Do you think people who don't drink are uptight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the responses everyone! My husband likes to drink a lot and most of the people he associates with do too. He wasn't even at my birthday dinner so I really didn't understand why he was so angry about me not drinking. It went from did you have a good time to you didn't drink at your own birthday dinner, you're uptight and boring and this is why we don't do anything together.

Sorry to say this, OP, but this sounds like a red flag to me. Why would anyone care if you didn't drink when that person wasn't even there? Drinking seems to matter a lot to your dh. (And now I will be accused of being a prude.)

[Anonymous]

Wow. Some of these responses are really disturbing. I come from a family of alcoholics. When I noticed my inability to control my own drinking, I decided it was better not to drink at all. Who knew I would have to choose between being an alcoholic and being considered uptight. I place no judgement on others and, in fact, am a little jealous others can drink responsibly. Thanks for making me feel like crap!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Some of these responses are really disturbing. I come from a family of alcoholics. When I noticed my inability to control my own drinking, I decided it was better not to drink at all. Who knew I would have to choose between being an alcoholic and being considered uptight. I place no judgement on others and, in fact, am a little jealous others can drink responsibly. Thanks for making me feel like crap!

Nah, don't feel like crap. Part of the reason i don't drink much, and will turn it down, is because I worry about my own control due to family history. If someone wants to judge that.. let them.

[Anonymous]

I have a hiatal hernia and acid reflux. Alcohol can be brutal sometimes. The pain and illness for who knows how long after isn't worth it. Judge away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To 20:11 - sorry, but it's true. I have a friend/coworker who gets flirty and handsy after two drinks...it's sad to watch (because we know how lonely he is). And I know two people who slur their words after a few drinks at happy hour...and I'm embarrassed for them because colleagues have picked up on it and judge them. Then there's the couple that likes to make out in front of everyone after a few drinks. It was funny the first time, but now it's just annoying.

Yes, they're dropping their self-conscious inhibitions and having a good time. Too bad their uptight nondrinking coworker is there to ruin it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Some of these responses are really disturbing. I come from a family of alcoholics. When I noticed my inability to control my own drinking, I decided it was better not to drink at all. Who knew I would have to choose between being an alcoholic and being considered uptight. I place no judgement on others and, in fact, am a little jealous others can drink responsibly. Thanks for making me feel like crap!

Nah, don't feel like crap. Part of the reason i don't drink much, and will turn it down, is because I worry about my own control due to family history. If someone wants to judge that.. let them.

Me too. I think it says so much more about that other person who is judging your behavior, and who wants to force people to be like them.

I honestly have never received such a reaction as an adult until I moved to the DC area and people starting trying to "force" alcohol on me at parties. I actually do have one drink now and then, but just not that much, also due to family history and medical issues. Don't feel like crap, I think many of these folks insisting upon others drinking are the people who are unaware they are already alcoholics.

[Anonymous]

And, in other areas, most of my friends and family attitude would either be (1) supportive or non-commenting or (2) "woo hoo, more drinks for me!"

[Anonymous]

I don't drink because I'm an alcoholic. Everyone always assumes I'm pregnant though which is highly annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't drink beer and get excluded to parties. I don't care if you drink. Nothing we do should be anyone's business.

Who do you hang out with that is drinking beer at parties??

[Anonymous]

I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine on weekends. I broke up with a guy who was wonderful in many ways, but was kind of nasty to me when I didn't want to get "wasted," as he put it, on the weekends. I felt like he was unable to accept me or have fun with me unless it was on his terms.

OP, does your husband expect you to live life on his terms more often than not? I think that's the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the responses everyone! My husband likes to drink a lot and most of the people he associates with do too. He wasn't even at my birthday dinner so I really didn't understand why he was so angry about me not drinking. It went from did you have a good time to you didn't drink at your own birthday dinner, you're uptight and boring and this is why we don't do anything together.

Sorry to say this, OP, but this sounds like a red flag to me. Why would anyone care if you didn't drink when that person wasn't even there? Drinking seems to matter a lot to your dh. (And now I will be accused of being a prude.)

Np. You're not a prude. This is a huge red flag to me, too. Why is OP's husband trying to blame her for something that wasn't even a problem?

[Anonymous]

I used to love drinking but now dont do it very often anymore because it disrupts my sleep and makes it harder to get up and exercise. I don't think I suddenly went from fun to uptight. Anyone over the age of 30 who cares if someone else drinks or not has issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to love drinking but now dont do it very often anymore because it disrupts my sleep and makes it harder to get up and exercise. I don't think I suddenly went from fun to uptight. Anyone over the age of 30 who cares if someone else drinks or not has issues.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just can't imagine going to a nice dinner or being on vacation and not having a drink. Do you know what you're missing?? I don't think you're uptight but perhaps unsophisticated...

Thanks for the laugh. Really.

[Anonymous]

I've never been much of a drinker. My first memories of alcohol were of my alcoholic father. In my childlike mind, alcohol= mean drunk. If I go out and I am eating, I will have one drink if I feel like it. I think alcohol is pretty expensive these days. I went out to a Mexican restaurant a few weekends ago and ordered a small drank beer (Dos XX) and it was nearly $6. That was almost as much as my entree.