Would it be too Mommy Dearest...?

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Anonymous wrote:ok, so maybe it's not a good plan. i guess i will continue to let her break things. sigh. thanks DCUMs (who all must have empty rooms since everything that is of value is locked away)

THAT'S the message you got from these responses? Continue to let her break things?

Oh, brother. You're hopeless, OP.

And a little stupid. You paid for your daughter's things - wouldn't breaking them be cutting off your own nose to spite your face?

that would be stupid. good that was'nt my plan

So you were going to break items that other people gave your daughter but not that you gave her?

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP, seldom is there such a consensus on DCUM. So what did she break exactly? I can't think of many of my possessions that are in reach of my five year old that would be so devastating for me to lose.

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I don't get the "kids break adult things..it's normal" responses. I don't think it's normal for a six year old to continually take things out of the parent's room, and play with it. My DD knows never to go into my room and take anything out, or touch anything in my room that doesn't belong to her. She has a few times gone in and taken paper out of my office (in my room). I remind her that she isn't allowed to do things like that, that she must ask first. She asks me if she can go into my closet and try on my shoes and stuff. Mostly, she follows this rule.

I think it's normal for kids to certainly go through their parents' things out of curiosity, but I would think that if the kid knows the consequence of the parent finding out is going to be really bad, that the kid will stop.

I remember rifling through my mother's things as a child, but I would never take it out and play with it for fear of being caught and spanked.

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Seriously OP, what did she break???

[Anonymous]

I understand your frustration op. I am going through the same thing with my 5y old girl. She suddenly has taken a great interest for my stuff. We just moved and amidst all the boxes and unpacking, she has had PLENTY of opportunity to mischief.

As soon as we move she got a hold of my little basket that holds all my perfume bottles - OH MY GOD. SHE WOULD BATH herself in all of them. It was horrible. It kept happening until I found a good place to hide the basket.

Then she found my make up - up until last year she would only watch me while applying make up and sometimes I would put a tiny bit on her for fun, like a light stroke of a brush in her face. But now she is not content in watching me anymore… she gets the stuff and goes to town! YOu should see what she did with the mascara! And she used my expensive lipstick and closed it without putting it down first - broke half of it. So, I hid that as well and now I apply make up hidden from her so she doesn't find out where is the make up stuff.

The other day I found little pieces of a thin gold necklace in her bathroom trash can. It turns out, she got hold of an (ugly) necklace that she loved because it had all this different gemstones. The necklace itself was very thin so she managed to cut it in many pieces with her scissors and I found all the gems laying pretty in her room.

So needless to say, we are having lots of talk lately about respecting other's people stuff, asking for permission first, etc. I didn't punish my dd for the perfume or make up, but I did for the necklace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the "kids break adult things..it's normal" responses. I don't think it's normal for a six year old to continually take things out of the parent's room, and play with it. My DD knows never to go into my room and take anything out, or touch anything in my room that doesn't belong to her. She has a few times gone in and taken paper out of my office (in my room). I remind her that she isn't allowed to do things like that, that she must ask first. She asks me if she can go into my closet and try on my shoes and stuff. Mostly, she follows this rule.

I think it's normal for kids to certainly go through their parents' things out of curiosity, but I would think that if the kid knows the consequence of the parent finding out is going to be really bad, that the kid will stop.

I remember rifling through my mother's things as a child, but I would never take it out and play with it for fear of being caught and spanked.

Exactly, there isn't anything wrong with Op, there is something wrong with these weird posters. I don't like the Op's solution, but discipline is in order. 6 is old enough to have clear rules on what she can and can't touch. I'm shocked at some of these posters. Op, she's old enough to know better. Don't let her get away with doing what she wants. You have your possessions and she has hers. Weird responses.

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I am surprised by all the people who think it's normal for a 6 yr old to deliberately disobey, take something that doesn't belong to them and to break things. They should be past all these behaviors by 4.

OP I'm not sure I'd go so far as to break something, mainly because it ends up in the landfill then, but I'd absolutely take something and give it to Goodwill. Make sure she's warned and then FOLLOW THROUGH. Make sure it's something she'll be sorry to see go, not some old toy from the back of the closet.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps you should take your 6 year old to a therapist to figure it out. Sounds like both of you need adjustments to how you deal with each other.

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you should take your 6 year old to a therapist to figure it out. Sounds like both of you need adjustments to how you deal with each other.

What is wrong with Op? She just needs to discipline her kid. All these other posters can let their kid walk all over them, but I don't get it. She's touching things that aren't hers, and they are blaming Op. Crazy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you should take your 6 year old to a therapist to figure it out. Sounds like both of you need adjustments to how you deal with each other.

What is wrong with Op? She just needs to discipline her kid. All these other posters can let their kid walk all over them, but I don't get it. She's touching things that aren't hers, and they are blaming Op. Crazy

OP clearly has no idea how to parent.

But I bet she knows how to sock puppet.

[Anonymous]

I can understand that you're frustrated. How about locking all the fragile stuff that you have in your room? At some point I would talk to her pediatrician about.

[Anonymous]

I was exactly like this as a child OP.
I had an endless curiosity and the need to be hands on with everything.
I broke many items as a child.
I mixed many of moms lotions and perfumes into "potions".
I was never punished for it.
I do remember my mom talking to me about it.
She also provided me with many "safe" items that did help a bit
I did eventually grow out of it to a point.
I am still very hands on but I get that out of my system by working as a scientist and in my spare time creating art.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you should take your 6 year old to a therapist to figure it out. Sounds like both of you need adjustments to how you deal with each other.

What is wrong with Op? She just needs to discipline her kid. All these other posters can let their kid walk all over them, but I don't get it. She's touching things that aren't hers, and they are blaming Op. Crazy

OP clearly has no idea how to parent.

But I bet she knows how to sock puppet.

Sock puppet. I guarantee that I'm not Op, but I'm shocked at your parenting skills, btw, if you think it's ok for a 6 year old to continue to take her mom's things. I also guarantee that you don't know how to parent, if you think that's ok, and you don't discipline, whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps you should take your 6 year old to a therapist to figure it out. Sounds like both of you need adjustments to how you deal with each other.

What is wrong with Op? She just needs to discipline her kid. All these other posters can let their kid walk all over them, but I don't get it. She's touching things that aren't hers, and they are blaming Op. Crazy

OP clearly has no idea how to parent.

But I bet she knows how to sock puppet.

I know, right. Too funny. What are the chances of this many practically illiterate people writing in a row and sharing the same distorted view. None.

[Anonymous]

My hyperactive 3yo boy doesn't break that much stuff.

I'll repeat: WHAT KIND OF STUFF ARE WE TALKING ABOUT?

Your prized Precious Moments figurine collection?

If so, thank her.