Wedding etiquette question - skipping mass and going to reception only?
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Anonymous
| If you don't go, send an extra special gift, like a really stand out awesome gift. |
Anonymous
| How many people are attending? If there are enough folks, they'll never know you missed it. I would not tell anyone that you skipped it. I think the vast majority of people would think it weird and rude. |
Anonymous
| Interesting. I didn't grow up in the western culture of weddings. I thought it was common for people to skip ceremonies and attend the reception. The few american weddings I've been to, i felt that there were more people at the reception than the ceremony. For my wedding, which was regular american style, the ceremony was definitely more intimate and smaller than the reception. |
Anonymous
Totally agree. - another atheist and former Catholic |
Anonymous
| Dude, it is one hour of your life. If your time is that precious you are probably better off staying at home where you don't have to interact with anyone. |
Anonymous
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What do you mean by "incredibly painful"? Were you abused by a priest? Are you not yet over the soul-wrenching existential crisis of faith that made you leave the Church? Are you crushed because you're a woman and they won't let you join the priesthood?
If one of the above, skip the Mass and don't tell anyone. No one will notice. And you've no doubt worked out your good deflecting comments if necessary. If it's not one of the above, and you really meant "incredible PITA," suck it up. You know that already. |
Anonymous
| We skipped a ceremony once, but it was because the ceremony was at noon in DC, the reception started at 6 in VA, and we live in MD with young children who weren't invited. I was not getting a babysitter for 13 hours, and if they wanted everyone to attend both, they wouldn't have scheduled the day that way. |
Anonymous
| I'm surprised to say this wouldn't bother me, unless it was a close family member or friend. |