is frequent moving bad for the kids?

[Anonymous]

Well I don't think it's bad to move so much if you're only in a five-mile radius.

Your kids can still see their friends and are probably going to the same schools...

[Anonymous]

OP, my mom was an irresponsible mom who moved us around a ton. I was not unhappy because we moved so much -- I was unhappy because my mom led a life of instability and didn't think twice about the effect her moves would have on me.

OP, if you are careful to consider your child's feelings (and it sounds like you are since you were concerned enough to post here and have kept the moves near a close-in range) I think you'll be just fine. Children get stability from their parents, first, and then their communities.

Good luck with the move. It's a great idea if it will help you reach a longer term goal of buying, but even if it takes you a while and a few more moves to get there, keep putting making your children's needs chief among your priorities and you'll all be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of the supposed "facts" people are claiming on how difficult moves can be, it is astounding that people who are sharing their experiences as a military child or as a child who moved a lot all seem to think that they turned out well and even better for it.

I think all of this anxiety and control ridden parenting is really the immenent danger.

I think everyone is trying to be supportive of the OP and the bottom line is if you have to move for financial reasons there really isn't too much choice to the matter. I also think with any of these parenting decisions - there isn't any one thing that makes or breaks the situation. Whether you red shirt your child or move them ahead when they miss the cutoff (both hot debate items on DCUM), or co-sleep or don't co-sleep etc., stay at home with the kids versus or working outside the home, the only thing people I've found most people can agree on (and not even 100% on DCUM) is that a parent's infidelity can cause untold pain in their child's relationships and if possible you want to give your children stability. But you can also argue that people with the most messed up family situations can still turn out okay and as far as I know there is nothing that has the magic answer of why.

So as for anxiety and control ridden parenting - maybe that is part of how we seem well adjusted. I want to feel like I can control something - by researching and making a decision on it - rather than feeling everything is out of control. Or maybe the lack of stability growing up and all the things I couldn't control like a parent's infidelity, and divorce, and moving around - now with my own family I can do things the way I would have wanted them done for me if I had a choice.