Mixed children...

[Anonymous]

PP above you here. WOW now in that regard I would absolutely be pissed. I have never had anyone react negatively to my kids' skincolor at all, which is why the curiosity never bothered me.

[Anonymous]

We met a couple in the park with twins. Mom was asian, dad was white - 1 twin was asian, 1 was white. I thought it was amazing! No judgment, just crazy how twins could be so totally different.

If they were both white, yet 1 looked like the dad and 1 like the mom, the difference just wouldnt be as apparent, but amazing nonetheless.

I come from a single race family where all 4 siblings look almost identical, so anytime I see siblings that look so different, I think its cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a parent of racially mixed children. One of my children looks like one race. The other looks like the other. Parents of mixed children, what advice can you give me? People always come up to me and say, "oh one looks like their dad and the other looks like you." Their dad is not even present. When I ask what they mean, they say, "One looks white and the other has your skin." It's so strange to me. When I was a kid, no one commented on my skin color. But all of a sudden, just because Dad is white, it's open to discussion.... Skin color wasn't even discussed in my circles. What will this mean for my kids? Also, will they feel like they belong? Will either race be accepting? What can I do to help in this situation? I wish I could read minds. Are people thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes, I don't think they are and it saddens me....

Thanks!

Why is it okay for you to mention that your DH is white but not tell us your race? Sounds like you are hung up on race as well.

OP here. Hmmm just forgot to... I am not hung up on my race. I love being Asian....perhaps you will ask me, what kind of Asian? Hahaha, just joking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We met a couple in the park with twins. Mom was asian, dad was white - 1 twin was asian, 1 was white. I thought it was amazing! No judgment, just crazy how twins could be so totally different.

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Wanted to point out that this happened to a black & white British couple not once, but twice! One of the twins is black and the other is white. I love genetics. They cannot lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: We met a couple in the park with twins. Mom was asian, dad was white - 1 twin was asian, 1 was white. I thought it was amazing! No judgment, just crazy how twins could be so totally different.

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Wanted to point out that this happened to a black & white British couple not once, but twice! One of the twins is black and the other is white. I love genetics. They cannot lie.

btw, the same couple had 2 sets of twins like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP. I forgot to give my recommendation for a response to people who ask questions: "Why do you ask?" That usually helps them remember their manners.

My friend who is half white, half Korean says he is tired of people asking him "what are you?
It's usually asked by other asians.
So now, when someone asks him "what are you? He tells them "I'm a human being." And smile

My friend who is half black & white got this question thru life. "What are you?" Latina?

While I did write that people are curious, I agree with the PP who reminds me that while remarks may not be intentionally racist or hurtful, they can be rude, particularly when they delve into your ethnic background when you have only just met them and the relationship does not progress beyond that. Because I am not white American, I am often asked about my ethnic cultural background, which I do find intrusive on the first get-go. It's ok if they want to ask after we have known each other as friends, co-workers, etc., but not at the first sighting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a parent of racially mixed children. One of my children looks like one race. The other looks like the other. Parents of mixed children, what advice can you give me? People always come up to me and say, "oh one looks like their dad and the other looks like you." Their dad is not even present. When I ask what they mean, they say, "One looks white and the other has your skin." It's so strange to me. When I was a kid, no one commented on my skin color. But all of a sudden, just because Dad is white, it's open to discussion.... Skin color wasn't even discussed in my circles. What will this mean for my kids? Also, will they feel like they belong? Will either race be accepting? What can I do to help in this situation? I wish I could read minds. Are people thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes, I don't think they are and it saddens me....

Thanks!

Why is it okay for you to mention that your DH is white but not tell us your race? Sounds like you are hung up on race as well.

OP here. Hmmm just forgot to... I am not hung up on my race. I love being Asian....perhaps you will ask me, what kind of Asian? Hahaha, just joking.

Hmmm, I think you are missing the point.
Why worry what others maybe "thinking" about?
You are making this bigger than it is.
My daughter is half white, half asian.
She IS unique and we love her very much... and that's all that matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a parent of racially mixed children. One of my children looks like one race. The other looks like the other. Parents of mixed children, what advice can you give me? People always come up to me and say, "oh one looks like their dad and the other looks like you." Their dad is not even present. When I ask what they mean, they say, "One looks white and the other has your skin." It's so strange to me. When I was a kid, no one commented on my skin color. But all of a sudden, just because Dad is white, it's open to discussion.... Skin color wasn't even discussed in my circles. What will this mean for my kids? Also, will they feel like they belong? Will either race be accepting? What can I do to help in this situation? I wish I could read minds. Are people thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes, I don't think they are and it saddens me....

Thanks!

Why is it okay for you to mention that your DH is white but not tell us your race? Sounds like you are hung up on race as well.

Yeah, I noticed the Tiger Woods response, too. I get the vibe that she's black with a creamy-hued complexion and her other child (I'm guessing a daughter) is darker and with the "wrong" hair and she feels uncomfortable when people make comments.

Without further clarification, my advice: get some therapy now for your resentment.

Thanks for the support PP. OP here, I only mentioned my husband was white because people assumed he was white...I'm sorry for the confusion here. I'm Indian, from India.

Wow, jump to wrong conclusions much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is mixed-race, and I found the book "Does Anybody Else Look Like Me?: A Parent's Guide To Raising Multiracial Children" to be an interesting read. I didn't agree with everything the author had to say, but it's a thoughtful discussion of the subject (with some very interesting anecdotal content as well). You might want to check it out.

Thank you for your reply. this helpful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We met a couple in the park with twins. Mom was asian, dad was white - 1 twin was asian, 1 was white. I thought it was amazing! No judgment, just crazy how twins could be so totally different.

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Wanted to point out that this happened to a black & white British couple not once, but twice! One of the twins is black and the other is white. I love genetics. They cannot lie.[/quo

maybe you met me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a parent of racially mixed children. One of my children looks like one race. The other looks like the other. Parents of mixed children, what advice can you give me? People always come up to me and say, "oh one looks like their dad and the other looks like you." Their dad is not even present. When I ask what they mean, they say, "One looks white and the other has your skin." It's so strange to me. When I was a kid, no one commented on my skin color. But all of a sudden, just because Dad is white, it's open to discussion.... Skin color wasn't even discussed in my circles. What will this mean for my kids? Also, will they feel like they belong? Will either race be accepting? What can I do to help in this situation? I wish I could read minds. Are people thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes, I don't think they are and it saddens me....

Thanks!

Why is it okay for you to mention that your DH is white but not tell us your race? Sounds like you are hung up on race as well.

OP here. Hmmm just forgot to... I am not hung up on my race. I love being Asian....perhaps you will ask me, what kind of Asian? Hahaha, just joking.

Hmmm, I think you are missing the point.
Why worry what others maybe "thinking" about?
You are making this bigger than it is.
My daughter is half white, half asian.
She IS unique and we love her very much... and that's all that matters.

wow why be so critical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a parent of racially mixed children. One of my children looks like one race. The other looks like the other. Parents of mixed children, what advice can you give me? People always come up to me and say, "oh one looks like their dad and the other looks like you." Their dad is not even present. When I ask what they mean, they say, "One looks white and the other has your skin." It's so strange to me. When I was a kid, no one commented on my skin color. But all of a sudden, just because Dad is white, it's open to discussion.... Skin color wasn't even discussed in my circles. What will this mean for my kids? Also, will they feel like they belong? Will either race be accepting? What can I do to help in this situation? I wish I could read minds. Are people thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes, I don't think they are and it saddens me....

Thanks!

Why is it okay for you to mention that your DH is white but not tell us your race? Sounds like you are hung up on race as well.

OP here. Hmmm just forgot to... I am not hung up on my race. I love being Asian....perhaps you will ask me, what kind of Asian? Hahaha, just joking.

Hmmm, I think you are missing the point.
Why worry what others maybe "thinking" about?
You are making this bigger than it is.
My daughter is half white, half asian.
She IS unique and we love her very much... and that's all that matters.

wow why be so critical.

wow, that's also critical

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP. I forgot to give my recommendation for a response to people who ask questions: "Why do you ask?" That usually helps them remember their manners.

My friend who is half white, half Korean says he is tired of people asking him "what are you?
It's usually asked by other asians.
So now, when someone asks him "what are you? He tells them "I'm a human being." And smile

Haha.. Humor is a good deflector.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a parent of racially mixed children. One of my children looks like one race. The other looks like the other. Parents of mixed children, what advice can you give me? People always come up to me and say, "oh one looks like their dad and the other looks like you." Their dad is not even present. When I ask what they mean, they say, "One looks white and the other has your skin." It's so strange to me. When I was a kid, no one commented on my skin color. But all of a sudden, just because Dad is white, it's open to discussion.... Skin color wasn't even discussed in my circles. What will this mean for my kids? Also, will they feel like they belong? Will either race be accepting? What can I do to help in this situation? I wish I could read minds. Are people thinking positive thoughts. Sometimes, I don't think they are and it saddens me....

Thanks!

Why is it okay for you to mention that your DH is white but not tell us your race? Sounds like you are hung up on race as well.

OP here. Hmmm just forgot to... I am not hung up on my race. I love being Asian....perhaps you will ask me, what kind of Asian? Hahaha, just joking.

Hmmm, I think you are missing the point.
Why worry what others maybe "thinking" about?
You are making this bigger than it is.
My daughter is half white, half asian.
She IS unique and we love her very much... and that's all that matters.

wow why be so critical.

wow, that's also critical

gosh, it would be an easier world if no one cared what another thought about...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mixed children are not that uncommon around here. I personally think that this will be the look of the future America - a blend of beige/caramel color that is hard to nail down to one race or ethnicity. And as a tangential comment - have you seen the winners of Gap's cutest kid contest? 3 of the 4 winners were kids of mixed race. And they were cute indeed!

Do some races still have to struggle harder than others? Just wondering..