Family estrangements

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious to the many posters. Do any of you get grief from other friends/family about the cut off? If so, how to handle? A lot of my friends and family, who don't know specifics and won't since I don't gossip, feel they can weigh in on my mom. Things like "this is so sad for her" "We are so worried about her"--this sort of thing. She is fine. I have now distanced myself from my very hometown. Frustrating.

I am estranged from my brother. He is a gossiper, and runs to others, including other family members, complaining about me, not telling the truth or the whole story, and conveniently leaving out all his lies, manipulations, and what I consider abusive behavior.

I simply do not discuss with others. I tell them that what's best for me, is to not have any relationship with him whatsoever, and that's that. I ignore & tune out conversation about him. I refuse to gossip and run to others - my confidence in my decision is sufficient. I hope that in time, people will come to respect that. If they don't, then I probably wasn't a very valuable person to them in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes and like PP mentioned it goes in cycles. My father during teen years. Mother during college. My sister multiple times through the years. Just a lot lf sadness and hurt and dysfunction.

Maybe it's you?

Oh, I am sure I played my part in it. My upbringing was abusive and we all have scars.

Thanks for being a jerk, though.

[Anonymous]

My father since 2010. However, this is a man who skipped his son's high school graduation, his daughter's wedding, and has not yet acknowledged the birth of his grandson.

No loss for me. The man cares only about money.

[Anonymous]

My father since 2005. He left my mom for someone that is the age of my sister so he could have the family he has always wanted. Feels that we should all still pay him respect and give him money. I want nothing to do with him and it's been no loss. He mostly just wants money from me and because I don't give it, he is mad at me.

[Anonymous]

If I don't have to, I wouldn't speak to my sister. My every interaction with her is never positive. Sadly, our daughter (1) loves to play with my son (5). I don't even want to see her which is sad because she lives with my parents and my parents would like to see me and my son sometime.

If she wasn't related to me, she would not be a friend of choice.