Bring your own food

[Anonymous]

I am vegetarian and I usually offer to bring something like a vegetarian soup so that the hosts don't have to fret over what to make. I would feel kind of weird if I were asked to bring my own food though. I agree with PP that you should word it in a way in which you let them know what you are having, including an option friendly to their diet (even if it is just a side or two), but leave it open for them to bring something if they wish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How is a fruit salad not "fresh fruit"? You want the whole cantaloupe?

Kids don't like their foods touching. It's a rule of the universe.

and spoiled kids are allowed to act on it.

You sound nasty and inflexible. I do not care how kids what it prepared as long as they eat fruit and tell me their likes. My kid has some fruit allergies so it needs to be deprecate.

[Anonymous]

I would go and bring a dish to share that my kids and I could eat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I invite you, your family digestive and food issues are not my problem. If you can't eat what I cooked either stay home or bring your own.

My sister is a strict vegetarian. We aren't. She brings her own food because she knows I won't fix anything special for her. My friend had a gastric bypass. Everything I cooked she'd say I can't eat that. I quit inviting her.

What a very rude attitude. I wouldn't want to be a guest in your house, knowing you think that, regardless of my issues or lack thereof, because you're rude and clearly don't want to do anything to accomodate your guests. I guess you don't have many friends.

BTW, there's no such thing as a strict vegetarian. There are vegetarians, and there are people who eat meat and/or fish. Talking about a strict vegetarian makes about as much sense as talking about a strict virgin. You're an ignoramus besides being rude.

Manners aside, the first PP is correct technically. A strict vegetarian is another term for vegan.

Signed, an ovo-lacto vegetarian.

That's not another term for vegan. "Strict vegetarian" is used to describe someone who won't eat anything with broth or other meat products, not just the meat itself. Some vegetarians don't care if someone throws some chicken broth into a recipe = not a strict vegetarian. Avoiding that dish = strict vegetarian.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I invite you, your family digestive and food issues are not my problem. If you can't eat what I cooked either stay home or bring your own.

My sister is a strict vegetarian. We aren't. She brings her own food because she knows I won't fix anything special for her. My friend had a gastric bypass. Everything I cooked she'd say I can't eat that. I quit inviting her.

What a very rude attitude. I wouldn't want to be a guest in your house, knowing you think that, regardless of my issues or lack thereof, because you're rude and clearly don't want to do anything to accomodate your guests. I guess you don't have many friends.

BTW, there's no such thing as a strict vegetarian. There are vegetarians, and there are people who eat meat and/or fish. Talking about a strict vegetarian makes about as much sense as talking about a strict virgin. You're an ignoramus besides being rude.

Manners aside, the first PP is correct technically. A strict vegetarian is another term for vegan.

Signed, an ovo-lacto vegetarian.

That's not another term for vegan. "Strict vegetarian" is used to describe someone who won't eat anything with broth or other meat products, not just the meat itself. Some vegetarians don't care if someone throws some chicken broth into a recipe = not a strict vegetarian. Avoiding that dish = strict vegetarian.

You are not a vegetarian if you eat chicken broth, eat chicken, fish or any meat or biproducts nor if you wear leather. Lacto-ovo refers to dairy and eggs. Your description is someone who says it to be trendy but isn not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I invite you, your family digestive and food issues are not my problem. If you can't eat what I cooked either stay home or bring your own.

My sister is a strict vegetarian. We aren't. She brings her own food because she knows I won't fix anything special for her. My friend had a gastric bypass. Everything I cooked she'd say I can't eat that. I quit inviting her.

What a very rude attitude. I wouldn't want to be a guest in your house, knowing you think that, regardless of my issues or lack thereof, because you're rude and clearly don't want to do anything to accomodate your guests. I guess you don't have many friends.

BTW, there's no such thing as a strict vegetarian. There are vegetarians, and there are people who eat meat and/or fish. Talking about a strict vegetarian makes about as much sense as talking about a strict virgin. You're an ignoramus besides being rude.

Manners aside, the first PP is correct technically. A strict vegetarian is another term for vegan.

Signed, an ovo-lacto vegetarian.

That's not another term for vegan. "Strict vegetarian" is used to describe someone who won't eat anything with broth or other meat products, not just the meat itself. Some vegetarians don't care if someone throws some chicken broth into a recipe = not a strict vegetarian. Avoiding that dish = strict vegetarian.

If someone claims to not eat meat but then eats broth or other meat products, they're not a vegetarian at all. Just like if someone eats fish, they're not a vegetarian.

[Anonymous]

Why all the nit picking about vegetarian? It is a spectrum, just like everything else- there are dozens of lines people have drawn and most call themselves vegetarian. You can argue till the kale comes home about who is or isn't a vegetarian based on what they will or will not eat - most of the time or occasionally. This is why we have to ask questions. I usually ask "Are there any food restrictions?" It covers allergies, religious rules, and preferences.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I invite you, your family digestive and food issues are not my problem. If you can't eat what I cooked either stay home or bring your own.

My sister is a strict vegetarian. We aren't. She brings her own food because she knows I won't fix anything special for her. My friend had a gastric bypass. Everything I cooked she'd say I can't eat that. I quit inviting her.

What a very rude attitude. I wouldn't want to be a guest in your house, knowing you think that, regardless of my issues or lack thereof, because you're rude and clearly don't want to do anything to accomodate your guests. I guess you don't have many friends.

BTW, there's no such thing as a strict vegetarian. There are vegetarians, and there are people who eat meat and/or fish. Talking about a strict vegetarian makes about as much sense as talking about a strict virgin. You're an ignoramus besides being rude.

Manners aside, the first PP is correct technically. A strict vegetarian is another term for vegan.

Signed, an ovo-lacto vegetarian.

That's not another term for vegan. "Strict vegetarian" is used to describe someone who won't eat anything with broth or other meat products, not just the meat itself. Some vegetarians don't care if someone throws some chicken broth into a recipe = not a strict vegetarian. Avoiding that dish = strict vegetarian.

You are not a vegetarian if you eat chicken broth, eat chicken, fish or any meat or biproducts nor if you wear leather. Lacto-ovo refers to dairy and eggs. Your description is someone who says it to be trendy but isn not.

What about honey or yeast bread or fermented products or bugs in grains?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you invite someone to your home, you need to prepare so ring they can eat. Otherwise, why invite them?

I don't invite them. They're DH side and I'm being supportive. He's thinks what I do is more than enough. Just wanted to know if my response was appropriate.

Well, I personally think that if my husband invites family over to our home, with my knowledge, that I am also the host, and I would want my guests to feel welcome. And I would make an effort to have at least one thing that they could eat. I'm less likely to cater to picky eating, but I will certainly make an effort to accommodate medical issues, religious restrictions, or vegetarianism. I'd say, "I was planning to serve X, Y, and Z. Are you able to eat those things?"

[Anonymous]

I would be mortified if I had guests in my home that weren't eating because I had a previously decided menu and didn't feel like being flexible. It's so so easy to accomidate people. Offering several additional sides is a good way to do that.

[Anonymous]

I would try to accommodate the digestive issues. Picky eaters notcso much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I invite you, your family digestive and food issues are not my problem. If you can't eat what I cooked either stay home or bring your own.

My sister is a strict vegetarian. We aren't. She brings her own food because she knows I won't fix anything special for her. My friend had a gastric bypass. Everything I cooked she'd say I can't eat that. I quit inviting her.

What a very rude attitude. I wouldn't want to be a guest in your house, knowing you think that, regardless of my issues or lack thereof, because you're rude and clearly don't want to do anything to accomodate your guests. I guess you don't have many friends.

BTW, there's no such thing as a strict vegetarian. There are vegetarians, and there are people who eat meat and/or fish. Talking about a strict vegetarian makes about as much sense as talking about a strict virgin. You're an ignoramus besides being rude.

Manners aside, the first PP is correct technically. A strict vegetarian is another term for vegan.

Signed, an ovo-lacto vegetarian.

That's not another term for vegan. "Strict vegetarian" is used to describe someone who won't eat anything with broth or other meat products, not just the meat itself. Some vegetarians don't care if someone throws some chicken broth into a recipe = not a strict vegetarian. Avoiding that dish = strict vegetarian.

If someone claims to not eat meat but then eats broth or other meat products, they're not a vegetarian at all. Just like if someone eats fish, they're not a vegetarian.

I'm a vegetarian 99% of the time, but honestly there are times when being a bit flexible is the polite thing to do. Im not going to interrogate my extended family members about whether there is chicken broth in this or that at a holiday gathering. There are lots of dishes that "appear" vegetarian but aren't. They'd think I was a rude, picky vegetarian. Likewise, when traveling for work in the boonies of Puerto Rico, I'll order beans and rice knowing full well there are bits of pork in it, because the concept of vegetarianism is so foreign. But it's still the closest thing to a veggie friendly meal, and I'd prefer not to starve just to make a point or make my colleagues uncomfortable. If this makes me a pretender in the purists minds, so be it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am vegetarian and I usually offer to bring something like a vegetarian soup so that the hosts don't have to fret over what to make. I would feel kind of weird if I were asked to bring my own food though. I agree with PP that you should word it in a way in which you let them know what you are having, including an option friendly to their diet (even if it is just a side or two), but leave it open for them to bring something if they wish.

+1. Have 1 or 2 safe things, and ask her to bring an additional side.

[Anonymous]

What I accommodate for:
Medical reasons (eg. Celiac), lactose intolerance
Deep seated ethical or religious edits eg. Vegetarianism, avoidance of pork, etc.

Aside from that, I should be free to cook for a group what it is I would like to host with. I cannot and will not accommodate someone's inane list of likes and dislikes, especially if I am hosting a group. If it's a close friend, I may entertain that if they are invited one on one, but I'm not making special dishes for everyone and their little idiosyncrasies. I learned as a child that a good guest "eats around" what is served. It's exactly what I do to this day, despite being lactose intolerant and having had long stretches of vegetariansm. I never expected anyone to make anything special - I brought an offering or ate around it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I invite you, your family digestive and food issues are not my problem. If you can't eat what I cooked either stay home or bring your own.

My sister is a strict vegetarian. We aren't. She brings her own food because she knows I won't fix anything special for her. My friend had a gastric bypass. Everything I cooked she'd say I can't eat that. I quit inviting her.

What a very rude attitude. I wouldn't want to be a guest in your house, knowing you think that, regardless of my issues or lack thereof, because you're rude and clearly don't want to do anything to accomodate your guests. I guess you don't have many friends.

BTW, there's no such thing as a strict vegetarian. There are vegetarians, and there are people who eat meat and/or fish. Talking about a strict vegetarian makes about as much sense as talking about a strict virgin. You're an ignoramus besides being rude.

Manners aside, the first PP is correct technically. A strict vegetarian is another term for vegan.

Signed, an ovo-lacto vegetarian.

That's not another term for vegan. "Strict vegetarian" is used to describe someone who won't eat anything with broth or other meat products, not just the meat itself. Some vegetarians don't care if someone throws some chicken broth into a recipe = not a strict vegetarian. Avoiding that dish = strict vegetarian.

If someone claims to not eat meat but then eats broth or other meat products, they're not a vegetarian at all. Just like if someone eats fish, they're not a vegetarian.

I'm a vegetarian 99% of the time, but honestly there are times when being a bit flexible is the polite thing to do. Im not going to interrogate my extended family members about whether there is chicken broth in this or that at a holiday gathering. There are lots of dishes that "appear" vegetarian but aren't. They'd think I was a rude, picky vegetarian. Likewise, when traveling for work in the boonies of Puerto Rico, I'll order beans and rice knowing full well there are bits of pork in it, because the concept of vegetarianism is so foreign. But it's still the closest thing to a veggie friendly meal, and I'd prefer not to starve just to make a point or make my colleagues uncomfortable. If this makes me a pretender in the purists minds, so be it!

I would not consider you vegetarian. I would never knowingly eat something with meat or biproducts. Mistakes happen but I do my best to avoid them. Knowing and not knowing are two different things. I would look at you very strongly If you claim vegetarian and I saw you eating chicken broth or bits of pork. It's not about making a point, you either are or are not a vegetarian.