels frequently for work. I've lost 30 lbs 5 years ago, work out 5 mornings a week, and eat healthy.

Eating healthy takes no extra time or energy.

Wish we could all be as self disciplined and perfect as you.

I'm far from perfect.

Most women who happen to be working married mother also manage to maintain themselves as well. This is far from novel or rare. I just hear a bunch of excuses. Saying that somehow if the DH does more work around the house will make mom reprioritize is complete excuse making and bullshit.

Something tells me that.if many of these women spent less time on facebook, pinterest, or got their DCUM addiction under control, they'd have more time to exercise Or do the daunting herculean effort it takes to steam some broccoli and grill some chicken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should have put in there that I know I've gotten fat and old too, but it seems to bother DW less that I'm going downhill.

How do married couples continue to be sexually interested in each other for decades? It baffles me. Is there a secret?

Thanks for the practical tips.

Just knowing she is a better person than you should turn you on again.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is your shallow issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should have put in there that I know I've gotten fat and old too, but it seems to bother DW less that I'm going downhill.

How do married couples continue to be sexually interested in each other for decades? It baffles me. Is there a secret?

Thanks for the practical tips.

Just knowing she is a better person than you should turn you on again.

How does that make her a better person? I'm a think DW, my husband would probably be much less attracted if I gained weight; as he never liked heavy women. On the other hand, I don't like scrawny guys and I'm more attracted to a great smile and kind eyes than I am to great body. So he's gotten heavier and I don't care so much. Doesn't make me better than him. Makes me lucky!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should have put in there that I know I've gotten fat and old too, but it seems to bother DW less that I'm going downhill.

How do married couples continue to be sexually interested in each other for decades? It baffles me. Is there a secret?

Thanks for the practical tips.

Just knowing she is a better person than you should turn you on again.

How does that make her a better person? I'm a think DW, my husband would probably be much less attracted if I gained weight; as he never liked heavy women. On the other hand, I don't like scrawny guys and I'm more attracted to a great smile and kind eyes than I am to great body. So he's gotten heavier and I don't care so much. Doesn't make me better than him. Makes me lucky!

Oops. I'm a thin DW, who apparently needs to proofread more.

[Anonymous]

I would be honest with her, but at a certain point you have to accept that looks for both men and women go down overtime. My husband used to be very muscular and fit, now he has a small belly and I find it unattractive. I've told him and he loses it and then gains it back. With kids and work, it's easy to let oneself go.

Also, maybe you two can join a gym together. That's my next step with Dh. Take her shopping and offer to buy her new outfits, jewelry and suggest new hairstyles.

[Anonymous]

You know how when you'd kiss your great-grandma's cheek, and her skin would almost stick to your lips, eerily soft and thin? That's how my husband's body is aging. We all have to come to terms with aging. We could both stand to exercise.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Everyone ages. However, there is never an excuse to throw in the towel before the age of 75. I see some of the Heffers at my kids school and go home thankful for what I've got.

[Anonymous]

Im older and fatter and I can't get my husband to keep his hands off me. Please tell me your wifes secret, Im so tried. I thought by 55 yrs he would slow down.