If your in-laws don't do something that most overnight guests do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP,

I was angry on your behalf in your original thread, but your whining here is beyond petty. Different people have different customs. I don't expect guests to lift a finger in my house, and would prefer them not to strip their beds. The Play-Doh is unfortunate and annoying, but really, who cares? Their greatest crime by far is dropping by unannounced.

Save your anger these threads are FAUX!

[Anonymous]

I ask the host what he/she prefers. Some prefer the bed be stripped because they launder/remake the bed right away. MOST prefer that the bed just be made back up. And they will freshly launder the sheets right before the next guest arrives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are your napkins folded?

I was wondering the same thing.

Huh? I don't get it. Not op but of course the cloth ones are. What am I missing?

There was a thread titled "rude guest" or something recently by a crazy woman lamenting that her visiting 18 year old brother did not fold the cloth napkins after dinner; that he had let her husband inflate the bed instead of doing it himself; that he had parked his suitcase in a different spot from where she had told him to put it... and this poor young man was therefore RUDE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always strip the bed when we leave our in-laws' place. Often I will launder the sheets too...

+1 I was taught to always clean after myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ask the host what he/she prefers. Some prefer the bed be stripped because they launder/remake the bed right away. MOST prefer that the bed just be made back up. And they will freshly launder the sheets right before the next guest arrives.

Ding, ding, ding... we have a winner. Just ask.

[Anonymous]

We always strip the bed at my parents and in-laws house. We also gather up the dirty towels too and put them near the washer (or wherever they want them left). At my house I'd never want to leave dirty sheets on a guest bed and have it remade. I'd prefer it be stripped (or I strip it) and wash them soon after guests leave and then put them back on for next time someone visits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Is it common for people to take the sheets off the bed or make it before they leave? They are the first ones that have stayed with us that haven't done this. I can't remember what they did last time, but I think they took the sheets off. If I ask them more about it wouldn't I be calling them out on their lack of manners?"

Cray cray. Are you Asian?

Not OP, not Asian, and I always strip my bed after being an overnight guest in someone's home. I also ask the hostess if she prefers me to start a laundry load with the sheets I just took from my bed or to drop them in a laundry basket for her to deal with later. I also gather any towels that were provided to me together with the bed sheets. To me, it's basic courtesy.

To this date, I was never told "Please, do start a laundry load". I was always thanked for taking care of that chore and told it was ok to just leave the whole bundle on the mattress and that it would be laundered later.

[Anonymous]

I am polite as fuck, and honestly, it never occurred to me to strip the guest sheets until I met my husband and learned he did.

Even then, it seems a little out of bounds to do at most homes when you don't know where to put them or if they want to make the bed now or later. So I typically just remake the bed and put my used towels in a neat stack in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is a loon, but I always strip the bad, and so do our guests. You remake the bed with what's left and lesv ed the dirty sheet so folded 9th the bed, sort of like a PP leaves the dirty towels in a folded pile in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

OMG OP - Pick your battles. You don't get to whine about every single little thing.

[Anonymous]

Who doesn't strip the bed when you leave? When we have company, they strip the bed and I wash, dry, and remake the guest bed within a day. That way it is one less thing to do when we are expecting company.

[Anonymous]

I didn't see the other thread, but...

OP's IL's basically invited themselves to her house. In fact, they didn't even go through the formality of inviting themselves, they just showed up.

Does nobody else see a problem here? FWIW, SIL and BIL often invite themselves to stay at our place and then they refuse to lift a finger. I feel like I have no choice in whether I want to play Housemaid during my few precious days of annual leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who doesn't strip the bed when you leave? When we have company, they strip the bed and I wash, dry, and remake the guest bed within a day. That way it is one less thing to do when we are expecting company.

+1. I don't remake the guest bed, though. I just put the sheets away and pull the coverlet over the top of the bed so it looks made. Otherwise, if there's a gap of a few months, the sheets might get a little musty.