Racial issues in DCPS for mixed race kids

[Anonymous]

We know a kid who is 1/4 black 1/4 Asian and 1/2 white. Mom is half black/half white. Dad is half white/half Asian. Kid looks white or half white/half Asian. People treat him like he is white because he looks white.

DH who normally doesn't discuss race was shocked the mother was the kid's mother because the mother looks very black.

Ultimately I think it depends on the color of your child's skin. I want to say the skin color won't matter but it will. If your child is dark, he will be treated like a black kid.

[Anonymous]

It would be child abuse for me to raise my white looking blue-eyed blonde daughter as black. I only have this suggested to me by old school AAs who dislike white people. They actually change their tune once they see the kid. She's platinum blonde and very blue-eyed. Once they see her picture, they give a strange side-eye look amazed and then say, yeah, I understand why you wouldn't.

Regarding self-selecting for myself- I look very biracial- I only get flack from AAs when I tell them I am not black, but biracial. They invariably tell me that I'm black because at some point in my life I will be called the N word. That is the dumbest bull I've ever heard. But, it's a pervasive talking point because I hear it all of the time.
Oddly enough I have never been called the N word except when AAs are warning me it's coming. They are the problem!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused by this conversation. It's interesting. Many of my biracial friends and their kids identify as black, which is very different from my kid doesn't look black and he's treated as Latino. If you raise your kid as black, they will believe they are black. It's almost as if you don't want them to identify. All of this 1/4 this and 3/4 that is just dumb. Eventually, someone is going to call you kid a nigger and you better be prepared.

You are out of your mind and I hope you are not at my child's charter. My child is technically 1/8th black and looks completely white. I couldn't raise him black if I wanted to. He would look at me like I'm crazy. Why would you try to force a race on a child? That's what's stupid. I couldn't imagine why anyone would ever call him a racial slur, unless they would randomly call a white child the "N" word. It's attitudes like yours that keep the racial status quo going. I'm just glad that my child's school is diverse with people from everywhere and they're all accepting. This is how the world is in my neck of the woods.

prior posters original comments are crazy except for this 1/8 black stuff, kids don't identify as such. You say why force races on kid and comment on caller saying child will be call N word, but you yourself label the child as white!!! I'm biracial and could be labeled many different ways but choose black, America is a strange beast for a biracial child, if you're a white parent you might be surprised by what your child chooses to determine their race to be and it might not be what you yourself choose for them.

[Anonymous]

Everyone calm down and let the one-drop rule take its place in the dustbin of history

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused by this conversation. It's interesting. Many of my biracial friends and their kids identify as black, which is very different from my kid doesn't look black and he's treated as Latino. If you raise your kid as black, they will believe they are black. It's almost as if you don't want them to identify. All of this 1/4 this and 3/4 that is just dumb. Eventually, someone is going to call you kid a nigger and you better be prepared.

Will the person calling them that name be you? Because you sound a little unhinged and I'm not sure what your point is. Regardless of how you raise your kid, other people's (and teachers') perceptions are going to play their own role.

This. These whack jobs that talk about all the racists who will be on the attack when it's really them need to get help. There's a lot of haters like the "n" word poster who are the problem for mixed kids. They're fine when they're left alone and allowed to choose their own identity without reverse racists spewing their Jim Crow nonsense.

There was a recent WaPo article by Lawrence Otis Graham, I believe his son is not mixed but fairer skinned, and he was called the N word for the first time at 15 and pretty much came undone. When parents tell you to prepare your child it's not because they wish for it to happen, but because it's pretty rough for that to happen period, and doubly so when the child is completely unprepared.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused by this conversation. It's interesting. Many of my biracial friends and their kids identify as black, which is very different from my kid doesn't look black and he's treated as Latino. If you raise your kid as black, they will believe they are black. It's almost as if you don't want them to identify. All of this 1/4 this and 3/4 that is just dumb. Eventually, someone is going to call you kid a nigger and you better be prepared.

You are out of your mind and I hope you are not at my child's charter. My child is technically 1/8th black and looks completely white. I couldn't raise him black if I wanted to. He would look at me like I'm crazy. Why would you try to force a race on a child? That's what's stupid. I couldn't imagine why anyone would ever call him a racial slur, unless they would randomly call a white child the "N" word. It's attitudes like yours that keep the racial status quo going. I'm just glad that my child's school is diverse with people from everywhere and they're all accepting. This is how the world is in my neck of the woods.

prior posters original comments are crazy except for this 1/8 black stuff, kids don't identify as such. You say why force races on kid and comment on caller saying child will be call N word, but you yourself label the child as white!!! I'm biracial and could be labeled many different ways but choose black, America is a strange beast for a biracial child, if you're a white parent you might be surprised by what your child chooses to determine their race to be and it might not be what you yourself choose for them.

Alert. Reading comprehension skills needed. Poster does not say child is white. Nonetheless, you're a typical AA who's mad at biracials who don't fall in lockstep with Jim Crow. Many more biracials identify as white and fear-mongering by AAs anxious to maintain the status quo can't stop them. I identify as white and only have AAs upset. Funny how things go 360. They are the racists.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused by this conversation. It's interesting. Many of my biracial friends and their kids identify as black, which is very different from my kid doesn't look black and he's treated as Latino. If you raise your kid as black, they will believe they are black. It's almost as if you don't want them to identify. All of this 1/4 this and 3/4 that is just dumb. Eventually, someone is going to call you kid a nigger and you better be prepared.

Will the person calling them that name be you? Because you sound a little unhinged and I'm not sure what your point is. Regardless of how you raise your kid, other people's (and teachers') perceptions are going to play their own role.

This. These whack jobs that talk about all the racists who will be on the attack when it's really them need to get help. There's a lot of haters like the "n" word poster who are the problem for mixed kids. They're fine when they're left alone and allowed to choose their own identity without reverse racists spewing their Jim Crow nonsense.

There was a recent WaPo article by Lawrence Otis Graham, I believe his son is not mixed but fairer skinned, and he was called the N word for the first time at 15 and pretty much came undone. When parents tell you to prepare your child it's not because they wish for it to happen, but because it's pretty rough for that to happen period, and doubly so when the child is completely unprepared.

In that case I encourage all white parents to prepare for the day when their child is called the N word.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused by this conversation. It's interesting. Many of my biracial friends and their kids identify as black, which is very different from my kid doesn't look black and he's treated as Latino. If you raise your kid as black, they will believe they are black. It's almost as if you don't want them to identify. All of this 1/4 this and 3/4 that is just dumb. Eventually, someone is going to call you kid a nigger and you better be prepared.

Will the person calling them that name be you? Because you sound a little unhinged and I'm not sure what your point is. Regardless of how you raise your kid, other people's (and teachers') perceptions are going to play their own role.

This. These whack jobs that talk about all the racists who will be on the attack when it's really them need to get help. There's a lot of haters like the "n" word poster who are the problem for mixed kids. They're fine when they're left alone and allowed to choose their own identity without reverse racists spewing their Jim Crow nonsense.

There was a recent WaPo article by Lawrence Otis Graham, I believe his son is not mixed but fairer skinned, and he was called the N word for the first time at 15 and pretty much came undone. When parents tell you to prepare your child it's not because they wish for it to happen, but because it's pretty rough for that to happen period, and doubly so when the child is completely unprepared.

In that case I encourage all white parents to prepare for the day when their child is called the N word.

You want to be flip about it and that's fine, I'm not coming from a nasty place. I just think it's better for children who have a higher chance of being called a racial slur than most, to not be completely taken aback, on top of the humiliation of the slur itself.

[Anonymous]

^this isn't just a problem for black and biracial kids. Growing up I had large lips and was called n word by a friend's alcoholic mother. We were big into rap and "acted black" so when my friend failed in school, his mom went off. I was shocked, but got over it. It certainly didn't make me black and nor does it make biracial kids. Stop with the myths about being black because someone in a white sheet may come out of the dark and call you a "n".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^this isn't just a problem for black and biracial kids. Growing up I had large lips and was called n word by a friend's alcoholic mother. We were big into rap and "acted black" so when my friend failed in school, his mom went off. I was shocked, but got over it. It certainly didn't make me black and nor does it make biracial kids. Stop with the myths about being black because someone in a white sheet may come out of the dark and call you a "n".

If someone in a white sheet comes out, they are doing much worse than using the N word. And that's no myth. But you can keep being obtuse if you like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused by this conversation. It's interesting. Many of my biracial friends and their kids identify as black, which is very different from my kid doesn't look black and he's treated as Latino. If you raise your kid as black, they will believe they are black. It's almost as if you don't want them to identify. All of this 1/4 this and 3/4 that is just dumb. Eventually, someone is going to call you kid a nigger and you better be prepared.

You are out of your mind and I hope you are not at my child's charter. My child is technically 1/8th black and looks completely white. I couldn't raise him black if I wanted to. He would look at me like I'm crazy. Why would you try to force a race on a child? That's what's stupid. I couldn't imagine why anyone would ever call him a racial slur, unless they would randomly call a white child the "N" word. It's attitudes like yours that keep the racial status quo going. I'm just glad that my child's school is diverse with people from everywhere and they're all accepting. This is how the world is in my neck of the woods.

prior posters original comments are crazy except for this 1/8 black stuff, kids don't identify as such. You say why force races on kid and comment on caller saying child will be call N word, but you yourself label the child as white!!! I'm biracial and could be labeled many different ways but choose black, America is a strange beast for a biracial child, if you're a white parent you might be surprised by what your child chooses to determine their race to be and it might not be what you yourself choose for them.

I'm biracial and my child looks white. She is who she thinks she is and not what any other human being would select for her. Jesus put her in her skin for his reasons. Enough of these race police trying to overstep him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^this isn't just a problem for black and biracial kids. Growing up I had large lips and was called n word by a friend's alcoholic mother. We were big into rap and "acted black" so when my friend failed in school, his mom went off. I was shocked, but got over it. It certainly didn't make me black and nor does it make biracial kids. Stop with the myths about being black because someone in a white sheet may come out of the dark and call you a "n".

If someone in a white sheet comes out, they are doing much worse than using the N word. And that's no myth. But you can keep being obtuse if you like.

Whatever people in white sheets do still does not affect another person's racial classification. Stop being so obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused by this conversation. It's interesting. Many of my biracial friends and their kids identify as black, which is very different from my kid doesn't look black and he's treated as Latino. If you raise your kid as black, they will believe they are black. It's almost as if you don't want them to identify. All of this 1/4 this and 3/4 that is just dumb. Eventually, someone is going to call you kid a nigger and you better be prepared.

You are out of your mind and I hope you are not at my child's charter. My child is technically 1/8th black and looks completely white. I couldn't raise him black if I wanted to. He would look at me like I'm crazy. Why would you try to force a race on a child? That's what's stupid. I couldn't imagine why anyone would ever call him a racial slur, unless they would randomly call a white child the "N" word. It's attitudes like yours that keep the racial status quo going. I'm just glad that my child's school is diverse with people from everywhere and they're all accepting. This is how the world is in my neck of the woods.

prior posters original comments are crazy except for this 1/8 black stuff, kids don't identify as such. You say why force races on kid and comment on caller saying child will be call N word, but you yourself label the child as white!!! I'm biracial and could be labeled many different ways but choose black, America is a strange beast for a biracial child, if you're a white parent you might be surprised by what your child chooses to determine their race to be and it might not be what you yourself choose for them.

I'm biracial and my child looks white. She is who she thinks she is and not what any other human being would select for her. Jesus put her in her skin for his reasons. Enough of these race police trying to overstep him.

*Him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^this isn't just a problem for black and biracial kids. Growing up I had large lips and was called n word by a friend's alcoholic mother. We were big into rap and "acted black" so when my friend failed in school, his mom went off. I was shocked, but got over it. It certainly didn't make me black and nor does it make biracial kids. Stop with the myths about being black because someone in a white sheet may come out of the dark and call you a "n".

If someone in a white sheet comes out, they are doing much worse than using the N word. And that's no myth. But you can keep being obtuse if you like.

Whatever people in white sheets do still does not affect another person's racial classification. Stop being so obnoxious.

Obnoxious? You know I'm not a PP that you've dubbed the race police, right? Relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^this isn't just a problem for black and biracial kids. Growing up I had large lips and was called n word by a friend's alcoholic mother. We were big into rap and "acted black" so when my friend failed in school, his mom went off. I was shocked, but got over it. It certainly didn't make me black and nor does it make biracial kids. Stop with the myths about being black because someone in a white sheet may come out of the dark and call you a "n".

If someone in a white sheet comes out, they are doing much worse than using the N word. And that's no myth. But you can keep being obtuse if you like.

Whatever people in white sheets do still does not affect another person's racial classification. Stop being so obnoxious.

Obnoxious? You know I'm not a PP that you've dubbed the race police, right? Relax.

You're the obtuse one get all up in arms about the mention of white sheets. Calm down already