Wife won't follow lead

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I'm a wife who has tendencies to lead, and I totally understand. With ballroom the man leads. So you have to learn to lead. She has to learn to follow. If she isn't willing to learn to follow there is no point to taking a class. Yes you are going to make mistakes but that's why you are learning.


This. While I agree you handled it poorly, she was behaving poorly. Two wrongs and such...

That said, I might also be a bad dancer, but I'd never let the woman lead and twirl me around. Seems like it's only ok to embarrass you publicly...
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is DCUM where getting humiliated by your wife in public doesn't matter. Then again if you took THE car and left her stranded that isn't cool at all.


I see I'm not the only one who sees this. LOL.
Anonymous
I hate, hate, hate learning to dance when the man is a weak lead. It's disorienting and I'm completely unable to focus on learning the basics myself. My DH thinks I don't like dancing. Truth is, he's terrible and I don't want to hurt his feelings. And, I don't want to turn something romantic and fun into a fight. Dancing is fraught and I'm not surprised spouses bicker about it. You're taking risks and getting out of your comfort done in public. Not surprising each person would want to fe in control. It's natural. You and your wife should realize you're not one in this and have a good laugh.
Anonymous
It sounds like you didn't know what you were doing and she was tired of waiting for you to figure it out. Throwing a hissy fit and leaving when you didn't get your way is super mature. Hope you used that extra time to practice your moves.
Anonymous
Sorry. I disagree with the women who think you should be twirled and publicly so. I'd rather never dance again than be treated as "the woman" in a particular style of dance.

It's a giant mind fuck when they say, "Be a man and get twirled." LOL
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you didn't know what you were doing and she was tired of waiting for you to figure it out. Throwing a hissy fit and leaving when you didn't get your way is super mature. Hope you used that extra time to practice your moves.

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OP is clearly PMSing, I am not surprised his wife took the lead.
Anonymous
OP, apparently you're being a bitch for not being the bitch. Don't expect many to be on your side in this forum. Sadly.
Anonymous
Yes, you're a jerk. Learning to dance is hard.
Anonymous
Get dipped and twirled like a good emasculated boy.
Anonymous
You should ask the instructor to switch partners. Even if your wife is managing the steps better than you, her taking the lead doesn't make for good salsa dancing. You need to learn to lead well and she needs to learn to follow. She wouldn't pull that crap with someone else. You are better off partnering with other people.

I've been salsa dancing my whole life. If a woman is competent, she can dance with anybody, even a weak lead, without making him feel like a fool. On the other hand a weak lead shouldn't get too upset if his partner occasionally and subtly hints a lead. But a woman can do that without taking over completely. Good partner dancing is really a conversation and the man leading needs to be able to be responsive and a bit adaptable too.
Anonymous
You are not a natural leader and your wife is, and you both know that. That's why you guys are having problems. Switch partners.
Anonymous
OP here. My wife is very bossy and would walk all over me if I let her. So some of that was probably what had me on edge.

This was our first lesson and we were literally less than 5 minutes into the lesson when she decided she had to be the one to lead.

I guess a better move might have been to switch partners.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My wife is very bossy and would walk all over me if I let her. So some of that was probably what had me on edge.

This was our first lesson and we were literally less than 5 minutes into the lesson when she decided she had to be the one to lead.

I guess a better move might have been to switch partners.


Well, then she was being an impatient jerk, but you shouldn't have walked away.
Anonymous
Are you the popcorn guy?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Well, then she was being an impatient jerk, but you shouldn't have walked away.


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