Do you think people who don't drink are uptight?

[Anonymous]

I'm a non drinker and yes I'm uptight

[Anonymous]

I don't drink for religious reasons. I'm sure some people think being religious means you're uptight, and that's fine, but I don't think of myself as uptight socially. I am more uptight at work, but that's about other things.

[Anonymous]

My friend doesn't drink but she's the least uptight out of all of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't drink and I'm not uptight. I just don't need alcohol to have a good time.

+1 Seriously. Seems like too many people rely on alcohol to have a good time. Scary.

+2 I'm happy without the need of alcoholic beverages.

[Anonymous]

It's probably less shout the drinking and more about the fact that you are uptight.

Why are you so uptight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Asian. When I drink, my face gets flush and I can very quickly get sick. Vomiting after 1/2 beer is no fun for anyone. Then someone has to take me home. And then I'm a wreck for the next 24 hours. So now, some alcohol just isn't worth the side affects for me.

I'm not uptight at parties though and I'm always happy to stand in line with a friend and get a beverage for them. When we go to things like Brew at the Zoo, DH thinks it's great since by default every time we go through the line, he gets 2.

Are you me? I swear I was gonna post this exact thing. My DH is European and can drink like a fish. He has an in-built designated driver in me.

When people ask if I want a drink, I say no thank you. Then the inevitable "why" question, to which I have to then go into a lengthy explanation of what happens to me when I drink. So, people, when someone says no thank you to a drink, just say, "OK, can I offer you something else?".

[Anonymous]

Honest answer - Yes, I do. Or I assume they are Baptist. Same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that drinkers who are upset about people not drinking are the ones who are uptight. I'm serious about that.

A new colleague and I talked about getting together for a drink. We met at a bar. I had a coke and he had alcohol. I didn't think much about it one way or another. I found out later that he told another colleague, "Did you know that so-and-so doesn't drink?" She reported it as if it were said with a bit of alarm. Not too long after that he got drunk and had sex with a graduate student in his class. She apparently felt coerced into it and complained to the dean and he was fired in short order. It was clear he definitely had a problem with drinking -- his drinking, not my lack of it.

Anyway, of course, most people who get upset about non-drinkers do not have a drinking problem but they might want to think about how it looks when they are disturbed by non-drinkers in their midst. Why would it bother them if it doesn't bother me to hang out with them?

Oh and FWIW I can dance my ass off all night and do it completely sober, so, no I don't think I'm uptight.

+1
There is a lot of peer pressure in DC to drink, even when older. I assume people have valid reasons not to drink: they are high on life already (like this PP), they have blood sugar issues (like me), a family history of alcoholism, already in AA, just health or weight conscious, etc. etc.

[Anonymous]

And, once I realized I actually drink because I *am* uptight, I have tried other ways of relaxing which are healthier. So, if you see me in a bar or at a party drinking, it's because I've decided: "screw the blood sugar, these jerks are on my last nerve and I need a drink, stat."

[Anonymous]

We don't drink beer and get excluded to parties. I don't care if you drink. Nothing we do should be anyone's business.

[Anonymous]

The only thing I think is they don't want a drink. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a birthday dinner last night with friends and I didn't drink. My husband asked me who goes out to dinner to celebrate their birthday and doesn't drink then he calls me uptight and a square. I'm not a big drinker, but I don't find myself to be uptight either.

Your husband is an asshole. Nice job picking them.

I'm of the opinion that it is none of anyone's fucking business whether or not someone chooses to drink in any instance or for any reason. And like drinking.

[Anonymous]

I have a low tolerance and often don't drink because I have to drive home after. No one has accused me
Of being uptight.

Op--how much does your husband drink? Maybe he's heading to alcoholism?

[Anonymous]

The main problem I see is that your husband was nasty to you on your birthday. That's not a very good sign. Why shouldn't you drink or not, as you please? Why be nasty about it?

[Anonymous]

Alcohol Is a migraine trigger for me. Weird that people who drink sometimes feel compelled to judge and outdown those who don't. Makes you wonder if they feel us easy about their own habits.