Considering going back to BigLaw -- talk me out of it

[Anonymous]

Er, "stomachaches." See, I can't even spell when I think about it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you wouldn't even ask the question if you were a man. Let DH do all of the home stuff and go out as make as much money as you can as fast as you can so you can step back a bit when the kids are teenagers. Don't be afraid to "go for the gold".

You just assume OP will be able to step back in to her fed gov job which is highly unlikely and an important consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you wouldn't even ask the question if you were a man. Let DH do all of the home stuff and go out as make as much money as you can as fast as you can so you can step back a bit when the kids are teenagers. Don't be afraid to "go for the gold".

For some money isn't the gold.

[Anonymous]

OP, you wouldn't even ask the question if you were a man. Let DH do all of the home stuff and go out as make as much money as you can as fast as you can so you can step back a bit when the kids are teenagers. Don't be afraid to "go for the gold".

Such bad advice. These partnerships are transitory and really difficult to sustain. I am the woman who was a partner and left to go in-house down thread. I really cannot tell you how incompatible big law is with being a present parent and partner. I worked with regulatory attorneys and was at one of the biggest shops in DC and saw that it wasn't too different. You have to either generate business or get a partner to feed you (as a partner which is difficult because you are too expensive -- this include counsel positions).

I really recommend the OP look in house if there is a regulatory need on a client basis. You'll make more and get the hours of a government job.

Also, OP's DH is a SAHD. I cannot tell you how many women I worked with at big law who are paying support/alimony to their husbands who stayed home and resented the demands of the job on their wives. The worst case scenario is ugly.