Snotty moms in MCPS!

[Anonymous]

Giant overthink. Stop judging. Some are the shrill "Hi!" kind and some are not. Some know each other extremely well and feel comfy enough to gossip to each other, some don't.

Just because these people present themselves differently than you do, it doesn't mean they're as shallow and mean as you think they are.

Just be yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:What's a W school? White?

The W schools are the high schools whose names start with W (Watkins Mill, Wheaton, Whitman, and Wootton) and the middle schools and elementary schools in those high school clusters.

Nope let me correct you. They do not include Wheaton and Watkins Mill. Its Walter Johnson, Winston "Churchill", Wootton, and Whitman.

PP feels the need to post everywhere on DCUM the hyperliteral "definition" of W school as including Watkins Mill and Wheaton. I think his/her agenda is to try to end the use of the nickname for the high-SES schools. One shortcoming to the "W school" shorthand is that it leaves out BCC, which really should be included.

Actually this is the first time I have posted in the MCPS school forum. LOL!

[Anonymous]

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Giant overthink. Stop judging. Some are the shrill "Hi!" kind and some are not. Some know each other extremely well and feel comfy enough to gossip to each other, some don't.

Just because these people present themselves differently than you do, it doesn't mean they're as shallow and mean as you think they are.

Just be yourself.

OP - I live in a W school district - mine are in HS. It's not all in your head or a giant overthink - some of the moms really are snotty and mean spirited. The moms that do this tend to be social climbers and even use their kids to that end - can't play with the "wrong" family etc.
Such is life - there are nice people out there but some of us have been burned by the nasty behavior of the grown up mean girls.
Have you noticed that the same group of moms also seems to run most of the extracurricular teams, scouts etc...? This was my biggest peeve, no way to escape them!

[Anonymous]

I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

so you are saying you think all peopel who drive nice cars who are successful are snobs? sounds sort of snobby to me............

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

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^ then they either bought their house a good while ago or else one spouse is doing something that pays a lot more.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My point was that none of the parents I know at our school are the snobs the OP described, and I tried to back it up with some kind of description of the non-snobs, in my words. It sounds like the people who live near you are similar. Though I admit it truly is news to me though that most of the parents in Bethesda are feds, scientists, teachers, etc. I figured that since the average home price is something like $800K+, people in the professions I mentioned, who might make something like $100K at the best, could not afford to live there. Am I wrong about that? I truly don't know so I'd be curious. The two families I know well who live in Bethesda are 1) big law; and 2) double-physician family.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

so you are saying you think all peopel who drive nice cars who are successful are snobs? sounds sort of snobby to me............

To be fair, yes I guess I am saying that everyone who drives a luxury SUV is a snob. You got me there, because I do associate conspicuous consumption of luxury goods with snobbery.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My neighborhood too. I'm always puzzled by the outside perceptions of Bethesda. Lots of houses here are small colonials or split levels. Yes there are some large houses but there are large houses in DC too and no one assumes that everyone in DC is a snob. Many people have lived here for years. I bought my current house in 1998 and many of the people on my street were here before we were.

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Anonymous wrote:typical bell curve of personalities in our bethesda neighborhood.

saw the same distribution in Manhattan, Milwaukee, and Philly when we lived there too.

never needed to call anyone snotty though! it's actually kind of a self-defining post OP.

Agree. My DC is at a W school and I find people to be very friendly. It was surprisingly easy to meet people despite my DC being a 9th grader. DC moved from a private school where people were friendly but perhaps a bit cliqueish.

Totally agreed. I encountered snobby people when I grew up in a typical midwestern middle-class suburb, and plenty of normal people. People are different everywhere. I think people move to Potomac/Bethesda/Chevy Chase/etc. and expect to meet nothing but Biffs and Buffys and their impression of the place gets colored by that expectation. We moved to Bethesda from a very egalitarian and diverse neighborhood in DC, and love our new neighbors and neighborhood. There may be some pretentious and unfriendly people, but guess what? I ignore them, and have plenty of normal, down-to-earth friends. My kids encounter entitled and spoiled kids, but that happens everywhere too...they have no problem finding kind and normal friends to hang with. OP may eventually meet some too, if she drops the attitude that her new neighborhood is full of snobs.

What neighborhood did you move from?

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My point was that none of the parents I know at our school are the snobs the OP described, and I tried to back it up with some kind of description of the non-snobs, in my words. It sounds like the people who live near you are similar. Though I admit it truly is news to me though that most of the parents in Bethesda are feds, scientists, teachers, etc. I figured that since the average home price is something like $800K+, people in the professions I mentioned, who might make something like $100K at the best, could not afford to live there. Am I wrong about that? I truly don't know so I'd be curious. The two families I know well who live in Bethesda are 1) big law; and 2) double-physician family.

She didn't say most families in Bethesda. She said most families in her neighborhood in Bethesda. That's very believable to me because it's true in my neighborhood in Bethesda also. And I'm part of a two fed family living in Bethesda, soooo.

[Anonymous]

DC is in a W school and while the kids are basically lovely (still in elementary), I find some of the moms so competitive, snooty and entitled. They are cliquish, gossipy and I just do not like the vibe, or feel like I fit in (or that I want to). Feels like JHS all over again! Is it better elsewhere?

I haven't really noticed this in my school in Bethesda (Whitman cluster). Met plenty of nice moms throughout the years. Of course, you're always going to meet some people you don't like, but isn't that true everywhere?

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My point was that none of the parents I know at our school are the snobs the OP described, and I tried to back it up with some kind of description of the non-snobs, in my words. It sounds like the people who live near you are similar. Though I admit it truly is news to me though that most of the parents in Bethesda are feds, scientists, teachers, etc. I figured that since the average home price is something like $800K+, people in the professions I mentioned, who might make something like $100K at the best, could not afford to live there. Am I wrong about that? I truly don't know so I'd be curious. The two families I know well who live in Bethesda are 1) big law; and 2) double-physician family.

see you are so wrong about people who live in bethesda, good assumptions though, perhaps they are jsut good at saving money and have goals. maybe, just maybe you would understand that many peopel who live there grew up there and our parents taught us the value of a good steady job like teaching, gov't jobs etc.

It isn;t what you make it is how you spend it.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife says it's this way in Arlington.

I really think it's a woman thing. Men aren't this neurotic.

I also promise you this: You're thinking about them a whole lot more than than they think about you (which is not at all). It is literally all in your head. Stop being so silly.

+1. This is why women truly do need men, more than fish need bicycles.

Women need men because there are some women who are nasty to other women?

Yes. These women, in particular, need men in their lives to counteract their insanity.