Feeling misunderstood for my career and academic achievements

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone is saying that's impossible for young men to have a good time dating in their 20s. It's just that women are in their prime at that age, while men are. Young men often have numerous experiences of being rejected in those years, often due to a lack of money and social status, something that women don't have a lot of direct experience with.

As we get older, the tables are turned, but there is often a sense "oh... So NOW you're interested... Now that you've exhausted all of your other options, you're going to settle by flirting with me and expect me to chase you like you are some young ingenue."

Some men handle this more gracefully than others.

[Anonymous]

Correction: "men are NOT"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone is saying that's impossible for young men to have a good time dating in their 20s. It's just that women are in their prime at that age, while men are. Young men often have numerous experiences of being rejected in those years, often due to a lack of money and social status, something that women don't have a lot of direct experience with.

As we get older, the tables are turned, but there is often a sense "oh... So NOW you're interested... Now that you've exhausted all of your other options, you're going to settle by flirting with me and expect me to chase you like you are some young ingenue."

Couldn't have said it better myself. Which makes pumping and dumping these broads so fulfilling. They're looking for the brass ring and the contract. I just discard of them like used rubbers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attractive, accomplished women in their twenties can be quite cruel towards men they don't perceive as "worthy". As a result for many men, their twenties are a terrible time for dating. Think back on the guys you were having fun with as you were climbing the corporate ladder, and I'm willing to bet that it is a very different sort of guy than the one you are interested in now. Successful men often find that this dynamic shifts in their thirties, and suddenly women who wouldn't give them the time of day, are lining up to date them. People in general can only take so much rejection before they become bitter. I'm not condoning this behavior, but that's your explanation in a nut shell.

Really? Guys in their 20s are frequently assholes, IME. It's like their presence is some sort of favor.

OP, I don't know a lot of angry 40 somethings. They're settled in a way that 20s-30s are not. What kind of anger are you dealing with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone is saying that's impossible for young men to have a good time dating in their 20s. It's just that women are in their prime at that age, while men are. Young men often have numerous experiences of being rejected in those years, often due to a lack of money and social status, something that women don't have a lot of direct experience with.

As we get older, the tables are turned, but there is often a sense "oh... So NOW you're interested... Now that you've exhausted all of your other options, you're going to settle by flirting with me and expect me to chase you like you are some young ingenue."

Couldn't have said it better myself. Which makes pumping and dumping these broads so fulfilling. They're looking for the brass ring and the contract. I just discard of them like used rubbers.

^^ Exhibit A on asshole behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attractive, accomplished women in their twenties can be quite cruel towards men they don't perceive as "worthy". As a result for many men, their twenties are a terrible time for dating. Think back on the guys you were having fun with as you were climbing the corporate ladder, and I'm willing to bet that it is a very different sort of guy than the one you are interested in now. Successful men often find that this dynamic shifts in their thirties, and suddenly women who wouldn't give them the time of day, are lining up to date them. People in general can only take so much rejection before they become bitter. I'm not condoning this behavior, but that's your explanation in a nut shell.

Really? Guys in their 20s are frequently assholes, IME. It's like their presence is some sort of favor.

OP, I don't know a lot of angry 40 somethings. They're settled in a way that 20s-30s are not. What kind of anger are you dealing with?

Interestingly, my initial reaction to this is to say that it's the " trophy men" that act like this. There are plenty of more humble young men at this age. It seems to mirror one of the previous comments, from a male perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

^^ Exhibit A on asshole behavior

Nice guys finish last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no reason you can't have kids in your early 40s, especially in this area.

Uh hello? Down Syndrome, disabilities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

^^ Exhibit A on asshole behavior

Nice guys finish last.

I think that's something assholes say to make themselves feel better about being assholes. My guy is good through and through and I adore him. If you spend your life playing games, don't you worry about dying alone?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone is saying that's impossible for young men to have a good time dating in their 20s. It's just that women are in their prime at that age, while men are. Young men often have numerous experiences of being rejected in those years, often due to a lack of money and social status, something that women don't have a lot of direct experience with.

As we get older, the tables are turned, but there is often a sense "oh... So NOW you're interested... Now that you've exhausted all of your other options, you're going to settle by flirting with me and expect me to chase you like you are some young ingenue."

Couldn't have said it better myself. Which makes pumping and dumping these broads so fulfilling. They're looking for the brass ring and the contract. I just discard of them like used rubbers.

In theory, right? In reality, you're still experiencing rejection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attractive, accomplished women in their twenties can be quite cruel towards men they don't perceive as "worthy". As a result for many men, their twenties are a terrible time for dating. Think back on the guys you were having fun with as you were climbing the corporate ladder, and I'm willing to bet that it is a very different sort of guy than the one you are interested in now. Successful men often find that this dynamic shifts in their thirties, and suddenly women who wouldn't give them the time of day, are lining up to date them. People in general can only take so much rejection before they become bitter. I'm not condoning this behavior, but that's your explanation in a nut shell.

Really? Guys in their 20s are frequently assholes, IME. It's like their presence is some sort of favor.

OP, I don't know a lot of angry 40 somethings. They're settled in a way that 20s-30s are not. What kind of anger are you dealing with?

Interestingly, my initial reaction to this is to say that it's the " trophy men" that act like this. There are plenty of more humble young men at this age. It seems to mirror one of the previous comments, from a male perspective.

I'm the PP who mentioned trophy women and I agree. There are assholes and sweethearts of all ages.