Received a pre-printed generic thank you card

[Anonymous]

OP here - I totally am not holding it against my friend. I could care less if I got a card at all, bc I dont consider them important and we spoke before the baby was born and she said she loved the gift.

I was just inquiring as to the practice, and since I know this board always has such strong feelings about thank-you cards, I was wondering if this was considered better or worse.

I take full responsibility for not sending cards out when I should and I fully admit that I am a slacker in that respect. However, if these are acceptable, perhaps I can start using them and people will think its better than not sending any card at all.

[Anonymous]

I think it's tacky to send a pre-printed thank you note. I know I tend to be more of a stickler on these things than most but seriously, it is not that hard to write a one sentence email to someone thanking them for the gift they gave you (takes no more than a couple minutes). An email is better than a generic pre-printed TY card in the mail because at least you are sending it to them with their name on it and mentioning what the gift was. Yes, it is very tough to be a new mom and everyone understands that it may take longer than usual to get the thank yous out but not acknowledging it ever is the definition of rude. People can find excuses for anything though and unfortunately many people do.

[Anonymous]

Super tacky, if you ask me. I honestly would rather not get a card at all. And I'm not even a stickler about these things.

[Anonymous]

Op, now you CHOOSE to be tacky. Oh come on. COME ON. Get a life, get a hobby, get something going. This is like "I am purposely going to slack on this so people will think I am a total asshole."

If you can type on this computer about your NOT sending thank yous, you can write a four line note.

Now go smack yourself in the face for being an idiot.

[Anonymous]

i don't like the idea of a pre-printed generic card. It goes straight into the recycler. If it's handwritten, then I save it for a while, depending on the words that were written from the heart.

[Anonymous]

I how I only WISH I had the time to worry about this crap!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I how I only WISH I had the time to worry about this crap!

Being concerned with decent manners is not crap. That's the problem with a lot of people. I'm not advocating following Miss Manners to the letter but seriously people, acknowleging a gift is good manners 101 and it's not hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I how I only WISH I had the time to worry about this crap!

Being concerned with decent manners is not crap. That's the problem with a lot of people. I'm not advocating following Miss Manners to the letter but seriously people, acknowleging a gift is good manners 101 and it's not hard.

Oh, puleeze.
A thank you letter was sent... it's just not the way OP wished it to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I how I only WISH I had the time to worry about this crap!

You really should consider making time for this "crap." Someone made the time to send your baby a present. New moms are busy but do not corner the market on busy lives. Make time. It's the right thing to do. This isn't just a matter of minding your manners or pleasing Emily Post or the tongue wagging neighborhood biddies in your old stomping grounds. It's about taking 2 minutes out of your oh-so busy schedule and writing a thoughtful thank you to someone who cared enough about you and your child to send a gift. Damn. Some people really are lazy, inconsiderate slackers!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I how I only WISH I had the time to worry about this crap!

Being concerned with decent manners is not crap. That's the problem with a lot of people. I'm not advocating following Miss Manners to the letter but seriously people, acknowleging a gift is good manners 101 and it's not hard.

Oh, puleeze.
A thank you letter was sent... it's just not the way OP wished it to be.

The gift giver took time to select and send a gift. The least the recipient can do is write a few lines on a thank you note. I have countless first time mommy friends who managed to get their thank yous out. It feels nice to get a genuine thank you and reminds you why you sent the gift in the first place. Because you care. Nice to know they care enough to say thank you.

But maybe PP here thinks a preprinted card with no personal sentiment that doesn't even bother to spell out the daughter's name is just as good? I disagree. Bad form.

[Anonymous]

give the woman a rest.

she just had a baby and she has to hand write you a thank you card and go after old papers to find the correct spelling for your daughter's name??????

wtf??????????

I bet you would be here complaining if the thank you note was written by hand with the wrong spelling.

gosh!

[Anonymous]

I think someone mentioned it earlier but I'll say it again- if you have time to be on this forum reading through all of the responses and typing your own, you have time to write a brief acknowledgement (whether it be a personal thank you note or an email) to someone who went out of their way to buy you a gift. You don't have to do it 5 days after giving birth but you should do it. I know the person the OP mentioned that sent the pre-printed cards is probably not on DCUM but my point is for those on this site who make excuses not to send acknowledgements. Come on, people!

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing I never get and probably never will --

many people say we just have to give new moms slack and ignore the fact that they're using the onesies we sent them but are. just. too. stressed to write a 2-line thank you. They are so stressed for weeks and weeks on end, evidently.

Every newborn I have ever met sleeps for extraordinary amounts of time every single day. some may cry a lot, but they also sleep for like, what, 20 hour a day, day after day, for weeks.

[Anonymous]

oh, and your c-section scar / stitches don't lay you out for months on end, either

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing I never get and probably never will --

many people say we just have to give new moms slack and ignore the fact that they're using the onesies we sent them but are. just. too. stressed to write a 2-line thank you. They are so stressed for weeks and weeks on end, evidently.

Every newborn I have ever met sleeps for extraordinary amounts of time every single day. some may cry a lot, but they also sleep for like, what, 20 hour a day, day after day, for weeks.

Totally agree with this. But like a pp said, people make excuses for everything. Sad but true. Just call a spade a spade and say that it wasn't high on your priority list to thank someone. Don't say you don't have the time.