Is there a kind of "DCUM" for poor people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the things I like about DCUM is that the contributors come from all walks of life. You probably make a lot less than I do, but that doesn't mean I don't want to read what you have to say about a particular topic. In other words, I don't judge somebody's comment based on their perceived wealth.

I grew up poor, like food-stamp poor. I'm doing well now, which means that most of the people I hang around with are high earners like me. I guess that I don't have any "poor" friends. I wish I did because I could use the perspective every once in a while.

Humble brag - if it would not have been so pathetic it would have been hilarious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Lol you are so right about the "outsource it" advice. If I could afford to outsource everything I probably wouldn't be asking for advice, now would I!?

Or my favorites: "Why not move closer to work?" or "Why not find a job closer to home?"

For a certain segment of forum posters, both great jobs and affordable housing seem to grow on trees.

For the mother trying to decide if she should keep her part-time $100k job or stay home, I think either question is fair game.

...and that "problem" was exemplary of the types of threads that inspired the OP to start this one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Lol you are so right about the "outsource it" advice. If I could afford to outsource everything I probably wouldn't be asking for advice, now would I!?

Or my favorites: "Why not move closer to work?" or "Why not find a job closer to home?"

For a certain segment of forum posters, both great jobs and affordable housing seem to grow on trees.

For the mother trying to decide if she should keep her part-time $100k job or stay home, I think either question is fair game.

...and that "problem" was exemplary of the types of threads that inspired the OP to start this one.

Okay, I'm a 'poor' but it doesn't mean I don't understand why others who are financially well off ask for advice, even if the question is out of my economic 'level.'

[Anonymous]

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But if you don't like your ILs and you can't afford a hotel (or can but then the visit would be 3 days instead of 7) then isn't that a win-win situation?

it could be, depnding on your family dynamic.

I actually like my ILs, but they currently have my BIL living there with his children. I wish I COULD afford a hotel to escape that nonsense, but after the insane cost of just getting there, we can't afford another couple thousand for hotel and car rental. My husband refuses to go for less than a week, and he isn't as annoyed by the situation as I am. But me not coming makes me look like a bitch, so I go and I suffer.

This year, I'm off the hook because we're having a baby, but he's going and taking our older daughter. Next time, if BIL is still there, we've been invited to stay at his cousin's place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Like the post about reclining airline seats where people posted that if someone crunched your knees, it was your fault for not buying a seat in Economy Plus or Business Class.

I posted something similar. Shrug. Economy is a cattle car. If that's what you can afford, great.

You're might pleased with yourself.

Seriously now, what advice should be given? I don't fly much, myself, but I would expect to be considerably less comfortable in Economy than in Business Class. If you can't or don't want to afford Business Class, what practical advice can anyone offer?

[Anonymous]

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But if you don't like your ILs and you can't afford a hotel (or can but then the visit would be 3 days instead of 7) then isn't that a win-win situation?

it could be, depnding on your family dynamic.

I actually like my ILs, but they currently have my BIL living there with his children. I wish I COULD afford a hotel to escape that nonsense, but after the insane cost of just getting there, we can't afford another couple thousand for hotel and car rental. My husband refuses to go for less than a week, and he isn't as annoyed by the situation as I am. But me not coming makes me look like a bitch, so I go and I suffer.

This year, I'm off the hook because we're having a baby, but he's going and taking our older daughter. Next time, if BIL is still there, we've been invited to stay at his cousin's place.

Ask your ILs to visit you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Like the post about reclining airline seats where people posted that if someone crunched your knees, it was your fault for not buying a seat in Economy Plus or Business Class.

I posted something similar. Shrug. Economy is a cattle car. If that's what you can afford, great.

yeah, $600 per person to get to TX. Pocket change.

How much more is economy plus or business class? That's the issue, not how much it is for economy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Lol you are so right about the "outsource it" advice. If I could afford to outsource everything I probably wouldn't be asking for advice, now would I!?

Or my favorites: "Why not move closer to work?" or "Why not find a job closer to home?"

For a certain segment of forum posters, both great jobs and affordable housing seem to grow on trees.

Well now again, if moving closer to work, or working closer to home, are not options, what advice do you expect posters, rich or poor, to offer you to manage your quality of life issues?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Lol you are so right about the "outsource it" advice. If I could afford to outsource everything I probably wouldn't be asking for advice, now would I!?

Or my favorites: "Why not move closer to work?" or "Why not find a job closer to home?"

For a certain segment of forum posters, both great jobs and affordable housing seem to grow on trees.

For the mother trying to decide if she should keep her part-time $100k job or stay home, I think either question is fair game.

...and that "problem" was exemplary of the types of threads that inspired the OP to start this one.

For poor people, they have to suck it up and keep working. That mother did not. In other words, she has a real life question with no clear answer. If you're poor, isn't the answer usually very clear?

[Anonymous]

HAHA. You found it. Half these people are making it up.

[ChuckMurphy]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe we can just get a forum called The Poors on here!

Seriously? That's just inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Like the post about reclining airline seats where people posted that if someone crunched your knees, it was your fault for not buying a seat in Economy Plus or Business Class.

I posted something similar. Shrug. Economy is a cattle car. If that's what you can afford, great.

yeah, $600 per person to get to TX. Pocket change.

It's no big secret your legs are going to get cramped. You are aware of that before purchasing the ticket. Don't expect the person in front of you to care because they paid just as much as you for their seat.

What advice do you want for your crunched knees? Oh that's right, you just want others to suffer for your comfort. Take it up with the airlines.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:other than the money and finance board and the real estate board, why does the SES of posters make a difference?

Just curious.

Because if I want a stroller recommendation or restaurant recommendation, or travel tips, it matters. If I complain about visiting the inlaws and I'm told to get a hotel, I can't afford it. If I have questions about anything and am told to hire a professional, I can't because I have 2 kids and am in grad school. I am very often given expensive advice around here. (Np)

Like the post about reclining airline seats where people posted that if someone crunched your knees, it was your fault for not buying a seat in Economy Plus or Business Class.

I posted something similar. Shrug. Economy is a cattle car. If that's what you can afford, great.

yeah, $600 per person to get to TX. Pocket change.

It's no big secret your legs are going to get cramped. You are aware of that before purchasing the ticket. Don't expect the person in front of you to care because they paid just as much as you for their seat.

What advice do you want for your crunched knees? Oh that's right, you just want others to suffer for your comfort. Take it up with the airlines.

I wasn't the one complaining about knee space, actually. Another extra couple hundred just isn't in our budget was my point.

Airlines are cramming as many people into a small space as they can and Nicole and dime you on everything these days. So, 10 years ago, $600 would have gotten our whole family there in slightly more spacious seats and no charge for bags or snacks. It's a totally different ball game these days and people's incomes haven't increased to make any of it worth it.

We can't vacation otherwise because of this

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

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Ask your ILs to visit you.

It's complicated. They do try to come once a year, but BIL and his kids can't make it (he can barely afford to feed them) and none of the other family would come either (aunts, uncles, cousins).

We have to suck it up and spend any extra money of ours for that reason.