Snotty moms in MCPS!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You mean they are snotty even though their kids go to PUBLIC schools? That truly is absurd.

Some of the W schools may as well be private schools.

Not to people who are really in private schools

+1

I teach at a W feeder. My kid goes to private on scholarship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mean they are snotty even though their kids go to PUBLIC schools? That truly is absurd.

Some of the W schools may as well be private schools.

Not to people who are really in private schools

+1

I teach at a W feeder. My kid goes to private on scholarship.

Why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My point was that none of the parents I know at our school are the snobs the OP described, and I tried to back it up with some kind of description of the non-snobs, in my words. It sounds like the people who live near you are similar. Though I admit it truly is news to me though that most of the parents in Bethesda are feds, scientists, teachers, etc. I figured that since the average home price is something like $800K+, people in the professions I mentioned, who might make something like $100K at the best, could not afford to live there. Am I wrong about that? I truly don't know so I'd be curious. The two families I know well who live in Bethesda are 1) big law; and 2) double-physician family.

see you are so wrong about people who live in bethesda, good assumptions though, perhaps they are jsut good at saving money and have goals. maybe, just maybe you would understand that many peopel who live there grew up there and our parents taught us the value of a good steady job like teaching, gov't jobs etc.

It isn;t what you make it is how you spend it.

OK all you teachers, just learn the value of your job and have goals and save money and you can buy a house for $800K.

[Anonymous]

I live in a non-snooty part of mcps too. But through the years, my children have participated in activities in the wealthier parts of the county. The parents are definitely different- the vibe is different. You might not realize it (those defending their neighbors) but it really is striking.

[Anonymous]

I live in a non-snooty part of mcps too. But through the years, my children have participated in activities in the wealthier parts of the county. The parents are definitely different- the vibe is different. You might not realize it (those defending their neighbors) but it really is striking.

Sounds like you're comparing oarents that you meet occasionally for activities to families in your own neighborhood whom you have had the chance to get to know over a period of time through school, life, activities, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mean they are snotty even though their kids go to PUBLIC schools? That truly is absurd.

Some of the W schools may as well be private schools.

Not to people who are really in private schools

+1

I teach at a W feeder. My kid goes to private on scholarship.

Why?

Better academics and school culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in a non-snooty part of mcps too. But through the years, my children have participated in activities in the wealthier parts of the county. The parents are definitely different- the vibe is different. You might not realize it (those defending their neighbors) but it really is striking.

Of course it's different. People with more money have more money and more of the things that money can buy, and less knowledge about what life is like for people who don't have more money. (Which explains that comments about how anybody can afford to pay $800,000 for a house, if they just have the right values and work hard.) That still doesn't mean that OP has to spend time with people the OP doesn't like.

[Anonymous]

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see you are so wrong about people who live in bethesda, good assumptions though, perhaps they are jsut good at saving money and have goals. maybe, just maybe you would understand that many peopel who live there grew up there and our parents taught us the value of a good steady job like teaching, gov't jobs etc.

It isn;t what you make it is how you spend it.

You can't spend what you don't make. At least you can't for long.

[Anonymous]

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I live in a non-snooty part of mcps too. But through the years, my children have participated in activities in the wealthier parts of the county. The parents are definitely different- the vibe is different. You might not realize it (those defending their neighbors) but it really is striking.

Sounds like you're comparing oarents that you meet occasionally for activities to families in your own neighborhood whom you have had the chance to get to know over a period of time through school, life, activities, etc

You are making assumptions. My children have been very involved in these activities which are more than 10 hours a week. I am not talking about an occassional interaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh... OP did you just move here? I only ask because it was a bit of a culture shock when I moved here from the south. I felt a bit like you did but then I realized that I wanted to just be myself.

I don't want to exclaim "Hi" in a shrillish voice like the person I barely know is my BFF and give them the Real Housewives of Bethesda kiss on each cheek, so I just stopped and acted like the sarcastic, tired, grump that I am.

I eventually drew real down to earth friends towards me and realized that the people I thought were phony weren't bad, they are just different, and if I stopped judging everyone.

Kisses on the cheek are so phony!

[Anonymous]

I live in a non-snooty part of mcps too. But through the years, my children have participated in activities in the wealthier parts of the county. The parents are definitely different- the vibe is different. You might not realize it (those defending their neighbors) but it really is striking.


Sounds like you're comparing oarents that you meet occasionally for activities to families in your own neighborhood whom you have had the chance to get to know over a period of time through school, life, activities, etc


You are making assumptions. My children have been very involved in these activities which are more than 10 hours a week. I am not talking about an occassional interaction.

High time commitment activities have their own parental subculture --- how do you extrapolate to a chunk of the county being snooty from your observations of that group?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My point was that none of the parents I know at our school are the snobs the OP described, and I tried to back it up with some kind of description of the non-snobs, in my words. It sounds like the people who live near you are similar. Though I admit it truly is news to me though that most of the parents in Bethesda are feds, scientists, teachers, etc. I figured that since the average home price is something like $800K+, people in the professions I mentioned, who might make something like $100K at the best, could not afford to live there. Am I wrong about that? I truly don't know so I'd be curious. The two families I know well who live in Bethesda are 1) big law; and 2) double-physician family.

She didn't say most families in Bethesda. She said most families in her neighborhood in Bethesda. That's very believable to me because it's true in my neighborhood in Bethesda also. And I'm part of a two fed family living in Bethesda, soooo.

Yes. We left the private sector because the money-grubbing and back-stabbing was soul-killing. Lived responsibly while we were making good private sector salaries, now we are a one fed, one stay-at-home family in Bethesda. I drive a beater car and live in a modest house...been here less than 5 years. Many of our neighbors are fed-fed, fed-teacher, fed-something else, scientists, tech people, and self-employed. Some retired. There are a few biglaw lawyers, but I am struggling to think of any doctors. Normal folk, down-to-earth. More nerdy than glitzy. I'm sure there are fancier places in Bethesda, just as there are fancier places in DC, so why the broad-brush tarring of everyone who lives in a W cluster as snobby? If you take the time to look past the stereotypes, you'd probably be pleasantly surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My point was that none of the parents I know at our school are the snobs the OP described, and I tried to back it up with some kind of description of the non-snobs, in my words. It sounds like the people who live near you are similar. Though I admit it truly is news to me though that most of the parents in Bethesda are feds, scientists, teachers, etc. I figured that since the average home price is something like $800K+, people in the professions I mentioned, who might make something like $100K at the best, could not afford to live there. Am I wrong about that? I truly don't know so I'd be curious. The two families I know well who live in Bethesda are 1) big law; and 2) double-physician family.

She didn't say most families in Bethesda. She said most families in her neighborhood in Bethesda. That's very believable to me because it's true in my neighborhood in Bethesda also. And I'm part of a two fed family living in Bethesda, soooo.

Yes. We left the private sector because the money-grubbing and back-stabbing was soul-killing. Lived responsibly while we were making good private sector salaries, now we are a one fed, one stay-at-home family in Bethesda. I drive a beater car and live in a modest house...been here less than 5 years. Many of our neighbors are fed-fed, fed-teacher, fed-something else, scientists, tech people, and self-employed. Some retired. There are a few biglaw lawyers, but I am struggling to think of any doctors. Normal folk, down-to-earth. More nerdy than glitzy. I'm sure there are fancier places in Bethesda, just as there are fancier places in DC, so why the broad-brush tarring of everyone who lives in a W cluster as snobby? If you take the time to look past the stereotypes, you'd probably be pleasantly surprised.

It's just like anything. The bad apple spoils the bunch. In Bethesda there are way too many bad apples.

Also, living inside the situation, you have probably become immune to the culture there. It is hard to consider your experience a reliable source.

[Anonymous]

Kind of like we all have the Stockholm syndrome? Are we beyond repair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree that it happens at every school. We are at Oakland Terrace in Silver Spring and it doesn't happen. The moms are not fake, nobody has $500 purses, and I can't remember the last time I saw a luxury SUV. Most of the parents I know are feds, some in the sciences and some in policy, some small business owners, teachers, tech workers, construction. Apparently the snotty parents don't move to this neighborhood. If I were to hazard a guess it would be because we do have about a 1/3 immigrant population in the school, to which snobs tend to be allergic. Frankly many of those kids are performing as well or better than my white kid.

I live in Bethesda, and most of my neighbors are feds, in the sciences, in policy, small business owners, teachers, tech workers, and in construction. So your point is....?

My point was that none of the parents I know at our school are the snobs the OP described, and I tried to back it up with some kind of description of the non-snobs, in my words. It sounds like the people who live near you are similar. Though I admit it truly is news to me though that most of the parents in Bethesda are feds, scientists, teachers, etc. I figured that since the average home price is something like $800K+, people in the professions I mentioned, who might make something like $100K at the best, could not afford to live there. Am I wrong about that? I truly don't know so I'd be curious. The two families I know well who live in Bethesda are 1) big law; and 2) double-physician family.

She didn't say most families in Bethesda. She said most families in her neighborhood in Bethesda. That's very believable to me because it's true in my neighborhood in Bethesda also. And I'm part of a two fed family living in Bethesda, soooo.

Yes. We left the private sector because the money-grubbing and back-stabbing was soul-killing. Lived responsibly while we were making good private sector salaries, now we are a one fed, one stay-at-home family in Bethesda. I drive a beater car and live in a modest house...been here less than 5 years. Many of our neighbors are fed-fed, fed-teacher, fed-something else, scientists, tech people, and self-employed. Some retired. There are a few biglaw lawyers, but I am struggling to think of any doctors. Normal folk, down-to-earth. More nerdy than glitzy. I'm sure there are fancier places in Bethesda, just as there are fancier places in DC, so why the broad-brush tarring of everyone who lives in a W cluster as snobby? If you take the time to look past the stereotypes, you'd probably be pleasantly surprised.

It's just like anything. The bad apple spoils the bunch. In Bethesda there are way too many bad apples.

Also, living inside the situation, you have probably become immune to the culture there. It is hard to consider your experience a reliable source.

Well, believe what you want then, and don't move here. I'd rather not have neighbors who are looking to believe the worst about me without bothering to get to know me.