If you've cut off a sibling, do you have any contact/relationship with their children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says something like "I can't be a part of their rollercoaster anymore" seems to love to create drama. Can't you see that, OP? If you truly don't want to be a part of the "rollercoaster" then don't contact his kids -- they are part of him.

Why do you keep suggesting that OP's sibling is a HIM? They mentioned the sibling was a "her." You sound like you're doing some weird projecting, maybe about your DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says something like "I can't be a part of their rollercoaster anymore" seems to love to create drama. Can't you see that, OP? If you truly don't want to be a part of the "rollercoaster" then don't contact his kids -- they are part of him.

Why do you keep suggesting that OP's sibling is a HIM? They mentioned the sibling was a "her." You sound like you're doing some weird projecting, maybe about your DH?

Because this was said:

My brother is cutting contact with us. I believe he's mentally ill, and has had one diagnosis of bipolar disorder (although that is hard for me to believe).

And other posts mentioned OP's feelings about the bipolar diagnosis.

Thanks for your projections about my 'DH' -- I don't have one. Can you point out where the sibling was a her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says something like "I can't be a part of their rollercoaster anymore" seems to love to create drama. Can't you see that, OP? If you truly don't want to be a part of the "rollercoaster" then don't contact his kids -- they are part of him.

Why do you keep suggesting that OP's sibling is a HIM? They mentioned the sibling was a "her." You sound like you're doing some weird projecting, maybe about your DH?

Because this was said:

My brother is cutting contact with us. I believe he's mentally ill, and has had one diagnosis of bipolar disorder (although that is hard for me to believe).

And other posts mentioned OP's feelings about the bipolar diagnosis.

Thanks for your projections about my 'DH' -- I don't have one. Can you point out where the sibling was a her?

Calm down, Nelly.

OP's follow-up is at 7:32. You seem to be referencing a response to OP, not the OP themself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says something like "I can't be a part of their rollercoaster anymore" seems to love to create drama. Can't you see that, OP? If you truly don't want to be a part of the "rollercoaster" then don't contact his kids -- they are part of him.

Why do you keep suggesting that OP's sibling is a HIM? They mentioned the sibling was a "her." You sound like you're doing some weird projecting, maybe about your DH?

Because this was said:

My brother is cutting contact with us. I believe he's mentally ill, and has had one diagnosis of bipolar disorder (although that is hard for me to believe).

And other posts mentioned OP's feelings about the bipolar diagnosis.

Thanks for your projections about my 'DH' -- I don't have one. Can you point out where the sibling was a her?

Calm down, Nelly.

OP's follow-up is at 7:32. You seem to be referencing a response to OP, not the OP themself.

FYI it appears OP is the one doing the cutting off, not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't really have a "relationship" with minor kids without having one with the parent. You can keep acknowledging special occasions, which is nice of you, and hope that they get whatever you send. When they are adults, they can decide whether they want to have a relationship with you or not.

I agree. I've watched a friend go through this, and it's hard, but when it is important enough to completely cut off the relationship with the parents, the relationship with the child is going to be a casualty of that.

[Anonymous]

You don't get to have a relationship some one's kids without their permission and it's pretty unlikely your brother would give permission while you're refusing to speak to him, ignoring his efforts to reach out, etc. I would be pretty pissed to be on the other side of the dynamic you describe.

If you want a relationship with your nieces and nephews, you have to at least be on speaking terms - give a polite "hello, happy holidays" at Christmas, text "happy birthday", that type of thing. You don't have to open up about what's going on in your life, personal stuff. You can walk away when he starts drama, but if you won't even reply to a simple email, then your brother would be totally normal for not welcoming your contact with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says something like "I can't be a part of their rollercoaster anymore" seems to love to create drama. Can't you see that, OP? If you truly don't want to be a part of the "rollercoaster" then don't contact his kids -- they are part of him.

Why do you keep suggesting that OP's sibling is a HIM? They mentioned the sibling was a "her." You sound like you're doing some weird projecting, maybe about your DH?

Because this was said:

My brother is cutting contact with us. I believe he's mentally ill, and has had one diagnosis of bipolar disorder (although that is hard for me to believe).

And other posts mentioned OP's feelings about the bipolar diagnosis.

Thanks for your projections about my 'DH' -- I don't have one. Can you point out where the sibling was a her?

You are quoting me and I'm not the OP. OP used the possessive pronoun "her" in one instance.