Invitation somehow an insult

[Anonymous]

OP, your parents are toxic. With your husband, I have learned that people who grew up in normal or near-normal family situations have a very hard time understanding that a toxic family is not going to "gather round" the grandchildren or somehow come together in some way for the good of the kids for a weekend. They just don't get how very, very bad it can be and how damaging spending time together is, to the point of making you physically ill.

You need to cut this off. It's not going to ever work, ever. Send them a holiday card once a year and otherwise forget them.

[Anonymous]

My awful parents have never met my children. I invited them since our basement will be vacant for a few months. She doesn't work and neither does my dad. They've never met my youngest (1 year old), despite being invited numerous times. My mom deemed this invite as an insult because she has occupational therapy for a minor outpatient procedure once a month. She sent crazy photos of her hand (she had carpal tunnel surgery) and then said that I "wouldn't understand since I've never had surgery" (I guess c sections don't count?). They're young (50s) and have the financial resources to come, but I offered to pay for their tickets too. My dad is more than capable of rolling a suitcase along for my mom if she doesn't feel comfortable using her other hand.

My parents seem to discover new lows every single time. By the way, they don't live far away (they can drive) or they can take a quick flight. they've never visited my house once, and the many times I've come to them they've done something horrible like break into my email account on my phone, or ask my older children how often we fight and how much money we make etc.

Why do I want them to come? I don't. But my husband really thinks its unfair to not have my kids know their grandparents. Sorry for the vent.


This sounds like a sitcom.

Sounds like a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your parents are toxic. With your husband, I have learned that people who grew up in normal or near-normal family situations have a very hard time understanding that a toxic family is not going to "gather round" the grandchildren or somehow come together in some way for the good of the kids for a weekend. They just don't get how very, very bad it can be and how damaging spending time together is, to the point of making you physically ill.

You need to cut this off. It's not going to ever work, ever. Send them a holiday card once a year and otherwise forget them.

Yes!!! I always feel so sick when I have seen them. I told my husband no more. Thanks

Op