Wedding etiquette question - skipping mass and going to reception only?

[Anonymous]

Huh. I had a wedding mass and I would have had no idea who was and was not there. I don't really think I would care all that much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. That's incredibly rude. The reception is for wedding guests.

+1

[Anonymous]

The reception is the reward for sitting through the ceremony. You don't do your duty, you don't get the party.

[Anonymous]

Guessing this is a convalidation and not a vow renewal.

[Anonymous]

That would be unacceptable. The mass is the SERVICE, it's the wedding ceremony. You don't just go to the party. Sometimes being a grownup sucks, but this day is not about you.

[Anonymous]

You have to get through the boring stuff to get to the fun stuff.

Grow up, OP. You can do this.

[Anonymous]

As an Italian who's sat through 3-hour wedding masses, SKIP IT! They will never notice.

The WASPs of DCUM don't seem to know much about painfully long wedding masses.

[Anonymous]

The ceremony is about the couple. The party is to celebrate that ceremony. Things are not all about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an Italian who's sat through 3-hour wedding masses, SKIP IT! They will never notice.

The WASPs of DCUM don't seem to know much about painfully long wedding masses.

I'm Italian Catholic, our wedding mass was an hour, and OP is rude.

[Anonymous]

I grew up Catholic. Only family and close friends attended the wedding mass. This was a common practice and couples were fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Wait until you hit your first Greek, Serbian, Croatian, Russian orthodox wedding! Three hours but at least they included the crowns on the heads and the walks around the altar.

[Anonymous]

Don't tell anyone that you aren't going to the ceremony. If you're asking here, I sure hope you aren't asking your friends and family what they think. That would be a big mistake.

If it's not known, I won't go if you don't want to. You won't be missed, I'm guessing unless it's a very small event. Even so, something could have come up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of friend are you? And what kind of person even asks a question like this?

Your friend is getting MARRIED. Most people consider this one of the most special days of their lives, and they often wish to share it with people who matter to them. If you cannot be bothered to watch them exchange vows, you should decline the invitation and skip the reception.

As to the PP who suggested asking the couple, if I were the bride and you asked me that question, our friendship would be over.

Because that would not be overreacting AT ALL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up Catholic. Only family and close friends attended the wedding mass. This was a common practice and couples were fine with it.

+1

Especially if there is the "Catholic gap"!

Nobody is even going to notice, OP.

[Anonymous]

Totally rude and disrespectful. Suck it up and go to the mass.

Signed,
Atheist and former Catholic