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Received a pre-printed generic thank you card
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Anonymous
Thank you! I'm so sick of hearing about all the "exhaustion" after a newborn. Unless your baby has some serious problems, I don't want to hear it. This is not to say that I give a crap about whether or not I receive a thank you note. If I get a verbal thank you (just so I know the gift has been received), that's good enough for me. |
Anonymous
Clearly, the newborn experiences are not the same for all moms. My baby did not have serious problems, but honestly, for me this was one of exhausting times in my life. Round the clock feedings, etc. So, I hope this helps those who needs encouragement. Hang in there. 
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Anonymous
| I recently received a pre-printed thank-you card for a child's birthday party we attended. Perhaps it is becoming more popular? I hadn't seen it done before. My first thought was, "Well, that's pretty generic." But then I figured- at least something was sent. There were twenty-some kids at the party, and the parents are under 30. Not sure if either had to do with their choice. (I read numerous posts like these in the pasts - some people tend to think it is a bit of a generational thing.) I have received hand-written thank-you notes from this family in the past. |
Anonymous
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Agree with the sentiment that new moms should get some slack. I'm the PP who did the letter and picture. I do not write two line thank you notes: "Thank you for the lovely X. it was so nice of you to think of us!" To me, that is as bad as the preprinted card the OP got. The notes I did write were along the lines of: "Thank you for the beautiful silver cup you sent for X. It is her very first present from [Y high end store]. You were so thoughtful to take the extra step of getting it monogrammed with her initials. That makes it even more special! It is hard to believe she is going to old enough to use it someday. I can't wait until you meet her! Thanks again for your very lovely gift." The worst is the joint gift where you have to come up with something original to say about the same thing to five different people.
Do that 200 times, add a severe tear and blood loss, mild post partum depression, a preemie baby who must be fed every three hours no matter what and cannot be exposed to other people and germs, and a 12-week maternity leave followed by going back to work full time, and I was not up to the task. I am prepared to concede my whimpiness, but at least I tried. I probably got about half of them done, and I can live with myself. I did get them done with #2, but there were many fewer gifts, my recovery was much better, my maternity leave was longer and the baby wasn't a preemie. I cut ALL new moms slack. In fact, I frequently write on my cards, "Please do not even think of sending me a thank you note. I know how precious this time with your baby is and how tiring it can be!" |
Anonymous
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I would gladly forgo ever receiving another gift in my entire life if it meant I didn't have to write another thank you note.
I hate hate hate stuff. I live in a small house. I am not good at organizing it. I don't NEED it. I get no thrill out of receiving presents from anyone who is not a family member. My baby does not need 8 pairs of Robeez. It's bad for the environment. And it means I have to write eight letters for something I didn't want in the first place. I will not check back because I know everyone will flame me as an ungrateful bitch, and maybe I am, but god it feels good to get this off my chest. |
Anonymous
I completely understand where you're coming from. People who don't have small homes don't understand how stuff turns into junk when you have no place to store it. |
Anonymous
| Why can't people's husbands write the notes if they are having so much trouble squeezing it in while the baby sleeps 18 hours a day? I would have a much tougher time writing those notes now with a toddler, but with a newborn, I had plenty of time while I was not working and she was asleep. If I had not had this time, and I understand that many people don't, I would have asked my husband to write them. Or what about an email?-surely that is better than a form letter. |
Anonymous
You're kidding, right? I couldn't even get my DH to write thank you notes for wedding gifts from his fraternity brothers (whom I had never met). I assigned him exactly 4 from a wedding with 300 guests. 13 years later, the 4 notes he was responsible for still haven't been written. |
Anonymous
Wow. Even if you don't want the stuff, someone was thinking kindly of your child. Yeah, I know that it's a pain to get rid of stuff, but a thank you note does not take more than a minute to write. The pre-printed ones are kind of disappointing, but way better than none at all. What I hate is not receiving a note from a wedding. You spend a fair amount of money, and don't even know if the gift was received. |
Anonymous
| Yes, folks. It's the end of the world when that " thank you note" doesn't arrive in a timely fashion. You do know that the economy is tanking??? Hello! |
Anonymous
| What about thank you notes that are really late? |
Anonymous
| Better late than never. |
Anonymous
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"Super tacky, if you ask me. I honestly would rather not get a card at all. And I'm not even a stickler about these things. "
Hello! You ARE a stickler. You just said it is "tacky". What about the father? Why does he get off the hook? |
Anonymous
| I agree with the poster who said that she hated receiving gifts and hated writing thank you notes - I do too!!! The whole thank you card nonsense just stresses me out - one more thing to add to my to-do list. There were times when I was on maternity leave that I just wished people would stop sending us gifts - seriously - a phone call or email saying congrats on the baby would have been more than enough and a lot less stressful for me. |
Anonymous
I'm another one in this camp. It's not even about having a particularly small house or too much stuff. I'm just not particularly into receiving gifts and never have been. DH and I have a "gift truce" for holidays/anniversaries/birthdays and we're both SO MUCH HAPPIER that way. (We do plan to celebrate with gifts for our baby's birthday and holidays once she's old enough to appreciate it.) When it came to baby gifts, I'm embarassed to say I was especially irritated that we received so many gifts from our parents' friends, many whom we barey know. Sweet of them to think of us (or morely, of our parents.) But all I kept thinking was, "Crap. Another thank you note." My mother volunteered to write the thank yous for her friends, but that felt pretty inappropriate to me. Perhaps with Baby #2, I will feel differently . . . .
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